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falconer42
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PathStep 93 Compassion hearts198 Forum posts168 Forum upvotes225 Current upvotes225 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2017 Member sinceNovember 22, 2015
Bio

This Bio is under construction so please forgive my untidiness! ;)


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cute green owlthis is me, or if we lived in an animated world it would be. the owl is my spirit animal. it is symbolic of wisdom-seeking and change. i've embraced the idea that the nature of the universe is change, and the owl reminds me of that.
i'm a strange juxtaposition of things. i love both nature and technology. i get strength -- spirtual, emotional, physical -- through interaction with the natural world. the world of technology, particularly computers, gives me the ability to explore and create new worlds and an outlet for my creativity.cliffs and sea
the library in my mindi love to read and write, mostly in genres such as science fiction, cyberpunk, and fantasy. some of my favorite authors are Richard K. Morgan, Neil Gaiman, Charles de Lint, Tanya Huff, and Ursala K. Le Guin.
working in web design as a freelancer has freed me from many of the problems i encountered trying to do traditional work: i control when i see people, what projects i take on, and my own productivity. i set my own goals, and can break them down into manageable steps to reward myself. downside is that i am almost always working, and the pressure to get clients is strong.digital image
my homei live with my fiancee and my puggle, chloe, in a 40 foot motorhome. we travel the country: meeting people and hearing their stories; seeing beautiful places; and witnessing cultural events. i love traveling and am lucky and grateful at my age (34) to get to do this. it can be isloating, though, so i'm working on making friends and maintaining those relationships. you can read my work-in-progress travel blog at lost rambler

Recent forum posts
Can't break free of my relationship with my ex
Relationship Stress / by falconer42
Last post
 March 10th, 2017
...See more last summer I broke things off with my fiancée. But he is my only friend outside of family. So we agreed to stay friends (bad idea, I know). Now I know he still loves me in that way, and thinks he can get me back. He wants to talk on the phone all the time, and when I don't he gets upset 😭. I don't want to talk that much. I don't see how to tell him without hurting him. How do I get the strength to tell him I need more space, which would cause him pain?
Where can I find a list of the threads I'm following?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by falconer42
Last post
 January 24th, 2016
...See more hi there mods and admins, it's me. again. if there someplace i can look up all the threads i'm following? or i posted in? or started? i can't remember the name of a thread i started so i can't use the search function to find it... thanks all!
anyone having trouble posting to their feed?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by falconer42
Last post
 January 8th, 2016
...See more hi all. i don't seem to be able to post to my feed today. i keep getting "post not recorded" messages. i've re-loaded, tried in different browsers. nothing. anyone else having (or have had) this problem? thanks!
listener gone?
Safety & Knowledge at 7 Cups / by falconer42
Last post
 December 24th, 2015
...See more what does it mean when a listener disseapers from your conversations and their avatar is black?
problems trusting same-sex friends after childhood abuse
Trauma Support / by falconer42
Last post
 January 18th, 2016
...See more hi all, i'm still not quite ready to talk about everything that happened to me when i was a kid, but i did experience peer-on-peer same sex abuse as well as bullying. throughout my adult life i've been unable to make meaningful friend connections with other women/girls. i wonder if anyone else has experienced this? i find i just can't bring myself to trust other women/girls not to hurt me. but often the male friends i've had want to take it to a sexual relationship, which i don't want either. i've formed superficial bonds with other women, but i can't confide in someone i don't trust. so now i'm just lonely. really, really lonely.
Remembering the 22
Depression Support / by falconer42
Last post
 November 29th, 2015
...See more Watching football today, I saw a piece on this project and wanted to share it here. The statistic that 22 vets kill themselves a day absolutely struck me. That's over 7,000 a year. Here's the link: https://www.warriorsforfreedom.org/rememberingthe22/ I'm not a vet myself, but I have nothing but respect for these people who put themselves in harm's way to make us safer. Regardless of politics, I believe these people to be heroes.
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