Personality Disorders Community Check-in: November 21st–November 27th
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💜 What have you been thinking about lately?
💜 What's something you wish others could understand about you that often gets misunderstood?
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I've been thinking about my gender identity a lot still ! I've gotten into some conflict with others about it but overall I think my personal plans are going nicely and I'm very willing for self improvement
A lot of people tend to assume that because I always say short things or because I tend to get frustrated over a lot of things, I'm emotionally or literally unintelligent and very careless. My thoughts are better than what I can put into words and only a few people really understand that my words sometimes don't reflect my full trains of thought :}
hugs hugs !! for anyone who wants them 💟
@loftalex07
Glad your personal plans are going well! And sorry that there's been conflict with some other people around gender identity. (Is it like people don't want you to explore in certain directions?)
And that makes sense that there's this sort of gap between "this is what my inner experience and train of thought looks like" vs. "this is what I'm able to put into words in the spur of the moment". So if someone's going only off of the outside, maybe they assume things that don't match what's actually happening inside.
@QuietMagic
for my identity it's a lot of people assuming the thing I talked about with intelligence and telling me a lot of things I already knew :{ I feel like I'm not trusted sometimes and it's a bit frustrating, but I have a clear plan for the next five years and I am ready to talk to whoever I need to accurately convey my plans :}
@loftalex07
Yeah, that's frustrating having people assume that you need a beginner-level explanation when you've already been thinking about this and have a whole five-year plan in place. Sounds like you know what you're doing though. 😊
@QuietMagic
💜 What have you been thinking about lately?
💜 What's something you wish others could understand about you that often gets misunderstood?
this hard time of year for us so been having flashbacks. we think about ways we safe now and try to teach all within we can do things different now. due to we safe and well not around the ones that abused us. but saying that we do have flashbacks a lot more this time of year. also some of us our anxiety goes way up. so been thinking about ways to change thinking about this time of years and make Christmas fun as when with family is was never fun.
think the one thing we wish others understood about us is that we not stupid and well we have many learning disabilities. also the chronic traumatic brain injury and both them can at times make us hard to understand. we also get very embarrassed when other corrected our grammar or make fun of it. we always told people if you no understand us ask questions. as when one does that we can at times help them understand what we be saying. another one is people saying it not we it i. mom did that a lot it made us feel unheard.
@stormieandpaws
Hi, I loved what you said in the other thread also about trying to teach everyone basically, "Hey, things are different now. We can do what you want, it's okay to feel things, and we get to have fun and create our own new experiences around Christmas. We're safe and we have more power."
I feel like you communicate really clearly, and the plans that you're working on are always very thoughtful and creative. Even when things are challenging, you understand yourself and what you need really well and you're able to make things work. 💜
@QuietMagic
thank you as we do more hard healing work. we are starting to see only we can change how we think about things. we not have to live by rules set by others in the past we free now and can change them rules. not live by them as they was given by unsafe people. who no longer in our life, for good reasons. but the hardest part is doing the changing and not feeling guilty for that. we came a long ways in our healing but still have a long ways to go. one day at a time is how we live right now. as the healing journey is hard.
@QuietMagic
💜 What have you been thinking about lately?
mostly academics and financial stress.
💜 What's something you wish others could understand about you that often gets misunderstood?
i think the concept that depressed people aren't just lazy is something that is yet to be understood.
@daydreammemories
Yeah, the fact that depression undermines motivation and saps your physical energy so that doing even small things is like 10x harder is a big one that a lot of people don't get. (Kind of like if someone is sick with the flu, they're probably not going to be in peak condition to do a lot of stuff.)
Is the stuff related to academics and financial stress manageable, or does it feel like it's been overwhelming lately?
@QuietMagic
Yeah i agree! It's been overwhelming unfortunately. But I'm trying to manage.
@QuietMagic
I have been thinking if any efforts to improve are futile. More informative, just never achievable with some things being to heavily ingrained and far reaching to ever alter.
The second question is difficult to answer. Apart from knowing I have good intentions and what’s best for people, I hope people see that and they normally do so it’s not answering the question. Misunderstood, i guess i hurt deeper than people know just don’t show it, i am not as strong as people perceive. That again is half the question as i don’t want people to know that. I actually can’t formulate an answer to this question Quiet.
question for you, are you running the PD group on Monday I think for personality disorders? Regardless if not or so it’s great to see it’s resurfacing. Thank you for all you do for the PD group
@LabeledBPD
That makes sense that maybe there are things other people misunderstand but it's not always a bad thing. (Like it might make it easier if people don't know how much you're hurting and they assume everything is going smoothly.)
Only if you feel like sharing, what kinds of things feel like they're too ingrained to change?
I believe @InsightfulPhoenix is running all of the group discussions. 😊
@LabledBPD
yes I do run the discussions for Personality disorder community! I’m glad to see you find enjoyment in all of the sessions occuring❤️!
Thank you for this lovely perspective you shared about the post, and I love that you trusted me with these thoughts!