Second Pregnancy
Hai, I'm new here and I've never done this before so I hope I do it right.
I'm a young mother to a beautiful daughter and expecting a second baby (2nd trimester) and lately I've been struggling with sadness. I feel this deep sadness and dread that I don't know the origin of, I chuck it off to hormones but sometimes it gets too overwhelming that I idealise about having a miscarriage. I hate that I'm pregnant, I'm guilty about not being excited about this second child because it never asked to be brought into this world (that was a decision me and my partner made actively).
My marriage is suffering because of it, I'm angry and sad which makes being a good mother to my daughter very difficult because I lash out at her sometimes and I know she doesn't deserve any of that. It leaves me more guilty and sad than I initially was.
I'm scared that I might get postpartum depression and hate my baby when it eventually comes.
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Congratulations on your beautiful daughter too!
I think your feelings are all valid, everyone is different and we all go through mood changes and difficult thoughts. Have you spoken to your midwife about how you are feeling? Perhaps talking to them will help a little?
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Hello and congratulations on your pregnancy. Im also on my 2nd pregnancy and due in 2 months. I understand how you feel and what you're going through. Just know that you're not alone. It's ok to feel that way and it's mostly a result of hormones.
@Annabelle0505 How exciting, it's getting near now! How re you feeling?
Hi @mistymagic I'm feeling alright I guess. I get backpains and neckpain sometimes. And it's starting get really cold nowadays too where I live so it's no that fun and kinda depressive. But I got my 6 year old daughter here and she is like my best friend. But there is only so much you can expect from a 6 year old, as she doesn't fully understand what mommy has to go through and on top of that she still need a lot of help.
@Annabelle0505 your daughter sounds wonderful. It's amazing how adult they can be isn't it? They understand so much and pick up so much too. Such a great age to be!
It is. All the sleepless nights were worth it.
@Annabelle0505 do you have any tips on getting through those first few months? Sleep deprivation is so very tough.
We will you do differently this time around perhaps?
I would say try and sleep when baby is sleeping, because when baby is awake baby always needs something, to be fed, diaper change, play, carry around. Baby doesn't usually like to be on their own, likes to be carried and would usually cry if you put them down maybe because they're not used to the feeling outside the womb yet. It's better if there are people around to help. I had my parents to help me although my partner wasn't there so it wasn't so bad.
This time I am planning to have baby with me in a carry sling so that I can multitask because my parents won't be here to help. Do you have any tips to share? ( I don't know if you have a baby or have taken care of any?)
@Annabelle0505 I have two! and now my second grandchild!
I love the idea of a carry sling, it really made things easier for me, carrying the youngest and then playing with the toddler. But you must be careful not to overdo things for sure!
Sleeping when baby sleeps is the best one but all too often we go cleaning or hoovering, cooking or sterilising bottles, so time disappears.