Avoidant Personality Disorder
Honours Project by TinyTea.
Through this article, I hope to raise awareness on Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD), an often overlooked and serious personality disorder.
What is Avoidant Personality Disorder?
Avoidant Personality Disorder can be very difficult to endure, people are often:
1. Afraid talk to others.
2. Fearful of going outside.
3. Constantly worried about being judged.
4. Unable to trust even the closest of friends and family.
Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) is a rare mental disorder which can lead to anxiety and depression. It is characterized by the avoidance of events, social interactions, situations involving others, and relationships due to the constant fear of rejection, criticism, or embarrassment. Often times, those diagnosed with AvPD do not want to be alone and would rather be closer to others, however cannot because of conflicting feelings and lack of trust. Humiliation and Rejection are constant fears in those that deal with AvPD and can be a daily struggle. These feelings can lead to lack of self-confidence and self-esteem which are damaging to ones health. Similarly, daily life for those that deal with AvPD can be extremely stressful as experiences such as making friends, working, and talking to others causes immense pain both emotionally and physically.
Since AvPD is rare, others believe that those that deal with this are either shy or unfriendly; this is usually not the case. This personality disorder gives them the constant fear of being rejected or criticised and is most definitely not their fault. In most cases, those that deal with this have trouble leaving their home for fear of being judged based on physical appearance, personality, speech, and overall character.
What is the difference between Avoidant Personality Disorder and Social Anxiety?
These two equally important mental health issues are often confused, but they are different things. Many of the symptoms that those that deal with AvPD will experience will be linked with social anxiety, however, these symptoms will be at a much more severe level in comparison to somebody with social anxiety. In AvPD, the fear of being judged is so great that there have been cases where they feel uncomfortable in their own home.
With that in mind, it isnt unusual for those that deal with AvPD to also have social anxiety. The prime difference, as mentioned before, is that AvPD is more severe and the extent with feelings of isolation are carried beyond that of social anxiety.
Though this should be diagnosed by a doctor, the symptoms are listed below!
Symptoms of Avoidant Personality Disorder
-Showing caution in every situation or often wary over little things.
-Striving for perfection in appearances, actions, and interactions.
-Feeling Sensitivity when receiving criticism, often followed by feelings of self destruction and sadness.
-Taking Risks and changes seem impossible due to the fear of failure.
-Struggling to go outside or leave a home environment.
-Making friends can be a challenge and a daily struggle.
-The constant fear of looking bad or hurting others.
-Apologising constantly for small or unnecessary things.
-Having trouble eating or drinking outside in public or in front of others.
-Thinking in all-or-nothing terms and thinking of the worst-case-scenario.
-Feeling scared or nervous for no apparent reason, especially outside in public spaces.
-Feeling inferior and sensitive to others is a common occurrence.
-Rapid breathing, sweating and overall panic which can occur both inside and outside home.
-Feeling paranoid about how people perceive you despite knowing they wont.
-Rarely speaking when with others and being shy or panicky around strangers.
What are the causes of Avoidant Personality Disorder?
The primary cause of Avoidant Personality Disorder is unknown, however, scientists have agreed that it can stem from four different aspects of a persons life. Of course, the reason for AvPD is a combination of at least two or more of these factors.
Genetics- It can be hereditary, the chances of having AvPD increase if there is a direct genetic link, such as a parent or close relative. Those with parents who have AvPD are twice as likely to have symptoms than if they had parents without it.
Environment- Environmental causes of AvPD could be the experiences faced while growing up, some of which may include abuse, bullying, emotional neglect, or other traumatic events. There are most definitely other causes as well, for example, one could have experienced rejection or depression, which are both contributing factors to AvPD.
How can Avoidant Personality Disorder be treated?
The two most common treatments are:
Psychotherapy- By participating in group therapy or talk therapy, this will allow for the person to be surrounded by support. This is often troubling for those that deal with AvPD because it causes stress and panic to be around others despite it being a place to help them.
Medication- This is not very effective in those that deal with AvPD as there is no official treatment for it, however, they can be prescribed antidepressants and medication for anxiety, always ask a doctor or trained professional.
What can you do to help those with Avoidant Personality Disorder?
-Encourage them to seek treatment.
-Always offer support by being kind and patient.
-Offer to take them somewhere safe or distracting.
-Compliment them, make them smile.
-Be understanding and empathetic, this isnt their fault.
-Never force them into social situations.
-Dont take their actions personally, they never want to hurt you.
Quick Facts!
~AvPd can start at a young age but can also develop well into adulthood.
~Only 2% of the general population deal with AvPD, making it a rarer and lesser known personality disorder, let alone mental health issue.
~Women are more likely to develop AvPD than men in the United States.
~50% of those that deal with it do not get married while the other 30% are married and 20% divorced.
~Research suggests that AvPD can stem from traumatic experiences such as crime or abuse.
~Having an anxiety disorder at a young age can increase the chances of one developing AvPD in later years.
References:
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Now that weve looked at Avoidant Personality Disorder, please answer the following questions:
What does AvPD look like for you? Can you tell us a bit about your experience with it?
If you have Avoidant Personality Disorder, what support would you like to receive from others?
Have you found any coping mechanisms or techniques to overcome this?
Thank you all for reading!
-TinyTea
@TinyTea you are very welcome! Thank you for taking the time to write the post! 
@CastorDarkHeart
My pleasure! Thank you for reading 
@admirableWings76 You're definitely right! Thank you for reading. I know it can be a struggle but you are doing incredible. You really are telling the truth when you say that you are not alone I'm proud of you! Keep going, you can do this.
@decisiveCar1126 Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to share your story! I can see how much you've struggled and I understand how hard this is for you, you've come so far and I think that's what is important. Please know that you are not alone, and that we are all here to love and support you Things will look up soon, I know they will! I get how scary it can be to be alone, despite being part of a crowd, and struggling with self-image. Please understand that your feelings are valid and things are going to be okay, I truly am proud of you for sharing your experiences and going through something as difficult as this, you are worth it, and you are loved, please remember that. c:
@TinyTea this was truly interesting to read now I have learned something new thank you for the post 
@Lassendil Thank you for sharing, it is extremely strong of you
@WonderfulDarkness I am so proud of you for sharing your story, it's such a brave and incredible thing to do I can see how the many challenges you've faced can be really difficult to go through, and that's what makes you so incredible, you've made it so far! Having the support from others can go a long way and talking online definitely helps as well, I completely agree with you. Writing about your experiences is so important as it helps you see your feelings from different angles, you're definitely doing all the right things, you've got this! Be proud of your experiences, they'll help you learn and grow, everyday, things will become more clear. I admire all your efforts, they are all so important! c: