Daily Chit Chat with a Friend
Just a nice Chit Chat with a friend is all that is needed.
So... How was your day today?
@IsayUncle How was your day? Did you go to the bank? How is your kitchen looking? Mine is a mess but I'm going to work on it and see how nice I can get it. 💙
@Psalm139
Today has been an UGGGH day. I think I'm ok with the bank but now the seller wants to change the conditions. And my helper kid is just that... a kid, not an accomplished laborer, hench me having to be involved PLUS these poor adoptees don't get much for food... So cooking for him too. I made him wash the dishes though! yay!
@IsayUncle Hey sorry I wasn't on in time to respond. I'm sorry your day was frustrating. How did your friend change the terms?
I think it's pretty awesome that with all you have going on you still take the time to do things with "your" kids. Bonus that he did the dishes!
I did have a pretty good day. We got about 90 percent done with school. I also got the kitchen mostly cleaned. Jax learned to read "yellow" and "green". Bentley read our memory verse and poem for the week so he is progressing great too.
Homeschool was crazy last year with Jax having surgery in September and adjusting and helping him to recover from that so it is so encouraging to see all the kids' growth and progress even during the summer break.
I hope you have a better day tomorrow and things get figured out with your equipment. I'll look for a message from you in the morning 💙
@Psalm139
Good Morning 
That's really really nice you had a good day. It must be really cool when you actually see your kids learn something. I'm really happy you had a good day! 💚. The guy said something on the phone about breaking up the equipment instead of buying as a pckage. i told him not over the phone, talk in person. That'll be today. 😐.
I hope I have a better day today too. I'm only working one or two kids on Mondays and Tuesdays. Yesterday, I said adoptee's but I meant Foster kids.
I hope you have another really nice day. I was going to do a side job after my morning run bus run but feel like I need to come home and get caught up on my routine project. Also dealing with the loan thing. Wish me luck. 
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@IsayUncle I don't understand how I can get up at 7 and your message is 5 hours ago lol. At 2 am my time. Craziness. I do want to work on getting up earlier but I don't think I'll ever get to a 2 am wake up time. Lol.
I really hope you get the equipment deal worked out to where it is fair and a good deal for you. I'm sorry he changed the terms on you. That's super frustrating. I'll be thinking of you💙
I thought when you said adoptee that you probably meant foster kids since you said you had some on your bus. Those are the kids that really are alone and need the extra people in their lives to show they care. So it's awesome you do that for them💙
I hope today is going well so far. Check in when you have time. I know you're busy. So far so good here -my coffee is yummy☕☕☕💙
@Psalm139
Hi M. I just got home from bringing my helper home.
@IsayUncle Your helper? Is everything ok? Check in later after you get settled if you have time, ok?💙
@IsayUncle TRASH
@SkylarRainbow123 BAD DAY huh? What happened?
@IsayUncle Lol idk how this comment even got here but life is trash been depressed since I was 11
@SkylarRainbow123
I'm so sorry, such a young age to feel trashed. If you don't mind, how old are you now? Things can and often do get better as we get older and keep learning about the goodness in the world. Ugliness is so freaking easy to see and it's cheap, hateful and everywhere but goodness is special and more vaualble, harder to see and find but there's plenty of it out there. Keep an eye open for it. It's there, I promise.
In the meantime, do you wish to share what's going now?
@IsayUncle I'm 20 now and stuff has only gotten worse thru the yrs and imma be honest there's so much bad stuff that I seriously have no idea where to start
@SkylarRainbow123
“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles... by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.” Mark Twain
“I've heard there are
troubles of more than one kind; some come from ahead, and some come from
behind. But I've brought a big bat. I'm all ready, you see; now my troubles are
going to have troubles with me!” Dr.
Seuss
We can fight our troubles and WIN!
You may not have any idea where to start "TODAY" but keep thinking on it and solutions will begin to present themselves. AND you did kinda start and quite smartly too, I might add. You found a place to that offers hope, answers and relief. We can keep talking if you think you'd like that.
