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chatgpt helping me with my life
Mindfulness Center / by okeyyyy
Last post
 February 5th
...See more You said: humans tend to be hyper selfish and lying manipulators disgusting people who pretend to care and backstab you, how can someone be relaxed when being among them? ChatGPT said: It’s hard to relax when trust is shaken, but not everyone operates with bad intentions. Building healthy boundaries and surrounding yourself with people who genuinely value and respect you can help reduce that stress. Focus on those who show consistent kindness, and try not to let the actions of a few overshadow the good in others. Ultimately, staying grounded in your own values and practicing self-care are key to finding peace, even in a challenging environment. You said: how do you do this when I had been dealing with constant neurosis cause of abusive parents? and it feels like people will do whatever for money, and sometimes your family values feels all wrong, using big words for something , saying one thing to appear nice or deceive you and doing other to take advantage of you, so this has made me get too much in my head i think. ChatGPT said: I'm really sorry you've had to deal with such heavy experiences—it’s deeply painful when the people who are supposed to protect and nurture you instead cause harm. Growing up with abusive parents can lead to a constant state of vigilance, mistrust, and overthinking, especially when it feels like the world operates on selfishness. It makes sense that this has you in your head a lot—it's a survival mechanism, trying to anticipate and guard against harm. But staying in that space too long can drain your energy and make it harder to heal or connect. Here are some steps that might help you begin shifting out of this cycle:     Validate Your Feelings: It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling. Your experiences are real, and acknowledging them is the first step to processing the pain and mistrust. You don’t have to rush past this.     Seek Safe Spaces: Surround yourself with people who consistently act with kindness and integrity. Even one or two people like this can remind you that not everyone is out to harm or manipulate. Look for those who align actions with words.     Start Small with Trust: If trusting others feels too big, start with tiny steps—like sharing a little and observing how someone responds. Building trust is gradual and doesn’t need to be all-or-nothing.     Therapeutic Help: A trauma-informed therapist could be transformative in helping you unpack the damage from abusive relationships and regain confidence in yourself and others.     Redefine Your Values: If family values feel hollow or wrong, create your own. What do you believe in? What kind of life and relationships do you want? Start acting according to your values rather than what you were taught.     Practice Mindfulness: Overthinking is exhausting. Practices like mindfulness meditation or even journaling can help you step back from racing thoughts and focus on the present moment.     Focus on Self-Compassion: Talk to yourself kindly. If you wouldn't blame a friend for feeling the way you do, don’t blame yourself either. You’re doing your best in a hard situation. It’s okay if you don’t trust easily right now—it’s part of healing. But as you grow stronger and create a life aligned with your values, you may find it easier to let go of some of the fear and reconnect with your own power. Does any of this resonate with where you’re at?
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I had been badly treated in a meet up even in a hostel.
Anxiety Support / by okeyyyy
Last post
 January 26th
...See more so i went to a meet up event , for being sociable,   the event was held in a hostel, i thought the event was going to last longer, it was like 1 hour and 30 mins i was not aware of this.  in another day it lasted for hours,  so were were people from different places practicing English and Spanish   mid event high school kids showed up to the place , which was like a saloon with tables,   there were many teenagers, and kinda got noisy,   i believe the one who organized the event was not aware that there was another event on the same place so the two events got mixed up.   they kinda first asked us to move tables,   then there was this guy , who i was not aware that was the owner of the hostel,   he was kinda hurrying me and the other guys on the table to leave, which i felt that was quite unpolite ,   i told him dont bother me, i thought it was a nobody,   so he got really aggressive, like more insistent, and aggressive in how he was talking to me, like hei dude i did told you to leave,   the place thought cause oh i am the owner i can treat you like crap, he said dont yell, while yelling at me,   while trying to explain him that he was hurrying me to go away, like aggressively, he kinda kept you know being aggressive, also told me you dont come here anymore.  but the place was suppose to be a relaxing event,  some people can like have a smile pretend to be chill and be really mean   so other of the guys who were there witnessed that, and there was a french guy who was really good and spanish and kinda was not happy how unfair the owner was with me so i felt really badly treated, how an owner of a hostel, were people are suppose to be with good vibes is such a mean person,  i can see how well business is business,
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some stranger guy did a kinda pretend to punch me in the face
Anxiety Support / by okeyyyy
Last post
 September 22nd, 2024
...See more So i was in the showers, which cause me great anxiety to shower in locker room after coming out of swimming pool, so i was putting hand on chest like of anxiety, and with head down, and i kinda some some young guy throwing a fist in my face not very close but kinda close, I thought like what the..... I was already too anxious to do anything, also showering in public space especially when there are more people kinda gives me a lot of anxiety. For me a lot of the problem is that many times something that bothers me at one time I keep on thinking about it over and over again, is like I get into this loops of getting stuck in thoughts in things which might be insignificant to some people.  thanks for reading
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The world were money and greed rules, and using people, lies and deception.
