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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Nov 18 - 24)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! I hope you're all enjoying the last few weeks of November. To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What is your favorite fall comfort food? * This or that! Cinnamon rolls or snickerdoodles?  Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81
New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInNov1824_340708/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @determinedHuman6138 @delicateVision3519 @helpfulJar5066 @Volkswagen97 @Sleepingsnail427022 @jessihazel @andrewtan99 @tidyLand6622 @indigoChestnut8502 @sloven86 @Letstalk7 @limegreenPenguin1163 @ShamrockViking @creativeFig154 @warmheartedPenguin281 @KevinRodriguez @NiceThinker @neatmarii4ta @turquoisePond5890 @proactiveDrum6829 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 11.11.24
Relationship Support Group Sessions Schedule
by KatePersephone
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Hello everyone! 💜 This forum thread has been created so that the team can share with all of you the month's group support sessions within the Relationship Stress Community!  "Please do not post in this thread! Thank you" Discussions held in the Relationship Support room for the month of November: Sunday, November 3 Icebreakers  with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (adult side) Sunday, November 3 Icebreakers  with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Sunday, November 10 Introversion & Relationships with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (adult side) Sunday, November 10 Introversion & Relationships with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Saturday, November 16 Relationships and Online Dating  with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (adult side) Saturday, November 16 Role of Friendships in Our Lives with KatePersephone at 1:00pm ET (teen side) Adult pop-up: Conflict Resolution with KatePersephone  Teen pop-up: Conflict Resolution with KatePersephone  ------------------------- click here [https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html] to convert the time of the sessions to your timezone! Please subscribe so you can be the first one to receive updates on the sessions! ❣️ ------------------------- tagging the community in case they want to receive chatroom discussion updates: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @Helpingheart23 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger ------------------------- Interested in hosting 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Narcissistic trauma bond
by blackbirdie2023
Last post
 38 minutes ago
...See more For a year and a half I’ve dealt with this but only realized I was dealing with it the last time I was discarded which was almost a week ago. I know what he is and I still miss him. I still try to reach out through email because he has blocked me on iMessage. He’s “punishing” me because I wasn’t acting the way he wanted me to. I don’t know how to let go or what to do. I feel incredibly sad and lost and filled with grief. So here I am. Asking for help or someone to talk to. If there’s anyone who can relate I’d love to talk. Or listen to any advice. It’s much appreciated.
Forgiveness
by neatmarii4ta
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hey everyone I am new to 7 cups and I decided this would be my best option to discuss my love life issues and get the support I need. For the past few months my bf has made a mistake that had made me have a whole new perspective of him and changed our relationship completely. I recently am starting to forgive him because I don’t want to see him as a bad person because of mistakes he has done and I know there’s improvement to him and our relationship. Currently it’s really hard just trusting him but I’m learning to forgive him and make sure our relationship can be stronger from mistakes. Its really hard to keep myself not lashing out on him and pick at little things and self sabotaging myself.