It's nice to meet you Skylar. 😃 I'm off to work but let me know what's happening today if you want.
Aww I love this 🧡🧡
So I just want to share that today I left my job and actually feel great about it because I have decided I want to live my life on my terms and pursue the things I really wanna do in life. It is a risk yes, am I nervous? Sure, but every great success story has risk and failure in it.
The chit chat is so good. You can chat and get problems solved. If others are on same boat they can get help too. XX
@IsayUncle I'm sorry the equipment didn't work out but it sounds like you made a good decision not to pursue it.
I had a pretty good day but have been very tired. I'm just cutting my sleep a little to try to go to bed earlier. Hoping for a 10:00 bedtime tonight. I've been getting up at 7:00 but 6:00 would be better.
Is your kitchen clean? What did you and your helper work on tonight? I still need to clean my kitchen. Idk why that seems so hard to me.
Bentley read to me for probably 45 minutes and Jax listened, so that was a highlight 💙
@Psalm139
My helper is a 16 year old and his name is Cameron. He's a little slow so I'm just giving him a hand swinging weed cutter and letting him just cut different areas in the yard for 2 hours per day. He's tickled to death to earn $12 x 2 (2 days). Loves dinner time and then I bring him home. (today with left overs for his brothers who are also on my bus). Likes washing the dishes afterwards too.
So, my routine is interupted by loan inquiries and Cameron involvement but I'm still angling towards it. Mondays are supposed to be my receipt day and Tuesdays are going to be my vacuuming day. I'm definetly more aware of my time and what's not getting done but this is first week is one of adjustment.
I'm glad another pretty good day ensued. Working with kids and having that structure probably helps some and you enjoy it, like the reading thing with bently and Jax. Very Cool. You talk about not knowing why the dishes are hard, idk either but something similar happens to me when i have to change my bedding. It could take me all weekend just thinking about and it shuts me down a lot... idk why or how it does it. You have a lot going on all day plus I bet there's a lot of dirty dishes that magically appear. So maybe it's just a "Big Sigh" mind-block like my bedding.
I got two other students coming to work on my van on the weekend. High Schoolers in Auto Shop $6/hr for them too. I can't afford to pay these kids for long but I have all the tools and means to keep them occupied. I've come up with a solution. "For the Students" "By the Students". Building dog houses and all the profits go to the students but the whole thing is about manufacturing and money management and advertisement, website etc. I could master an assembly line and do 10 dog houses a day. $125 each... Advertise local trading shows and radio staions, fairs "For the Students" "By the Students". they'd sell like hotcakes! No overhead, just materials. (Just an idea😊 I'm aiming for.)
@IsayUncle It's ok that you needed to go to bed. I understand. I think that dog house idea is pretty cool, but make sure you don't take on too much, ok? Seems like you keep yourself pretty busy as it is. We're you thinking of that as something to do on the weekends or in the summer?
What you are doing with Cameron sounds amazing. It might just be a few hours a week for you but I bet as a foster kid it means a lot to him to have someone that cares like that.💙 I think you wish you could save them all, huh?
It definitely helps me to have a routine. I am afraid for winter though because last year I got really bad.
Anyway I'll talk to you in the morning. I'm getting tired💙
@Psalm139
Good Morning M, 
It sounds like we both have very full days. Your hours are just shifted forward by several hours. haha. btw, try not to let fear or past experiences dictate current scenerio's. Everyone know's winter brings on the gloomy doomies, some succumb to it and some hit the slopes instead of camping. Might not be able to afford skiing but think about winter celebration days and prepare for sledding, snowman building, terrible cookie tuesdays, Sorry, sometimes I just go over the top to fight obstacles. I DO know what you mean about winter days. They often carry a coldness and a desire to shut down with them. It can be very depressing. I do understand but maybe it won't be so bad this year.
