Food for soul. [TW]
I will be sharing my writings here, quotes and poems. Some content might talk about Suicide and desth with graphic references. I will mark such posts at the start of posting it, so that any reader doesnt get triggered.
Whats popular isn't always right, for being right doesn't guarantee popularity. I believe there are stages we reach and we can look at them to understand the seriousness of things in terms of our mental health.
A stage where we are unhappy and trying to better things and are able to get by life as it is even though it's far from perfect, because certain basic or essential needs are met which doesn't send us over the edge but contains things. Certain conditions that make it easy to be not ok.
We reach another stage where things are far from just being in a chronic state of unhappiness but are uncontainable, because the person's most essential and basic needs aren't being met maybe because the issues are of that intensity that demand more of the resources at hand or different resources. This stage just threatens one's existence and is a critical state.
I believe the needs and how they are met are different for everyone, so are the levels to which they are to be met, which makes it all so important to not generalise the idea of help and what it means to everyone, rather take a personalized approach in both understanding the issues and alleviating them. And what might be resourceful for someone may not be for the other, just for the same reason that we all have different emotional needs depending upon the level of sensitivity we possess that carve those needs. I may have things which may be resourceful for others in the sense that I have people of my immediate family around, but the difference in their emotional understanding and sensitivity than mine is huge which renders them unhelpful and rather unhealthy, pushing me into that critical state where the basic needs aren't being met.
So it's more important to not be fooled by the idea of being too far gone of being beyond saving because we have what might be ascertained to be support in general, because it's not about the general idea but a personalized one and if something isn't helpful then it's not good enough even if others seem us to have all the support or resources to get that support.
Same goes for issues, what may be the general idea about what we are going through is far from important if it affects us and affects us to a degree which we may deem as problematic. Then it doesn't matter and shouldn't matter whatever it is we are going through, it matters and is enough and real, as small or insignificant the general perception of the problem may be.
I suffer a lot mentally, yet I have at my core tremendous amount of peace with who I am and liking who I am.
If I had to attribute it to something I would put it down to acceptance and understanding. Being able to understand people and the world around me allows me to accept them and be ok with them and also in turn accept and understand myself.
And it allows me to try less, give up more and leave things that aren't good for me, leave people who can't change, being sensitive to people who violate my peace of mind and to not try to change people, because at the core of it I am accepting people of being how they are for a reason. By giving up control over changing things I end up having more control over my own life and peace of mind.
Less can be more.
I can't speak for everyone, but if I remember when I felt the most able and willing to help people and give to them, it was in the moments when I had my own needs met and when I was selfish about getting them met.
I think it's hard to be giving and selfless when we don't have the conditions which make it easy for us to get the basic things we seek, which can make us resentful and bitter rather than altruistic
Selfishness can fuel selflessness.
@Rivelino3
True, for most of us. Then there are the rare ones, giving without expecting.
@jerryco789
Yes there are. Though i believe we all need something, we all are seeking something, if not from the very same person or situation where we helped. To give and not expect won't be to be human, an unhealthy state of being where the road only leads to self sacrifice.
@Rivelino3
Hmm..if our expectation is the betterment of the world, is it truly selfishness?
@jerryco789
It can depend on how we look at it.
Wanting betterment may help fulfill a deeper part of us that wants to do good, in turn making it a selfish act where one gets to feel good.
But the catch is to know that selfishness doesn't need to neccearily be attributed to evilness. Selfishness can be good, it's the basis of our entire species which from it's most basic component of a single cell has its focus on selfishness for survival.
It may be possible entirely to engage in acts that benefit the world but have nothing to attribute to our self interest, but from how i look at it, it would lead to self destruction, to stop looking after oneself.
Good can be done, for the world, through selfishness as well.
A beautiful and tragic story. A man lost, over the battlefields of the past, stumbling onto someone that helped him find meaning in his life, showed him it was ok to live. A man on fire, in love.
Depiction of all human emotions in art, literature and cinema is a necessity, even the painful ones. Opening a window to a journey within, through the power of connection with the characters and their stories. Bringing us closer to ourselves in the process.
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Miraculously Cursed
Without our vices we won't be ourselves. Shades that define us. Some stars that shine maybe do so because they burn wildly off the virtues and vices. Take one or the other away, I think it would collapse into itself
In that sense I think that sometimes miracles are born of entities possessing malice. Like it's a mishap in its entirety and effect, yet it can be an agent powering miracles.
Fictional reality - Reposted
Ficiton isn't fiction in the end is it ?
When you can almost feel the character and want them and want to be them, its not fiction anymore. It's part of you and if you feel what you feel is real, then it almost is.
Free will - Repost
I dont believe in free will except the illusion of it. I believe that the lives we lead have chosen us, poetically of course but in a practical sense as well.
From the moment you are born, what you are and can be is dictated by circumstances you never chose, like the people you are born with, how those people are, the society, the culture. And it all weighs down upon you and what you will ever be. It affects what religion you choose, what you believe in and will end up doing.
We believe we have control, but any control over any choice we have is so miniscule. Like we think we have the choice when we choose one thing or the other, but we fail to see that all our lives we have been affected by things out of our will that lead us to make those choices, so in the end its not us who really choses what we do or become, do we ?
- Lusio