Hurt and unsure what to do (please reply) 💗
by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Before i start im sorry its long, and confusing but its certainly loads of drama so please read! Some context: in august i broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years (we broke up twice though between them) and i made this decision because i cannot marry him and he kept talking about marriage. (i promise it was for his own good) Code names: Orange = Ex, Blue = Guy best friend, Yellow = female friend, Pink = female friend 2, Purple = female friend 3 A month after the breakup, i went to a friends birthday party, and over there i was talking to a guy, and he kisses me, i pull away and i say “I'm sorry i cant orange is here”, and everyone started realising what just happened. Long story short, orange was in tears with blue, purple and yellow in a room.They wouldn't let me in to explain myself, around 45 minutes after purple and yellow come out to talk to me after everyone telling them to, i explained myself, and they said i dont understand the consequences of my actions. Purple told everyone that i was smirking while talking to them. Yellow said that i wasnt. Blue refused to talk to me. More context: Purple has been quite flirty with orange for a while when we dated Continuing, Purple started crying saying i dont know what hes been through and this and that, and that ive done a horrible thing. She heard me but she didnt HEAR me if you get me. Although most people were on my side, i was still sobbing because i had kind of lost the 5 people i loved the most out of everyone. I understand why it is wrong, which is why i didnt want to do it but either way, I. AM. SINGLE. After the party, i didnt talk to purple and yellow at all, but i texted blue. Blue has been my best friend since 2019, Hes also friends with orange. Mid august, blue would flirt with me, and i would do it back. He invited me over to his house the saturday (the party incident was on the friday) (i was very hesitant as i love orange and id feel bad, but still it was mutual) I texted him saying, “if i dont have the courage to kiss you, why would i kiss that guy” and he said that he doesnt trust me anymore and he cant believe i did that to orange. I left him on seen. (HYPOCRITE!) Yellow texts me with an apology and saying its hard not texting me and shes sorry about what happened at the party but she felt like she had to help orange in the moment. I accepted the alology. Purple texts me with a very PASSIVE apology. Saying that she said i was smirking to “cope with the situation” why would you need to cope when your not even involved!!!!! I did not accept this apology. But i said thank you regardless, and explained what happened again, but she said we need to get “over it”??? A week after that party, (heres where pink comes in) All the colours hung out and posted it on their *** stories. I obviously saw this. After a day of confusion, i texted our group chat (Me, Pink, Purple, and yellow) We have been close friends ever since 2020 as we had been in classes together repeatedly. VERY CLOSE. But recently not as. I told them that it hurt me, that i dont mind if your friends but its weird hanging out with my ex, and that i thought their loyalties would lie with me. (I introduced them to my ex mid 2022). Yellow apologised immediately, and my other friends told me that she thought it was wrong and doubting going. Whereas, Pink and Purple kept saying “why would we invite you thats awkward” and i said i dont expect an invite or want one, i just think its weird. They then proceeded to say that it really isnt that deep, i cant control who they go out with, im embarrassing and to get over it. I genuinely genuinely sent a nice message and was talking in a nice way. I just thought they would care about my feelings but clearly they care about hanging out with boys more. Ever since then, they kept hanging out, they didnt care at all. But they made a NEW groupchat without yellow in it just because she apologised to me. Proves my point about the boys. They knew she wouldn't go anymore but it was extremely rude (she is closer to them than me!) it speaks volumes. This continues but last saturday, We were all at a party of a mutual friend. Blue walks up to me saying he wants to squash the “beef”, i walk away. An hour later he comes back when im drvnk, i hear him out and he apologises and says “i miss you, im sorry i know im in the wrong, i just prioritised orange, and i shouldve been there for you too” i say thank you for the apology, and he says “Can you be cool with purple too?” I definitely can not. Purple was the worst of them all, her treatment to me was horrible. and she continuously flirted with my ex when we dated. (i actually posted about purple on 7cups asking for advice in February 2023!) Either way, i was civil and we had some chat. I also talked to my ex and finally explained myself and we are on good terms. He is the only person i trust, so i told him everything that they have done. He told me that he said it was too soon to hangout, and that he thinks its weird too and doesn't know why yellow was removed (me him yellow and blue used to hangout back in early 2022 as friends) I explained and told him that they’re genuinely bad people but he was saying that he felt like they cared and theyre his only social life. this upsets me so much because they dont deserve orange!!!! When i dated orange they used to *** talk him and call him fat (he wasnt). He knows this but doesn't care and it just annoys me so bad. Do i accept blues apology? What do i do about this if anything! It bothers me so much and i feel guilty over yellow being kicked out. Am i the ***!?
Moving on
by KCB2006
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more hi im a 18 year old boy going through a hard time rn because of a relationship that lasted a year and a half Broke that me mentally and physically in short : we separated ways.  i understand that they have their pwn problems and thats okay i respect their decisions because just like my ex i have my own problems too that i dont want to say to them too but lately ive been feeling so down not because of out relationship going down but because of me i always blame myself for whats happening to me because this is the 3rd time they done this to me 3rd that they caused me pain, this isnt our first break up i would like to move on and get these negative voices out of my head i know that they are not healthy listen to i just want them to stop i want my old self back and myself that isnt full of stress, Regret, depression, and mostly i want my happiness back  i hope you have a good day or night to whoever took the time to read my rant thank you if you leave a suggestion on how to move on or how to focus on myself because im starting on my journey my selfcare journey  Thank you.
10yrs and it’s over now
by raymond1203
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more my ex and i were together for 10 years. we broke up about 8 months ago. my world revolved around her bc i thought it was us forever. so i don’t have any real friends anymore. it’s been a super difficult life changing journey. i started being more friendly with coworkers and it’s been really great. but i rlllly feel alone. i miss having that person.
bf vs boy bsf
by pinkiebutterfly
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I have a long distance boyfriend that I’ve been with for a little over a year now, and I love him, but it doesn’t feel the same as before. I don’t know if my feelings are fading or if this is just how the flow of relationships are, this is my first serious one. I have recently started feeling like I may have a crush on my guy best friend. My other friends recognize this and have asked me about it, but I denied it. They also said that they think he likes me. I value our friendship, and wouldn’t want to ruin it by dating. I also don’t not love my boyfriend, and don’t want to hurt him. Also, me and my boy best friend are seniors in highschool, and I want to go to the same college as him, so I really want to stay friends
break up? or will i regret it?
by calycocat
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more hi all, i've essentially been emotionally tormenting myself over this decision and really need some help im 20, in my junior year of college and i've been dating my boyfriend (also 20) for three years (we met in high school). to put it simply, things are good. he's a perfectly nice boy and has seriously been my safety net during some of my darkest moments. that being said, i feel like im losing feelings for a number of reasons that have sort of piled on top of each other. for starters, i've sort of realized that we have basically nothing in common. im really into nerdy *** like anime, cosplay, kpop, etc etc. he doesnt mind that i like these things but he doesnt enjoy them and doesnt make much of an effort to enjoy them with me. hes more into videogames like rocket league and r6 siege, which i have tried out but cant get into. we just dont ever seem to have anything to go do together, as he prefers to stay in and is the anxious, introverted type. i usually am the one taking the lead and i dont really prefer to be in that position. but i have made it work because i love/loved him. he does do things for me, small things on the daily like picking up takeout for me, grabbing a treat on the way home, which i appreciate so much- but i wish there was more romance involved. once again, i feel like i always end up falling in the decision making role. i dont want to have to be the one to plan dates ALL the time. ive voiced this, wanting to go on dates, dress up, etc, but things have more or less remained the same in my eyes. even with things like political ideas, hes very wishy washy and doesnt care much about social issues. not that he opposes my views, but hes just indifferent. i sort of have to push him to want to vote or care about anything in that realm more importantly, we dont have similar goals. i really want to travel- i would love to move out of the US some day, if possible, and he really wants to stay put. i wouldnt even consider myself the adventurous type, but i just feel like hes very content with a very simple life, and im not so much. i gave up a better university to be close to him, and i really hate it. by no means is he unintelligent, we have different strengths and weaknesses, but i tend to do better in academics. i like to read, i enjoy creative writing. he doesnt. i think that this puts us on different wavelengths a lot of the time. sometimes i just want someone that i can discuss a book with, you know? i hate to word it like this, but i feel like im settling at such a young age and maybe im holding myself back? but then on the other hand, am i really the type to leave a perfectly good boyfriend just to 'find myself' or 'adventure?' i just dont know. i definitely LOVE him, i want the best for him, ive never been closer to anyone- but it doesnt feel like im IN love anymore, and i wonder about my happiness in the long run if i have to keep making sacrifices and settling. ive been in two serious relationships almost back to back, 2 years and 3 years respectively. so the last time i was really single was when i was like 14, and i think that may be part of my restlessness.  but what makes this so incredibly hard for me is that he loves me so so much. i was his first girlfriend and he truly has eyes for no one else; wants to get married and everything. he's always there and i know i can count on him. he truly hasnt done anything WRONG i just dont know if we are going to be compatible in the long run... but i also know im the only one in the relationship thats thinking this. i just feel like im the worst for feeling this way, like im entitled or deserve more than something thats already good. i dont know. maybe i feel like i owe him for not running from my depressive episodes and mental struggles.  the big question is do i end things? i keep telling myself its better to do it early than wait another year and feel really stuck, but i worry about feeling regret. or maybe guilt, moreso. i know im going to be lonely without him- i have a hard time making friends, especially at this university. i depend on him so much but.. would this be a good thing for my independence? maybe it would get me out there. i dont know. i dont want to shatter his heart. i seriously want him to be happy, and i dread having to look im in the eye and tell him these things. i just dont know if i have the strength.
