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Questioning, again.

bunnycat2409 March 23rd, 2023

I identify as aroacespec. But I think I have a crush on one of my closest friends. So I am questioning my sexuality. Again.

I don’t really know what I should do, since I am pretty comfortable with staying friends, and because I am moving to a different country in about a month.

I now understand the term “gay panic”

I think this means I am demiromantic.

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EmotionsListener March 23rd, 2023

@bunnycat2409

It can certainly be confusing when you've never had such feelings to experience them and then find yourself questioning your identity all over again. One thing I found useful was to ask myself. "What really changed, even if the label I use to describe myself changed?"

So perhaps consider the following questions:

  • How do you feel about the demi-labels?
  • How do you feel about the crush you are experiencing aside from what it may mean for your identity?
  • What would being demi mean for you that aro-ace did not?

I hope you are able to find either find comfort in the uncertainty or gain greater certainty. But I also hope that you don't feel the need to fit yourself into any specific label, our labels can change and grow as we change and grow to understand ourselves better. As I like to say labels are there to describe us, not to define us.

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

TheArtistSystem April 20th, 2023

@bunnycat2409

ah yes gay panic the best and worst thing ever honestly you got this is all i can say but its okay to not know! im still learning!