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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 12th
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur  @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs 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@SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo 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Sex life struggling.
by calmLunch2881
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more I'm struggling with depression for 9Y. 3Y ago it was intensified by postpartum depression. My housband is my first lover, and we are struggling with our sex life for past 9Y. His libido was much higher than mine to start with, but mine is nonexistent at times. This lead to many arguments resulting in compromises where I performed sex activities when I didn't feel like it. That led to me disliking sex, but felt the need to satisfy him. Now I know that the pressure for sex led to me hating the act altogether. My housband had many complaints of my non happy face during sex and me treating it as a chore. 1Y ago I stopped breastfeeding to start different meds (psychotropic) in hopes that they would bring my libido back. Turns out my problems are more complex and ofc that did not work. I'm starting psychotherapy with sexuologist, to cover my dislike for sex. Housband wants a divorce, because in past 2 months I did not bring him to ***. I don't want to hurt my child with divorce and cause him attachment problems. Should I just go back to having sex (including oral)? Maybe a divorce is a good idea? Any ideas for other fix to satisfy my housband? He pushes for divorce on daily basis now and wants me to agree to shared custody, but since I'm the main caregiver to our child I don't agree on that being a good solution.
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I'm only posting because I have to
by Sturmpanzer
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more As Mt title says
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Tell me what I need to hear!
by imofficiallyburnt
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more A Little Backstory: I grew up with separated parents who struggled with drug addiction. As a result, I was placed in the custody of my aunt, who was more of a distant relative and given guardianship over me. This early upheaval contributed to my development of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Throughout my childhood, I faced bullying and drama from both girls and boys, which further complicated my social interactions. Between 8th and 12th grade, I had a few relationships, but they were largely toxic. I graduated high school in 2019 while in a relationship with my boyfriend, Oscar. Our relationship was tumultuous, marked by many ups and downs. Despite the toxicity, I stood by him as he struggled with an addiction to Xanax and infidelity. This experience left me with deep trust issues, insecurity, and a tendency to obsessively worry about him. After nearly three years together, I broke up with Oscar. Our breakup was messy, with him harassing me through numerous emails after I blocked him on everything. I thought that would be the end of it, but around Thanksgiving, I received a text from his sister informing me that he had overdosed on Xanax and passed away. This news sent my emotions into a tailspin, and I turned to alcohol for several months. I withdrew from my family and friends, blaming myself for his death for a long time. After many months of healing and therapy, I met my current boyfriend, Sam, on ***. I was immediately attracted to him but hesitant to enter another relationship. After a few weeks of direct messaging, I found comfort in having someone dependable to talk to and spend time with. At the time, Sam was in college with plans to pursue a career in agriculture. He enjoyed making rap music and skateboarding. As we began dating, he expressed understanding of my needs and reassured me that he would do anything to make me happy, much like others had promised before. Current: Sam and I have been together for over three years now, but we’ve been struggling with his infidelity on and off. I’ve caught him downloading apps to flirt with women around the world, posting inappropriate comments on local Reddit pages, and liking pictures of other women. He even had inappropriate conversations with a family friend with whom he has a history of intimacy. His cheating became so overwhelming that I eventually kicked him out of my house, hoping he would seek therapy and address his issues. After some time apart, I decided to give him another chance and let him move back in. Recently, I discovered that he had been liking a female coworker’s pictures on ***, knowing how uncomfortable and disrespectful I find that. They even had text conversations about my belongings, with him referring to them as if he owned them, without mentioning me at all. It also came to light that he had created a backup Reddit account over a year ago, despite having deleted his previous account after I found inappropriate content on it. Beyond his infidelity, Sam has been cold and disrespectful. Whenever I express my feelings or concerns, he dismisses me as being dramatic or invalidates my emotions. He often takes my car without permission, telling me I can’t go with him, and stays out all night with friends I don’t know, drinking and having fun. I’ve only ever allowed him to use my car for work, but if I voice my discomfort about his outings, he accuses me of being controlling and not letting him have freedom.  Our relationship lacks intimacy and connection. He rarely takes me on dates, buys me gifts, or shares interests with me. He doesn’t compliment me, show me off, or help me with my problems. During intimacy, he doesn’t seem to care about my pleasure. The only things we seem to do together are smoke, eat (whether I cook, or we buy food), and go to bed.  I’ve been hearing a lot from my family that I need to do better and seriously consider breaking up with Sam. Despite this advice, I continually find myself justifying his behavior and how he treats me. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt just for contemplating leaving him, even though deep down, I know I’ll never be truly happy in this relationship. With Christmas approaching, all these conflicting feelings are weighing heavily on me, and I can feel myself spiraling out of control again. My mom suggested that I wait until after the holidays to break up with him, while my sister thinks I should do it before Christmas so we can return his gifts, confident he doesn’t deserve them. I’m at a crossroad and feeling really lost. Any advice on how to navigate this situation?
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Do I deserve the punishing words?
by Tanpopo1000
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more So I may not have the cleanest foundation with my wife however I can confidently say I and we have gotten a long way together in a short amount of time. Tonight I received some harsh words, upsetting things, assumptions, “reminders”. Okay, so tonight I was unable to reply quick enough or pick up a call immediately as I had not known while out playing cards with my friends. Yes, I apologise but do I deserver the added punishment (just) because our trust is not perfect from our early foundation? I think it is a bit iffy to contemplate it but I feel it is off regardless. I am open to a reality check, or reassurance.
