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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInJanuary1319_344583/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @dumbledoresleftbigtoe @Blissbabe @meganbaxter7500 @gentleStrings6369 @hazelmae46 @sympatheticWest110 @transcomrade39 @kindShell9449 @Wackyal123 @confusedsunshine @BPDBadee @Feelthemagic @PeacefulWords2025 @Alitttlestrange @Enough23 @purpleBike9420 @xoxotanishkaa @mickeyzac7 @Shamier @tybruh @exuberantTree3674 @gracefulFaith7044 @optimisticScarf4825 @purpleblooom @braveSailRP @Iwnakms @philosophicalCurrent5895 @LostAndUnsure92 @mark0614 @ashen64 @Anel11 @Hejee [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] 
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th, 2024
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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Relationship Support Group Sessions Schedule
by KatePersephone
Last post
 November 14th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone! 💜 This forum thread has been created so that the team can share with all of you the month's group support sessions within the Relationship Stress Community!  "Please do not post in this thread! Thank you" Discussions held in the Relationship Support room for the month of November: Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 5 Conflict Resolution  with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 12 Relationships with Boundaries with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 19 Respecting ourselves with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (adult side) Sunday, January 19 Friendship Icebreakers with KatePersephone at 12:00pm ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) Sunday, January 26 Relationships and Social Media with KatePersephone at 11:00am ET (teen side) ------------------------- click here [https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html] to convert the time of the sessions to your timezone! Please subscribe so you can be the first one to receive updates on the sessions! ❣️ ------------------------- tagging the community in case they want to receive chatroom discussion updates: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @Helpingheart23 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @jwong611 @k87 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger ------------------------- Interested in hosting 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Overwhelmed
by DogAndButterfly7777
Last post
 15 minutes ago
...See more My boyfriend and I broke up. Since then I've been overwhelmed with emotions. One minute I feel strong and confident, identifying him as a loser who screwed up. Next minute I am sad, missing the good times and wondering why it had to end this way. I don't see how I can date again. I put all my faith and love and trust into an individual who discarded me like trash. I feel numb, I feel sick, I feel angry, I feel sad. I sit alone wondering who he is with. Who replaced me. The worst feeling in the world is to feel like you're not good enough. And that's how I feel right now.
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Am I a simp? It's a very long story...
by Solipcistic
Last post
 4 hours ago
...See more TLDR: I AM A SIMP AND A *** It all started with my female coworker, the two of us have know each other for a year now. At first I had no interest in her, we all knew she was in a relationship but it was classic textbook kind of toxic. You name it, gaslightning, manipulation, etc. After he found out she had $8k in savings he manipulated her into making her pay for his bills until she went broke. Even made her feel like she was always the problem and the reason it eventually ended was also all her fault. The horror story goes further but I'm going to continue on. She would of never left him if she never opened up to each one of us coworkers, but I think I'm the one who made the most impact by telling her to love herself. Eventually after a month me and her fell in love since we realized we share the same values and goals. The problem was that her ex was very persistent even telling her that even after they broke up he will still be friends with her mom. I told her to block him but she could never do it. Me and her were doing amazing, the best experience of my life being with someone. But some of our dates would get ruined when her ex shows up out of nowhere. Eventually, about months later he eventually sweet talked her and made her think he was changing. Over the months my heart broke slowly and suffered trying to figure out why she was more and more distant until eventually I realized she was falling in love with him again, she would flake out on dates and text/call me less. Me and her eventually had that talk and she said she wanted to see him fail one more time, my heart broke again, she said she loved me but then she goes back to her ex anyways. About 2-3 weeks of them dating again, he hasn't changed much at all, making her spend money on everything. But then he said she didn't want her talking to other guys and even wanted her to block me, she couldn't do it herself so she let him do it(which hurt like *** after she told me). She flipped things on him and checked his phone, to which she saw him messaging other girls and also watched p☆rn. After that incident she tells me she isn't looking for a relationship right now. I don't know why but in that moment I asked if she still wanted to pursue something with me, she said yes and we both made a promise that she and I won't see any other people and she won't talk to her ex again. Although she's asking if I can wait a year, but lowered it to 5 months to try things again with me. Why am I willing to put up with all this disrespect? Why am I willing to put up as just an option? Even now she isn't even responding to my texts at all. She said she would call me again more but nothing. I learned from my time here that I'm putting up with it because I have no self respect and I don't love myself. I also put up with it because I have hope that she would go back to her old self like before but that is naive thinking. Now I am stuck in an uncertain promise that she can easily break and have no power over anything and just holding on, suffering everyday, missing her everyday, and hoping that things get better. Please learn from my mistake, I just will have see this through and maybe its a happy ending or I get hurt one more for the last time.
