Increasing Confidence and Self-Esteem

@GlenM 🙂

Thank you for bringing this up...👌

I believe Self-Confidence is what our Karmas reflects❤ and I get it from Spirituality🌟 that I'm practicing for long time now. And I felt by time it nourished me and my health.

Also I give importance to self-esteem via Self-care and Self-Respect regime that I follow to pay Gratitude towards our Creator, UNIVERSE and ofcourse our loving and kind Mother Earth🌏

Regards🙏

@NityaSpiritualHealer I'm also a believer in what goes around comes around!

@GlenM

Thanks🙂

Can we have something on Spirituality here on 7 cups as many members I came along believe in it and if we had something like this, it may definitely help them heal.

Regards🙏

@GlenM

For most of my adult life, I had low self-esteem and confidence, along with social anxiety. Today, I consider myself to be very confident with high-self esteem. I used to be very hard on myself when it came to almost everything, and that had to stop. I told myself that it's okay to make mistakes and to laugh them off, as long as I learn from the experiences. Every situation can be a learning experience. I also had to stop worrying about what others were thinking of me, which really helped. I decided that what others may or may not think of me is absolutely none of my business. It's impossible to please everyone. Everyone has different perspectives and different ways of thinking about things. It was also vital to stop worrying about the future and about things that I have no control over. It's also helpful to break up issues or tasks into smaller and more manageable tasks. I suggest as a first step to write out a "good vs bad" list of things you think about yourself. It's important to identify your good qualities, not just the bad. Once you have that list, try to figure out how you can change the "bad", if you can change it. If it's not changeable then you need to accept it and not let it bother you.

@talkMyEarOff this is very helpful! You have several very good ideas here. If comfortable, do you mind helping me break these down into steps for each idea? I especially like the point that what other people think about me is not really any of my business. That is a clever way of saying it that I've not heard before!

Self-help books (therapy related) and affirmations really helped me!

@Rosalita any particular affirmations and how do you practice them? thanks!

Hi Guys! I find that meditation really helps with my confidence and general well-being (still need to watch that Headspace doc on Netflix!). I find meditation really grounding, allowing me to focus on the present. In this way, meditation prevents a lot of my negative self-talk: If I'm purely present, there's no dwelling on the past nor worrying about the future. Hope this helps x

@Saskia128 It definitely does; do you do anything in partiuclar to help get yourself into a present state of mind?

Hello Team Confidence! Sorry for being MIA the last couple of days. I was swamped with a number of research and other items and am now just able to get back to focusing on the path. Look for an update from me on this front tomorrow afternoon!

For me, it is important to conquer small steps at a time. I often forget and try to set really ambitious goals. For example, if i want to diet, i would set a goal of fasting completely for a week or something. Because making difficult goals sometimes feels so thrilling. Then i learnt that small, durable steps are much more solid. So instead of making unrealistic goal, right now i try to make smaller actions towards my goal. And when i took actions,instead if telling myself to work harder, i first try to compliment on myself for have already worked hard.

I used to have some real bad self esteem issues that stemmed from my bad situation, bad group of friends, and having a crush. Im not sure how i got through that but i know that taking the intiative to get rid of people that are putting you down, find a better situation for yourself, find motivation and take the first step and it seems that the rest will help you.

As for confidence one thing i heard really changed the way i think

"Do one thing everyday that scares you/embarasses you"

I have alot of embarassment from things i do that probably dont seem big to others but is to me. So it just made me happy knowing im doing something good and by thinking in that i feel more confident and carefree!

It is not much about my own experience, but I got the point about system vs goals. I think it might be helpful in regards of self-esteem/self-confidence too. Because of that a successful system makes a perfect link between "right here, right now" and "some desired future", it might help to grow self-confidence based on small things integrated into the system. For example, system is "confidence in talking with others", steps are for example "just talking in voice with yourself", "not fearing to say Hello to a person", "not fearing to re-asking if something is not understandable". Well, it is just a thought, might be useful, might not.

@GlenM Meditation can help with building confidence. I would recommend going online to find the latest information.

I listen to 7cups meditation recordings.

There are books out on Meditation as well.

I have a book on meditation.

The name of the book is : The Meditation BOOK by: CHARALA DEVEREUX and Fran Stockel.

Also Hypnosis can help with building confidence.

Here is some of the books I have and read and used.

Hypnosis for Change by: Josie Hadley and Carol Staudacher and Healing Yourself with self-Hypnosis by: Frank Caprio,MD, and Joseph R. Berger.

I hope this helps.

There are tons of courses online and most of them are free,in psychology,hypnosis,building confidence,ect.

Just to make you aware.

I have taken some of them, before I came to 7cups as a listener.

They were good and learned a lot from them,

How every due to a learning disability, I do not remember the Course titles, so sorry about that.

@Happy900 ever, not every, so sorry about that.

@GlenM Loved this idea! :)

Thank you!

@GlenM

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Hi everyone! Quick update that Hope is helping me convert all of your ideas into steps. I also added a few more. My goal is to have a robust version of this path done by the middle to end of next week. Thank you again for all of the great ideas!

@GlenM hello again! @hope helped me create the steps recommended in this thread. You can find the updated path here: https://www.7cups.com/path/playlist/increasing-confidence-and-self-esteem/