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I'm a narcissist.AMA

Lambert January 20th, 2016

Hi everyone!

My name is Matt, I'm from Europe and been diagnosed with narcissism. Feel free to ask me anything you want :)

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cristiana33 January 20th, 2016

Hey Matt!

Thanks for this. I'm really curious what lead to this diagnosis. :)

Also, what do you think are some positive / negative aspects of your diagnosis?

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RationalIrrationality February 4th, 2016

@cristiana33

I have some experience in this matter. Everyone has a degree of narcissism, it is why we care about ourselves and how others perceive us. NPD is having an unhealthy amount of narcissism, and being diagnosed with NPD is a very difficult pill to swallow, "how could I, someone so perfect, have a disorder?" they think to themselves. The diagnosis allows someone with NPD to start thinking differently about the world. It's takes a lot of time, as they have usually gone through their entire lives thinking a certain way, but little by little they can learn to better manage their narcissism.

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PeachT August 25th, 2016

@Lambert

Hey Matt, thanks for being here!

Question: Where is the line between healthy narcissism and unhealthy narcissism? I know a typical response to that would be 'if it negatively affects your relationships then it's unhealthy'. But what does that really look like?

I feel like my husband might have some narcisistic tendencies. Sometimes when I share with some people, they respond with 'He's controlling, he's emotionally abusive, you need to leave him, etc'. But I honestly really don't see that. We have a happy relationship and I don't feel like I am abused. I try to look at our relationship objectively, from an outside point of veiw, but I'm wondering if I might just be blind to the red flags, if they exist. Or maybe (what I feel is more likely) he just has some narcisistic tendencies, and people are overreacting in their responses.

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Histerikal November 24th, 2016

@PeachT

Hey there.

I am a narcissist and want to inform you that if you don't feel any pressure and hes got his anger under control you are not in danger even if hes a narcissist.

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PeachT November 24th, 2016

Thanks for your reply, @Histerikal! He has never hit me in his anger/rage.. we've been married over a decade, so I know I'm not in any physical danger.

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Indigopineapple August 27th, 2016

@Lambert

Hi Matt... thank you for being so honest. That must be difficult for you, but you're doing a good thing in turning your diagnosis into a way to help others.

I think I may also be a narcissist and wanted to know how it feels for you to be diagnosed.

Hopeful0001 November 17th, 2016

@Lambert

Hey! How have you been managing? :)

@Lambert

How have your relationships been like? Do you feel like after you've been diagnosed you looked at your relationships differently?

Shannon0714 December 22nd, 2018

Hi Matt

I just found out about narcissism, and have just been discarded by my ex of 6 years and father to my daughter and hes also step father to my son. Its been 7 weeks now without a word from him regardless of what I have done to try. Have you discarded someone like this ? Does he really not feel hurt about the manner in which he left ? Do you have children ? If so are you able to cut them out of your life and not feel bad about it ? Is there a way to make an narcissistic feel empathy enough to contact his children or is this a way to punish or hurt me more ?