Personality Disorders Community Check-in: December 19th–December 25th
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💜 How are things going this week?
💜 What is something that's happened recently that you've found disappointing or frustrating? Something that you've found enjoyable or hopeful?
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@QuietMagic
💜 How are things going this week?
stressful, but im trying to manage
💜 What is something that's happened recently that you've found disappointing or frustrating? Something that you've found enjoyable or hopeful?
my courses and exams are frustrating for me
@daydreammemories
Aw, sorry that courses and exams have been frustrating. (I assume that's what's been stressful also.) Is it like the amount of work is suffocating, or more like you're anxious about how you're going to do on everything?
@QuietMagic
merry Christmas magic and a happy new year to you and all those you hold dear. Thank you for keeping this space alive.
@LabeledBPD
Thank you! 🎄 Hope you have a great rest of the year and looking forward to seeing more of you next year. 😊
@QuietMagic
💜 How are things going this week?
doing kinda guess not really good but not so bad either. we do not like Christmas time much. feel to many just spend money give gifts to others. that they normally do not even talk to much. also families' who not really talk or get together with each-other put on fake smiles and acted nice to each other. just due to they think they have to due to it being Christmas time. so for us lots of bad memories this time of year and well feelings of not being what most call normal. due to we not get together with family. so feel kinda like a outcast and odd too.
💜 What is something that's happened recently that you've found disappointing or frustrating? Something that you've found enjoyable or hopeful?
for us we had a friend who seem to be self centered that when we was talking on phone with her. when we started talking about us she had to go she said. this with her seems to happen a lot when we talk about our stuff. but she talks about others and herself and we to listen to all that. we brought this up before with her, but she seems to not get it at all. the big issue is she talks about others and drama at the mental health club we both belong too. was tonight talking with her about Christmas time the good memories and a Christmas bell we think belonged to our grandparents. she then said to us. think it time we let you go. this was how she end the call. just disappointed us, felt like we was dismissed and not heard.
something we felt hopeful with was the memory' of something good about Christmas time. as seems like the good memorizes in our life was time spent with our grandpa. he loved Christmas time. was like a over grown child a lot at Christmas time. even when we was being hurt and well even when home life was a nightmare. he bring hope and love into our life. so remembering times with him seems to help this season not be awful too.
@stormieandpaws
Yeah, the things you mentioned make sense:
- It feels like sometimes people approach the holidays in a superficial way, like it's just a transactional "spend money on gifts" kind of thing. Or people will pretend to be close because it's Christmas when in reality their relationships are pretty non-existent the other 364 days of the year.
- At the same time, there's kind of this sense of feeling left out because of the bad memories and not having that "normal" connection with your family
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Ah! I have friends that do that too sometimes--they're eager to talk as long as it's about them but as soon as I try to share anything, they suddenly have to leave. 🙄 (And you've had it happen before and have even brought it up with her before.) It's definitely frustrating, especially if you're in the middle of sharing something.
That sounds wonderful being able to remember those good times with your grandpa--and having something positive to anchor onto in the holiday season.
