[OLD THREAD] Project Achieve Your Goals - 18+
Setting goals is the easy part...reaching them can be more challenging!
Having someone support you in reaching your personal goals can be incredibly helpful. Today, wed like to announce a new community program aimed at helping you reach your goals.
Well need both listeners & members to make this happen! Here is how you can get involved in this project:
Members:
Step 1: Post a goal youd like to work towards in this thread. Be specific! Goals work great when you can make them measurable. Usually that involves a time period and a number of times. Additionally, you want to start by making goals achievable. Do not make your goals too hard or you will grow frustrated and not be able to reach them. Much better to make them easy to accomplish to build your confidence right from the start.
examples:
I want to cook dinner for myself 3 nights per week
I want to go to the gym 1 time per week
Take 3 growth path steps every day
Step 2: Specify if you'd like a listener to check in on you 1 or 2x/week.
Step 3: Wait for a listener to reply to you! They will reply and let you know they will support you reach this goal.
Step 4: PM this listener to get going! They will not be able to support you by checking in on you if you do not first PM them. If you find that a listener has not followed up, then please post again and request another listener.
Step 5: Post your progress each week in this thread and also on your feed so more people can support you in achieving your goals.
Step 6: Once you have achieved your goal and the new behavior or habit has been consistent for 21 days, then apply for the Goal 1 Badge. We'll likely have several goals, so there will be Goal 2, Goal 3 etc. (Feel free to help us come up with better names!)
Listeners:
Step 1: Wait for members to share their goals in this thread! When you see a goal/member youd like to support, reply to their forum post and let them know!
Step 2: Once this member has messaged you and established connection over PM, its your job to better understand the members goal, why its important and what you can do to best support them.
Step 3: Make a commitment! Check-in with this member twice per week and enquire about the goal!
Step 4: Let us know how you and your member are doing! In this thread, we will track your progress as team. Post here to let us know how it's going!
Step 5: After your member has reached their goal, let us know and apply for the Coach badge. More details on this soon!
I would like to work out three or four times a week, I keep saying that but never do, I guess it's the motivation. I'm not that motivated to go, even though it's right there. Also to be in better shape than I am in. I would also like to tie someone up, either by role play or in real life. I would like to have a listener help me.
@snowboardzx
hi ,
i am an adult listener and I would love to help you with this. Please pm me.
This is a great project! I love this idea. (If anyone wants to support me I'd be really happy)
My goal is to write. I have been wanting to write a book ever since I was a little kid, and I've never done it because I doubt myself too much. Lately I feel like it's now or never though but most of the time I still can't make myself do it or I'll do it and then delete everything because I feel like it sucks. I guess a more concrete goal would be to write something every other day, regardless of how bad I think it is.
@Cheeney
Hey, just a suggestion....did you try wattpad?
@dreamsallnight No, I haven't. That's a site where you can read and submit stories, right? I'll look it up, thanks.
@Cheeney
yeah it is. Good luck:)
@dreamsallnight Thanks! I made an account and published my story, though I wonder if it will even be read, because when I look at the site there is no option to see newly posted stories, just the ones that are popular.
@Cheeney
please pm me.
@Cheeney Writing can be such a powerful activity, I would be more than glad to encourage you to reach this goal :)
@Cheeney That is a goal I can relate to - I am getting close to finishing my first book, but I can't seem to reach the end. Writing can feel limitless as well as challenging, so I just wanted to wish you luck with your goal and let you know that loving your work is just as important as completing it. So long as you are happy with the story and the characters and their own goals, I'm sure their are listeners who can help you stay on track. All the best! 
@BeautyBeast73 Thanks for your support! You're right, loving writing is just as important as finishing. I do love it but I doubt myself way too much most of the time so I'm resistant to do it. But I'll try, I've nothing to lose. Good luck on finishing your book, I look forward to reading it :)
@Cheeney What a great goal to set for yourself!
@Cheeney It's a pity but I'm nit on the adult site yet - so you can't contact me: but, you're dream is magic! Never forget that, it's about the miracle and the way of writing! It might seem like you don't know exactly how to continue - but your inspiration will come if you just start. Confront yourself with the story, inform yourself and try to be free, okay? It's just nit about a race of writing, it's about your story and the style your using to explain what you saw whole imagining this other world! It's a beautiful dream & goal!:)
@Wanderlustig @SunshineCat Thanks for the encouragement! I've started writing a short story. I'll hopefully finish it today or tomorrow so I'll post it in the literature forum once I'm done! :)
@Cheeney Look forward to reading it!
@SunshineCat I've finished my first short story!:) If you want you can read it here:
https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsofTeaLiteratureClub_67/7CupsofTeaLiteratureSHORTSTORIES_267/Deaththecompanion_33416/
My Project is to finish writing the first 8 pieces of 5 campaigns. I'm having trouble staying focused and not falling into depression as I deal with the first anniversary of my father's death. I also work from home so it gets lonely and easy to fall into bad patterns.
@drgnflygrl
I am willing to help you to try reach your goal.
@drgnflygrl
feel free to PM message me.
My goal is to reduce my stress at work, basically in two steps:
1) Get things done at work. Less procrastination and more focusing on the to do list. Taking breaks when there I cannot focus anymore.
2) Sleep better. No more late gaming or watching TV, but exercising, meditation before sleep. Trying to eat healthier, if there is time.
At this point I do not know, how to get things done if I stay awake all night due to panic and anxiety. I do not know how to recover from exhaustion without feeling guilty for wasting time.
This is rather a long time project of mine. But strep 1 sounds reasonable as a start.
@Evechen Hi I am an adult listener. I have listened to others going through similar struggles. I regularly answer messages within 12-24 hours so you can reach out to me. Take a look at my home page if you want more info or to message me if you have questions before deciding.
http://www.7cups.com/@soulsings
Anyway, you might want to take a look at the self help guides on sleeping and college life and take some wisdom from peers and professionals.
http://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php
copy and paste above address into your browser.
Whatever you decide, you have the power within you to do what is needed. Let me know if you need a helping hand.
@Evechen hello! i'm also an adult listener and personally, i've actually gone through these stages in life. i'm willing to help you and support you in this! please do feel free to PM me, i'll usually reply asap unless if i'm sleeping, so :) i do hope to hear from you!
I want to start a support group at my school. As a freshman I don't have inspiration but it would be great to get support and help doing it.
@AngieLincoln
I am willing to help you reach your goal even though your a Listener :) Listeners need support sometimes, too!
my goal is to not let a man control my life and stop me from finding myself...
Another one of my goals is to stop with the lies. Stop lying to others and stop lying to my self .
I would like to be in better shape and lose the weight I need to in order to get to my healthy weight range for my age and height. So I am setting a goal of exercise. I
@falconer42
Hey, I'd love to help you with your goals! I love how organized you are with this! :)
@Em thanks so much Em. i should add that i'm trying to add exercise to my life since i've been advised it will help with depression and trouble sleeping.
@falconer42 update: weeks 1 and 2 achieved goal, yay! week three of exercised once so far. i haven't gone to the yoga class yet, but i have done other social things here, so i think that's okay. i actually feel kind of proud of myself (which is all mixed up with feeling ashamed for feeling proud -- my brain is wired weird), but the fact that i can allow myself to feel proud, even though i'm also feeling ashamed and guilty of feeling proud, is a good sign, IMO.
I want to write at least one song each week. It means so much to me, but I never do it, because I think they're not good enough.
@softgrungey I would love to help you achieve this goal! Please feel free to PM me!
Really just blown away by the listeners helping out here. Reaching a goal is really, really, really challenging. Having someone in your corner rooting for you makes all the difference.
Let's learn from this process and see what we can do to better help one another. If we can create a type of support/encouragement/accountability system that reliably works...well, like many things on 7 cups, it'll be miraculous :).
These are hard problems to solve and it looks like we are already off to a strong start. Thank you!
Thanks for the support! @GlenM