Guilt from a white lie
by astrdrw26
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hey, I was originonally emotionally invested with a coworker at my job. I had set the boundary that I wasn't super certain if I wanted to date a coworker but I committed to going to therapy to figure it out. That put a lot of pressure on me. And for a brief period I said we should be friends. While we were friends I got on dating apps. Matched with someone. I was was planning a date with this new person but I then pulled back from them because I found I still had feelings for my coworker. I told the girl on the app I didn't have the time or the energy. This was the white lie. I wasn't fully honest as to why I didn't have those things. I then hung out with the coworker for a while. Maintaining my boundaries. Being flirty. But it turned out that I had misinterpreted her intentions. I wanted a serious relationship. She wanted friends with benefits. Making us incompatible. After processing this I came back to the girl on the app and we have gone on a few dates but my guilt surrounding what I did makes it difficult to always be present and to be happy with the progress I am making towards my goal of a committed relationship.
Separation. Anyone know how to cope?
by ShamrockViking
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello everyone. I am currently separated from my wife. We are still living in the same home. She barely speaks to me and I've tried everything. She hasn't asked me to leave. We also have 3 kids that are hers. I'm the stepdad. She won't talk to me unless she has to. I've done research on attachment theory and she fits the dismissive avoidant to the letter. I definitely am working on my anxious tendencies. But the lack of talking, especially intimacy is driving me crazy. I miss touch so much. I just miss her. I just don't know what to do. Any advice? 
How to get over insecurity
by friendlyNectarine937
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years now. I just noticed he follows a bunch of *** models that show little to nothing. I decided to have a serious conversation about this because i felt really insecure. He said he followed them because it’s the same reason people watch porn and he forgot he even followed them because it had been forever ago. He also mentioned he had them muted from seeing their posts and stories. I asked him to show me and he wasn’t lying, they were muted. My thing is I still don’t understand why he wouldn’t just unfollow them if they were muted anyways. He kept saying it never crossed his mind and forgot he still followed. I don’t find this is a reason to break up so I’d like to get over this. He said he would unfollow them and he did. But These girls looked nothing like me and I still feel very insecure it’s hard to forget. I now feel like he has a certain image for women and it’s not how my body looks at all. Someone please help me get over this or how I can stop feeling insecure
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...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! I hope you're all enjoying the last few weeks of November. To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What is your favorite fall comfort food? * This or that! Cinnamon rolls or snickerdoodles?  Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! 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Right or Wrong?
by exuberantBlueberry2488
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years (2 breaks in between) because he was talking about marriage and i started feeling guilty as i cannot marry him due to religion. this was august 4th, I told him id like to be friends with him when he moves on. We started texting again after we talked at a party last week. We both know that we wont get back together, but its evident we both still like eachother. Im worried this isnt healthy as we flirt a little. He told me that he doesnt know if its a good or bad thing to be texting me, and im not sure either. Opinions on this please?

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