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what are your pronouns and chosen name??

Listeningsarinn June 17th, 2021

Happy pride month awesome lgbtq+ community!

If comfortable share with me in replies <3
What are your pronouns and your preferred name?? How do you identify??
What makes pronouns and chosen names such an important context is in fact, that how you are referred to is not only one of the hugest things, giving a person sense of identity and comes as a way of expressing who they truly are, but also others saying it and using it in daily conversations is a way of showing acceptance and acknowledgment of one’s identity by people around them
A way of experiencing one’s true self and having it seen and validated
With that said, being referred to with wrong pronouns or dead names (the name assigned at birth that does not fit in with the gender identity one identifies with) can come as extremely hurtful, especially if a person is out and is being referred to intentionally in a wrong way
Even as a closeted Trans or non-binary person being referred to in a wrong way can be a trigger for more extreme social and mental dysphoria and cause a sense of being invalidated or being unseen as who they are, the very known feeling of being in the wrong body, or carrying a heavy weight of wrong identity
~ if someone uses more than one pronouns, using either of those is okay but it's usually preffered to switch between the chosen pronouns, for example for a friend of mine using she/they prounouns, i'd go like, "they came to my place and when i asked them about their kid, she said..."
A reminder that who you are, and how you view your identity and yourself is completely valid, accepted and enough exactly the way you are
~ If someone misgenders you:
Don’t be afraid of correcting them, if the idea of correcting people makes you uncomfortable you can make it easier for yourself by practicing with your reflection in the mirror or a friend/family member you are out to
You can also ask someone you are out to, to help you with correcting people either by telling them upfront or using the right pronouns in front of them
As an ally you need to know that:
~ asking is better than mistaking, please do not “assume” one’s pronouns by their clothes, or their sexual body parts
it’s always okay to ask a person what pronouns they use or, how would they like you to call them, most people will be happy to have you ask and respect their answer keeping it in mind in future conversation
~ if asking is not possible for you in a given situation, it’s safe to use they/them pronouns until you can be sure, in the meanwhile, listen for people close to them referring to the person
~ a person’s “real” name is their chosen name and the way they identify is their “only gender”, asking for birth names and gender assigned at birth is a rude and inappropriate act
~ Do not out a person, unless they are asking you to help with coming out
~ do not push your idea of a label someone has chosen on them, every one’s experience is unique and that is completely okay and won’t make their experience any less real
~ you may make mistakes and misgender the person at times which is completely okay and normal, humans make mistakes, if you misgender someone:

  • Don’t argue or take it badly if they or someone else corrects you
  • Either If you are corrected by someone or you notice your mistake yourself, don’t make a big deal of it, that can make it uncomfy both for you and the person you misgendered
  • Apologize briefly, correct yourself and move on trying to be more careful in the rest of conversation
more to come on dysphoria and how to cope with it!
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10xAces June 21st, 2021

@Listeningsarinn My pronouns are she/he/they and my name is Mari. Also I'm agender.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@10xAces
thanks for sharing mari! Happy pride month *~^

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tidyFarm162 June 21st, 2021

I am a he from birth 💜 preffered name is any name u guys call me 💜

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@tidyFarm162
💜🍃 i love the purple heart anddd i adore your personality!
allies are a huge part of this community *~*

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tidyFarm162 June 30th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn thanks sarinn <3 *huggles*

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dj15822 June 23rd, 2021

my pronouns are they/them/she and my preferred name is dajah.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@dj15822
Happy pride month and thanks a lot for sharing dajah! *~^ hope to hear from you again in lgbtq+ forums!

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cybersins June 23rd, 2021

my pronouns are she/they and my preferred name is maya❤️

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@cybersins
maya is a beautiful name *~* thanks for sharing❤️ And happy happy pride🌈

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rubbersoul666 June 24th, 2021

I have no idea what my gender identity is but I’m fine with any pronoun. My birth name is Hiba but i’ve been trying out Kai

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@rubbersoul666
thanks for sharing kai! And no worries on not being sure, you have time to fiscover your gender identity and as long as you feel comfy with it no labels are needed, just being you is completely okay *~^

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QuinsoCheese June 24th, 2021

My pronouns are she/her and my preferred name is Nevaeh or Quin.(Some of my friends call me Quin but I mostly go by Nevaeh) And I identify as a woman.

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QuinsoCheese June 24th, 2021

*I also identify as asexual panromantic

Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@QuinsoCheese
thanks for sharing nevaeh! *~^ happy pride month! Also quin is a cool nickname 🍃❤️

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QuinsoCheese June 30th, 2021

Thank you

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KayaReyn1025 June 24th, 2021

I dont know my pronouns but my name is Kaya, I have a gender neutral name since birth so I think I'll keep my original name but I've been struggling with my gender and who I am and who I want to be, but I currently go by all pronouns which might change one day when I figure myself out

GhostTheHeThey June 24th, 2021

My pronouns are he/they/it and my preferred names are Felix/Anarchy or L :)

PeacePink June 24th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn

I do not really care much for pronouns when it comes to myself. People can call make she/her, they/them, or he/him----whatever they are more comfortable with. I have had people tell me that even though I am biologically female and have a lot of physical feminine beauty, I have a strikingly masculine personality, so sometimes people feel as if they are speaking with a guy in a girl's body. Other than that, I generally think that I am woman, just a very "manly" one. Unfortunately, I cannot disclose my name on the forum because 7Cups has rules about disclosing personally-identifying information, but I assure you that my name is just as lovely as me.

I hope my jokes pleased you.

crabfacts June 25th, 2021

my name is trick, though on here i go by crab. i prefer it/its pronouns but many people aren't comfortable using those so on here i use he/him. i'm genderqueer and gay [: