Hi lilbun! I Mental illness is not an easy topic for everyone, and it might seem like nobody understands what you are going through. At the same time, you might feel like you are not able to express yourself and help your family or partner understand what you are experiencing. There are few things that you can try doing:
- Of course, the first thing I would recommend is talking to your therapist about this. They might suggest to bring the person close to you to a therapy session, so that you can talk to them in a different, controled environment.
If that is not an option for whatever reason, you cantry to
- Write an honestletter, or an email to that person. When you have enough time, and there is no pressure, you can really think through what you want to share, and how exactly you want to phrase it. Also, there is enough time for them too, to think about what you are saying before they answer. It can be a good way to prevent a fight.
- Look into some books, online resources etc. and share those parts that you think might explain what you feel better than you could.There are many self help guides both online and offlinefor loved ones and family members of people suffering from BDP. The first books that come to my mind areWalking on Eggshells, BDP for Dummies, Sometimes I Act Crazy.Also, internet is your friend, wheather you use Google,Youtube, Reddit,Tumblr,or a blog of a person suffering from BDP, you can access many usefull information, both professional and from sufferers,onhow to explain what you are going through.Sometimes, other people are better at putting feelings and thoughts into words than we are, but that doesn't change the fact that what you experience can be really similar, if not the same. Here is one example, but I am sure you will find many more!http://borderlinelife.tripod.com/what-is-it-like-to-have-bpd.html
Wheather you decide to talk or give a letter or share some other resource you found,try to do it in a comfortable environment, when you and the other person both have enough time and do not feel pressured into something you do not feel ready for.