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Relationship assistance and talking
by CryptidCircus
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Things in my relationship aren't doing well. (I've been a major factor in that for a while and in the relationship I have not been open, vulnerable or talking.) I am a fearful avoidant personality type and I have a bad habit of shutting down and stonewalling. I have a habit of going into silence in conversations. I want to try to repair my relationship and I know that the issue with talking is one of the biggest obstacles to jump. Does anyone have any ways to help with opening up more and talking more? I want to fix this relationship more than anything. I know it will take work and will take effort. I know it will take a lot of unlearning bad behavior. I've caused the person I love so much harm and I don't want to do that. I don't want to continue that.
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Long distance relationship
by PurrfectMeow
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hi, I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year. He is a great person, but lately, he’s been busy with his schedule, which I understand, so he can’t give me enough time. I have to keep reminding him to call or spend time with me, and I’m fed up with it. Our time zone has almost a 7-hour difference, and I’ve been trying to catch up with him, but I don’t feel like he’s doing the same. It seems he has his limits when it comes to loving me in the ways I want and need. I feel like this relationship is one-sided. I’m struggling with feeling unimportant and I have no idea if he truly sees how hard I’m trying.
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Recently ended a toxic relationship, not sure what’s next
by bestOwl8020
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more I have never posted here so Hi! I don’t know where to seek support so I am trying anywhere I can. I am too embarrassed to talk to friends or family right now. 3.5 weeks ago I ended an abusive relationship. I spent years isolating myself from my supports because I knew if I told people the truth of what was going on they would suggest I end the relationship immediately. I was so manipulated into thinking I was the problem and I needed to fix everything and I kept trying and no matter what changes I enacted or anything positive I did, the abuse only unfortunately escalated over time. I didn’t want to be told to leave even though I think I knew all along that I needed to. I guess I just want someone to talk to or to hear from someone who gets it. I feel lost and every day I get even more angry just remembering the horrible things he put me through and how I continued to tolerate it. I am completely overwhelmed by all of the traumatic memories and I don’t know how to cope. I have journaled a lot but it is only helping so much. I am still not ready to talk to friends or family. I am on a wait list for a therapist as I had to uproot my life and move states away to escape the relationship. Thanks if anyone reads this. I would appreciate any kind words or words of support. I am struggling and just don’t know where to go right now.
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Ache to be desired
by Mobley4275
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more I want to be desired, and thought of. I have this debilitating ache to be somebody to someone. It is getting more and more intense to be thought of as beautiful, and amazing, and smart, and funny by someone. I’m pursuing that affection and adoration and sense of belonging in the most risky and unhealthy ways, but I truly feel at a loss because if I don’t pursue it the risky way, it never reaches me and I’m left alone.  Anyone else feel the overwhelming ache and need to be pursued, and wanted, and desired? And how did you move past it? 