Have you started your iron and vitamen d.... I never heard of vitamen d making someone nausious so i looked it up? And yes it is a thing but not so bad if you take it with food like after dinner. Also if you take it EVERY day, your body becomes accustomed to it and then you can take it whenever you want. You probably know all of this because I think you are very attuned with taking care of your body but I was just curious and looked it up. 😊
It's getting to be the middle of the week so we will probably start feeling a bit more tired. I would love to rest today but I better go do a side job I got lined out. So you be aware too and just rest a bit more if you have to. 💚
@IsayUncle Good morning 💙.
I did actually take my vitamin d the day before yesterday and didn't get sick, so maybe it will be ok. She said I was on the low side of normal for iron so I think just taking that weekly would be ok.
But I am horrible about going out. I like the idea of building a snowman and we do try it every year, but it can be hard to find a day with lots of good packable snow that isn't super cold. And I hate being cold. I did think of sledding. I'm not sure where we can do that here but there has to be somewhere. I also love Christmas because I love buying stuff for the kids and making them happy. So fun💙. I spend hours making lists of everything I want for each of them and evening out numbers of gifts and finding the best deals and then wrapping and arranging the gifts lol. Even 5 per kid is 25 gifts lol. I think we usually end up with between 5-10 each, with a few that are more needs based, like sheets, a new soft blanket, clothes, shoes, etc, and the rest being fun.
It's just the day to day of winter that gets hard. The 5 pm darkness. Not getting out at all, even for walks or camping. I am trying to go to bed earlier and if I can get to bed by 8 and up at 5 or 6, the getting dark by 5 might not feel as bad. Last night we were in bed at 10.
I have to take our Himalayan cat to the vet today to be shaved. All three cats are congregating around where the food and water goes because I put it away lol. She can't have any since she will be put to sleep and they probably think I'm very slow to not understand what they are trying to communicate by sitting there, lol!
Anyway, I suppose I should get ready to take her. One thing I do love about getting up early is drinking my coffee while the house is still quiet☕☕☕
Have a good day💙. Talk to you later!
@Psalm139
I forgot... about winter... of course our bodies adapt to the slower weather conditions too but that should be accepted and embraced by still doing things but in a slower gentler way throughout the winter months. Really sorry, couldn't help myself. 😣. I do know know how hard it can be, honest.
@IsayUncle Belle looks super cute and tiny with her hair cut. Everything went well with it💙. I'm super tired again. Hopefully I can get to bed by 9 tonight. I think it's the medicine. I slept 9 hours so I should feel rested. How was your day? Are you tired too?
Lazy
a pot of mixed poo but glitter sprinkled on it
@IsayUncle Good morning 💙. Way is making you feel overloaded? Just a lot going on at once?
No more appointments this week but my younger daughter is turning 14 on Saturday. Then my middle son is turning 8 on the following Saturday. Then on the 26th I have to call in for jury duty. Hopefully I won't actually have to go in! And then on the 27th Jax has a day of appointments in Iowa City - ultrasound of kidneys and bladder and check up with his surgeon.
I hope you're ok. You were pretty quiet yesterday and when I get like that it's usually because I'm really bad and I don't want to burden anyone with it.
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@Psalm139
It looks likes birthdays and dr appts (poor jax) will keep you on your toes! ..... shhhhh, don't say the "J" word, Say it Aint so Joe.... No Jury duty!
How was your day today, did you ever finish the kitchen? And by the way, I was overlloaded.but feeling better this afternoon.
@IsayUncle Yeah let's hope I don't have to go in. There was only one other time I was called for it and I just had to call in daily for a week but didn't have to serve. Hoping that is the case again! Have you ever had to do it?
I'm really glad you're feeling better💙. I had a hard time this morning. Just in my head, but I was able to go through with our routines for school. I'm better now but still tired. Jax got up at 8 so maybe we will be able to get to bed a little earlier tonight. Altering sleep schedules is hard. Are you still staying up later and cleaning the kitchen? I am done with the painting, yes. I'll try to get a picture later so you can see💙
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@Psalm139
Very nice job on the kitchen, with matching appliances... great! 💚. I know you're glad to be done with that.