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Upcoming holidays
by needlenelly
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more I was wondering how everyone who is recently single is preparing for the holidays. I thought I was pretty ok, also because I have to work at Christmas and new years (I'm a nurse), but it is starting to get a little weird being single and without children now that Christmas is almost there. I was feeling happy buying and making personal gifts for my family and friends, really ok with everything. But now I'm feeling a little sad knowing I'm travelling all by myself at christmas eve to my brother. It's a 2,5 hour drive, then dining with my family, as we do every year. The next day I'm heading back to work again untill january 2th. Normal life again but still the feeling that it's different this time, frustrates me (I broke up with a cheating and lying psychopath after 4 years. Didn't know who he really was untill I found everything out in one day and just got out of the door as quickly as I could) Sorry for this chaotic story, but I'm honestly wondering how to get through these days being happy. I don't want to be in a bad mood when I'm with my family. I'm pretty calm about everything that happened, working through my days a little zombie like. But inside my head a lot happens and my heart still hurts.. Every tip or advice is welcome:)
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Lost all hope and don't know how to move forward ?
by philosophicalAcres3910
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more My ex gf of a 3.6-month living relationship broke up with me in July 2024. What I understand from this is that she has been planning for this for a long time. But it was a sudden bomb for me. 2-3 months post-breakup I was really in a mess and could not able to think straight. Then I started to work on myself, hit the gym, became more focused towards my studies, and started to make new friends. I was trying everything to change myself and become a better version of myself but deep down I was holding hope of getting together with her again. No matter how much I tried I was not able to get rid of this hope because this hope was the only thing that was pushing me to change myself for her. I love her so much that I can do anything for her. After a breakup in July till August 20th we were talking back and forth. She had already blocked me right after a breakup but she used to respond to my missed calls. After the 20th of August, I went into total no contact and started to work on myself in the hope that maybe she would miss me and try to reach out to me but this never happened. Now after almost 6 months post-breakup she hasn't reached out to me but I was still holding on to the hope. As we both go to the same college and it's our last year we cross paths a few times but we don't each other and looking at her I can see she doesn't even care about my presence. As I was in NC I didn't try to stalk her to try to find out what's she doing. But in the last few days, some batchmates of mine told me that she was with a new guy. I haven't seen it with my own eyes but as this information has been given by 2-3 people I know it's true and even my heart can feel that it's true. My heart got shattered and I don't know how to move forward now. I feel like everything I have done during the relationship and even after the breakup, was just a big waste. All the ex-coming-back theories available on the internet are just bogus the art of manifestation its just time waste, true love is nothing. The thought of someone else touching her made me puke last night. If anyone could help me then please guide me. And if something same has happened with you please share your story with me so that i can understand how i should move forward from this. i m M/23 and my ex F/23
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Hi everyone stay strong
by Marylandgirl40
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 22 hours ago
...See more Hi everyone stay strong today your awesome
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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
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 22 hours ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? 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Gf Having Guy Friends
by Kaleb3645
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more Me and my girl have been arguing a lot. I'm trying to accept her having guy friends but I just can't, I overthink every day, we broke up a couple nights ago, she came with me to help me move my stuff, she finally came to her self, I pulled over the truck we hugged it out and got back together that night on the agreement that she removes the guys I don't like, she did, we hangout 3 days later, the guy is back on her ***, I just try to forget about but I can't, it's bothering me throughout work, it's got me constantly checking her activate status, I just hate my head so much...
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I want to leave my bf but I really can’t
by reliableSquare6985
Last post
 23 hours ago
...See more So I’m in a relationship for more than 4 years now we love each other a lot but we are facing so much issues he doesn’t care about me anymore doesn’t show his love never tries make efforts to make me happy recently he also started disrespecting me but he promises me that we’ll have a great future together we are in a long distance relationship since 1st day we didn’t get much time to spend with each other I really want to get over it i want to end this relationship bcoz it’s not working out i trued talking things with him but he doesn’t care idk what to do this stress is affecting my studies and career a lot
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Hi
by Marylandgirl40
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hi everyone I'm just making sure everyone is doing good today and relationships can be stressful but you got to understand it's not easy but it be ok
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Why did I do it?
by MaCara
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi, I need advice and help. I was in a two and a half month relationship, we faught but we where so in love. Or so I thought. I never realized how much I was draining her. We had this big fight that broke us up. For context, she has this besfriend that she used to like, well the girl has a boyfriend. But she likes my gf, well ex gf now, and it bothered me so much. She told me not to worry about it and she wouldn't do anything to hurt me, but ive heard that so many times that trust is just so hard to have in this world. Well my ex ex gf from like a while back, we stayed friends, well she told me that my now ex gf was gonna take her bestfriend to prom instead of me. Now I have issues with controlling my emotions, things I say, and how I react. SO I got mad, didn't think, and we'll called her. We argued about it. Later on after give us about two hours to calm down, I find out she's on the phone with that bestfriend!? But I tried to fix things so quickly. She got even more mad at me. Wouldn't listen. So we just stopped talking and said that we just need to wait for the morning to see what to do. We went to a break for like the first half of that school day, got into my 2nd block class, got a break up message. Now here I am about two or three weeks later, she's been making me so confused. I kissed her even Though we're not dating!! She didn't kiss back but she never stopped me. It's happened so many times now. What's happening. Am I just a toy? I'm confused, this is killing me. It's like I wanna leave, move on, and go back to the me who would've immediately moved on. But I'm

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