Reflection on how to do pick up (for girls and guys)
Hi this is like a workshop were every can add from their life experiences, and the idea is to work together towards what will aid us in our goals, this is aimed for trying to help both girls who usually never chase guys or guys who struggle to chase girls.
Here some points to reflect upon.
There is no such a thing of femininity of masculinity, but is not more than a social construct, by you understand this males will struggle less to tap into their emotions and its more like dive in into what comes natural to you, not what has been force feed by others. Or for women to be bold and brave and to go and talk to the guy who they fancy. Both female and male have a lot of potential within them,
Learn to be more present in the moment, here and now, lots of people try to strategize on ways to do pick ups, and they go so much into theories and this and that which fail on the most simple of things which is to be present in the moment and try to connect with the person they are in front of them.
No generalizations, no preconceptions, no statistics, we will have a hard time to connect with someone if we think or feel like everyone will be the same cause of some previous bad experiences we had or based on reading more of these bad experiences, which reinforce our negative believes. I do believe that our time in this world is limited and this could limit a lot in what we can experience out of life. Remember every experience is a new world a new challenge a new door which could open.
Find your inner voice, often times in this world as we live we get to be more influenced by others than to learn on how we want to become. You might enjoy being with different people, or committing to one, but that is more like an inner search, more like what you want to experience out of life, and not so much of what it has been force feed by your parents, your peers and so on.
listen to your thoughts and your emotions but learn trust, positivity and to be playful within life, less structured and more dynamic to grow and heal, your emotions could guide you into finding new people to share some time with, and when you are feeling bad is good you can open to someone and trust, i know trust does not comes easy, but trying to move forward speaks volumes. Playfulness is a part we had more when we were kids but some might loose as we age become less spontaneous, less present in the moment, more afraid of things, more robotic, is good to explore what potential we have.
life is full of imperfections, one of the trends i see is being too caught into seeing all the things which to some might feel unfair, like they will call out on many things of society, but sometimes is about learning to treasure what we have while we are still alive and healthy, while we can enjoy it, things might be far from ideal, but life is more rich when we can have different experiences rather than being bitter about on the things we don`t like about how our world is.
Team work last point i want to mention is team work which means if you talk to someone ( either if you are a girl or a guy) you are venturing into a new territory of getting to know someone, seeing if a door might open for you, seeing if there is a chance, given the case that things move forward it could be an experience that both people might enjoy, remember to be mindful of who you have in front of you.
It would be nice to keep working on this, have a lovely weekend ;) 😛