I guess you are right about changing sleep times. I only had to do it years ago changing shifts at a factory. I remember one time I woke up at 6 and thought I was late because the sun was coming up (so I thought)... by the time I got to the car I realized it was 6pm... not 6am (then sun was setting) haha. But just changing or shifting a couple of hours must be hard because the body is used to that zone, I can see that. I like setting my tv timer for 20-30 mnutes and listening to a no brainer series so i know the voices and characters.... I go right to sleep and then the tv turns itself off, not waking me later.
Never served JD but got call a few times. I'm doing my (last) MONDAY routine task now.. receipts.
cya later gator.
@Psalm139
I did get some receipts done and got the kitchen cleaned up. hope your pasgetti was good.
@IsayUncle Good job getting everything done 💙. It sounds like your routines are working pretty well!
That is funny about you waking up at 6 pm and thinking it was morning, lol! I can't complain too much about adjusting my sleep patterns. It's not like I have to do it. But getting school done before Justin is home is so much easier. And late nights are never productive anyway. Im just so tired.
Anyway, tomorrow is Friday so yay for that, lol. Do you have any weekend plans? We don't. But I do try to get the house a little nicer and do a few extra chores on the weekends. And of course we will celebrate Rylee's birthday 💙
I'd say goodnight but I know you'll read this when you wake up, so good morning 💙
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@Psalm139
Good Morning,
That's good if you can adjust your hours a little bit to give yorself a little more "alert" time. PLUS if you end up with a bonus, like some extra quiet time enjoying your coffee; that's significant. I hope you keep finding good advantages so it's easier to do. I wasn't able to adhere completely to my routine (because I threw an extra wrench or two into the spokes. hehe) BUT it helped a lot having a structure or framework to try to abide by. It should have opened my weekend up some so maybe I'll change the kennel and dog house straws and beddings.
PS. Your kitchen really does look awesome. Great job! Have a great day! 😊
@IsayUncle
Here's the kitchen, I was going to wash the dishes first but that may be a while since I'm making spaghetti so here it is💙
@Psalm139
@IsayUncle
Good morning 💙. I really like the way the kitchen looks too and Justin has commented on replacing the counter and sink so we'll see! That would be nice 💙. I do really like the colors though. My appliances match because whenever I buy a new one I get it in a pretty color if they have one, lol. So I basically painted the cabinets to match my pretty colored mixer, coffee maker, and pitchers💙
I'm glad your routine is helping. My routine for school hasn't gone perfectly either, it's the oldest that is the most difficult. I still have to figure out how to get things done with her. Rylee and Treyton are great. Jax is iffy. Depends on his mood, lol! Bentley is a little like Makennah, not really into it. He is pretty excited about how well he is reading though, so we've been doing that a lot. It's just a process of adjusting things until they work, really. Same for you I'd guess? Just with different things.
I'm also still trying to work on the clean kitchen at night goal. I haven't gotten it perfect yet but I'm getting there💙
Happy Friday! Ttyl💙
@Psalm139
I can tell you are staying on top of things and letting them shape themselves a little bit and checking out the flow early on... that's great. either way, you got your hands full but it sounds like you really embrace it whole heatedly and that is wonderful to feel in your correspodence. I'm guessing it's pretty tiring and nerve wrackng at times though. Sounds really good so far.
Back to routine.... Epic failure for completion, Epic success for possibilities. My paperwork and floors were the only two things I tried to put into my routine for mondays and tuesdays (to be done so I could do other things) Still workinhg on those. i did manage to keep my dogs medications up to date all week.. good routine yay!
@IsayUncle oh and the bowls on the table are basically a constant fixture: Jaxon's pretzels and Nutella lol.