Mindfulness Center / by okeyyyy
Last post
 November 2nd, 2024
...See more My family had been getting really good with money, I live with a family that is so utterly fake which it has become really obnoxious, were every meeting is more like showing off stuff, the battle of how shows off more, such as oh, brother took off picture in a holiday to show off, etc. Maybe the antisocial media/phones has worsen this process. Also sometimes feels like the things i used to see as core important feel like they are just so empty. Family feels like uttering empty words into the wind, maybe I am too naïve on to see how the world is, and i had been spoiled a lot. Its like when people have money it can turn you into something unrecognizable, were greed can make you so selfish were you can see people as tools to be used. Money can really change people for the worst, what do you think? 
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Reading & Writing / by okeyyyy
Last post
 January 6th
...See more Glimmer glimmer dance of the night , light of moon dust, hope for a better tomorrow, seeing you fade away and coming back to me , wishing you be closer to then fade again, come to me, wish you were more than just a dream, hope where there is no hope, glimmer of a better tomorrow, who am I to say, if this was only a dream. darkness, darkness dancing all around us, clouding out shadows, shattering the blue sky, surrounding us with fear and distrust, no more hope, no more tomorrow, leave my side darkness be gone, I cant seam to grasp myself, my emotions are difficult to grasp, who am I , what am i , I am yet to find out, darkness darkness begone and let me be.
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nightmare I had
Anxiety Support / by okeyyyy
Last post
 August 8th, 2024
...See more Lately I had been having some nightmares, today was very different from any kinda nightmares I had before, probably it has been influenced by desperation for wanting to improve, maybe i am pushing myself too much pass the breaking point. Previous to going to sleep there were thoughts in my mind as if they were coming from somebody else, or passing thoughts of other people, My dream was more in the realm of insanity, part of always have the believe that in your dreams you could connect with some entities or gods or something. I fully dont recall my dream, but I recall connecting with something or someone or some ones in my dream, it felt more like my dream I was hyper loaded with information, and stimulated past my braking point. It felt like those who contacted me wanted me to do bad things for them, but all these was being done telepathically, like if our minds were connecting, and i was not to speak of this to anyone. I was surprised that I managed to sleep during the nightmare. I woke up at a bit before 3 am, maybe being too much alone could had contributed to this. and me that was thinking that oh i havent had nightmares in such a long time, and here we are again, nightmares. 
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Reflection on how to do pick up (for girls and guys)
Mindfulness Center / by okeyyyy
Last post
 August 8th, 2024
...See more Hi this is like a workshop were every can add from their life experiences, and the idea is to work together towards what will aid us in our goals, this is aimed for trying to help both girls who usually never chase guys or guys who struggle to chase girls. Here some points to reflect upon. There is no such a thing of femininity of masculinity, but is not more than a social construct, by you understand this males will struggle less to tap into their emotions and its more like dive in into what comes natural to you, not what has been force feed by others. Or for women to be bold and brave and to go and talk to the guy who they fancy. Both female and male have a lot of potential within them,  Learn to be more present in the moment, here and now, lots of people try to strategize on ways to do pick ups, and they go so much into theories and this and that which fail on the most simple of things which is to be present in the moment and try to connect with the person they are in front of them.  No generalizations, no preconceptions, no statistics, we will have a hard time to connect with someone if we think or feel like everyone will be the same cause of some previous bad experiences we had or based on reading more of these bad experiences, which reinforce our negative believes. I do believe that our time in this world is limited and this could limit a lot in what we can experience out of life. Remember every experience is a new world a new challenge a new door which could open. Find your inner voice, often times in this world as we live we get to be more influenced by others than to learn on how we want to become. You might enjoy being with different people, or committing to one, but that is more like an inner search, more like what you want to experience out of life, and not so much of what it has been force feed by your parents, your peers and so on. listen to your thoughts and your emotions but learn trust, positivity and to be playful within life, less structured and more dynamic to grow and heal, your emotions could guide you into finding new people to share some time with, and when you are feeling bad is good you can open to someone and trust, i know trust does not comes easy, but trying to move forward speaks volumes. Playfulness is a part we had more when we were kids but some might loose as we age become less spontaneous, less present in the moment, more afraid of things, more robotic, is good to explore what potential we have. life is full of imperfections,  one of the trends i see is being too caught into seeing all the things which to some might feel unfair, like they will call out on many things of society, but sometimes is about learning to treasure what we have while we are still alive and healthy, while we can enjoy it, things might be far from ideal, but life is more rich when we can have different experiences rather than being bitter about on the things we don`t like about how our world is. Team work last point i want to mention is team work which means if you talk to someone ( either if you are a girl or a guy) you are venturing into a new territory of getting to know someone, seeing if a door might open for you, seeing if there is a chance, given the case that things move forward it could be an experience that both people might enjoy, remember to be mindful of who you have in front of you.  It would be nice to keep working on this, have a lovely weekend ;) 😛
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