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Polyamory/nonmonogamy difficulties
by sarahuman
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more I am so sad and anxious and not sure what to do.  I've always practiced nonmonogamy and am in a nonmonogamous relationship of over two years.  However over the past year whenever my partner persues new relationships I get overwhelming anxiety. We talk about things but are sort of going around in circles about what our issues are. We have done a lot of good work but once again he's started talking to someone new and im overwhelmed with anxiety. It feels like a trauma response because it's so overwhelming but im not sure to what and im not sure how to go about processing/sorting through it.  I'm not sure if we need to try monogamy to work on our issues, break up, or something else I'm not sure of.  In an ideal world, we could work with a nonmonogamy councilor, but we really don't have the money for that. 
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I really need advice ;-(
by ivoryTurtle2681
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Me and my boyfriend are dating for like six months .He been such a nice guy and treating me well and he has a family plan with me .But for me I don’t feel the same way with him .I don’t have any physical attraction with him and I don’t even feel excited to meet him .But having him beside me right now is good for me because I am alone in the city away from home .At the same time I feel every selfish that I am doing such things to a person .I have to deal with that guilt everyday and I really don’t know what to do .
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Is it natural to feel this way
by Dawnlit02
Last post
 18 hours ago
...See more I have been on good terms with a person prioritizing growth, trust and honesty. That person was not treated well in childhood and in previous relationships as well and now when she is feeling this kind of love for the first time and she feels resentment towards it. Is it natural to feel this kind of resentment ? How can I contribute more towards changing this and changing the perception of love as chaos for a person who has been hurt all her life
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May I have some encouragement?
by anonySea2203
Last post
 20 hours ago
...See more Sometimes I just do not understand my own feelings. There are things I am aware of like I suffer from abandonment issues and maybe I’m even a little bit of a spoiled brat. But something I don’t understand is why is it that whenever my partner makes a decision without consulting me it just pisses me off? I fear it may be minor and I’m just blowing it out of proportion but I really dislike feeling like I’m not considered. For example, their family lives close by maybe 2hrs away and whenever something happens they just come in and tell me what they are going to do. It doesn’t even have to be an emergency. Me being agreeable and dumb I never say how I feel. my issue isn’t actually that they want to be there for their family my issue is that I’m often left in the dark with decisions like this and am expected to understand. another example they told their parents they could stay with us before even talking to me about it and again me being agreeable and dumb didn’t even speak up. I don’t even think it would matter if I did. it’s obvious that I feel a way about it because I do not hide my feelings well.. is it so hard to consider your partner? Is it so hard to make decisions together? That’s what you’re supposed to do in a marriage right? now if I return the favor and just start doing whatever then I am in the wrong and no better than them. I’m really just so tired of not knowing if I’m just outta control or if this is a genuine concern. Any kinds words or not so kind if I’m being dumb would be appreciated.
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Help with relationships
by CryptidCircus
Last post
 24 hours ago
...See more So, I am having genuine trouble in my relationship. I have caused a lot of damage and want to make amends. I am in a polyam relationship, one Para, two Metas. Things have been bad for years because of my issues I was in refusal to fix. Does anyone know of free or cheap relationship counselors? Online preferred? Or someone who can help me with trying to talk with me through some things. I want to try to fix things, stop me bad behavior and try to fix things, genuinely, with my partners.
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I don’t know what to do
by persistentJar149
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more So me and my bf been together for 2 years and we have discussed about having kids and getting married before and I told him straight up what I wanted and if he didn’t think it would be possible then we should break up before any of us catch any more feelings and we was able to work things out well today we discussed it again and he told me how he don’t see his self getting married or having kids anytime soon and that he prob won’t until probably 5-6 years have passed. He told me his feeling and the harsh truth which I appreciate it and understand. I wish this was told earlier on since now I can’t really see myself without him. I can’t decide if I should stay with him but give up something I’ve been wanting for a long time and wait a couple more years. Or if I should give him up and find someone who wants the same I want. I want to accept his conditions but it really hurts. I told him to allow me time to think because I needed advice on this matter. This is really a big decision in my life. (Ps. I’m not trying to have one just yet also)

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