What is something that happened to you recently that helped?
I got some negative feedback took me to a really bad place in cups I mean I am a listeners and suddenly I become a leper noone wants to talk explain bam my id is blocked. I appealed came back and did ldp and QLP gave my confidence back did all the training packs including al4 badge awaiting don't know what happened to that but in all it makes me happy and proud to accomplish what I could. Pat on the back for recelience.
Take feedback positively don't let it pull you down. Rise like a soaring phoenix...
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@adventurousSquare6860
I got a raise! ^_^
@Torean Hi! Yay, thatās fabulous! Congratulations! Donāt forget to reward yourself for your efforts, that are gladly paying off ā„ļøāØ
@adventurousSquare6860
I found a really good, competent and CARING doctor who prescribed the right med for me, the ONLY med for me, that helps me on my bad anxiety days.
@SerenityLane Hi, Lane!
Hello!
Despite all, I think that Iām moving, slowly but surely, away from some ominous feeling that things, in my life, can go wrong.
The first months of the year are, somehow, always harder to me. Iāve been feeling so lost and full of uncertaintiesā¦ but, all of a sudden, I sense that lately a warm sensation of optimism and strength has invaded me. I feel more empowered, confident and hopeful.
My dream is to overcome fear (money, stability, healthā¦). Havenāt not just yet, but Iām some baby steps away further from it, which is huge for me. I feel this time Iām on the right way of managing my emotions better, of taking over, grabbing the wheel of my future, without fear pushing me down all the time.
My strategy has been defining priorities and not thinking so much on the long run. Iām focusing more on the present and on the short run. That way, imagining myself on the wire, I try not to look down or around. I keep my eyes on the goal.
So, I think the introspection I have went through helped me very much: identifying my objectivesā> recognizing realistically what āassetsā do I haveā> drawing strategies (regarding good and not so good outcomes, and what to do about them). And, lastly, never forgetting to cherish the present: to have fun and to live my life as it is, in the meantime, regardless of those future goals (even those on the short run), because the present is actually what we all have that is certain and real.
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@calmCake1350
This made a world of sense to me. I feel the same way. Hope the best for us.
@Dallady Hi, Dallady!
I met a wonderful listener here last night who truly makes me feel safe and actually cares about what I am going through. Honestly felt like a friend, I could trust.
After 2 years of work from home am back to the classroom with a bang and great gusto.
ļ»æLast week organised the first offline event... Out Department festival which was super fun an a great hit with students and faculty.
ļ»æGood days are back again...
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Not sure if this is what the question was about but I lost everything and was alone on my own for the first time. It forced me to learn to be okay by myself and now I actually like being with myself and appreciate the time I have with others when before I took it for granted.
@Aunique Hi, my dear!
Iām sorry to hear that, and I can relate with losing everything.
I can sense that, nevertheless, youāre such a strong, resilient person. And I have a feeling that, in time, all will be fine again.
Lifeās, most unfortunately, not easy (on the contraryā¦), and you didnāt deserve what youāve been put through.
Iāll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, so you can find solace and the happiness and peace you deserve ā„ļøāØ
@adventurousSquare6860
Hi.
I had this wonderful, deep sleep in the night - it helps me during my day.
I have become aware that narcissistic people exist and I am a survivor of an extremely emotional abuse for the last 4 years of my life...
It was NOT my fault...
I could never understand why I felt the way I felt and why it seemed to be getting worse and myself esteem completely diminished. I thought I was going mentally insane. But that's just the aftermath and the way narcissistic people leave you feeling
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@byefelicia666 Hi, Felicia!
@calmCake1350 I really needed to read this.
@calmCake1350
Thank you so much. my brain has already begun rewiring and after reading this I am feeling so much I don't know how to process it. my stomach hurts now . OMG that's my gut. holy fuck I am SO lost ... my brain CANNOT slow down connect back together with my body and soul. which hasn't happened since the I suffered trauma of losing my father who raised me and guided me into this world. omg my mind wants to wander so bad right now.
I'm so fucking damaged I broke I cant even prolly type out a response in 20 mins... I have been typing and erasing for 2 hours now
I would normally erasing this but fuck it. I'm not doing what I normally do anymore . my journey has already begun
@byefelicia666
Iām sorry, I know. This comes with the territory. Often, for me at least, itās hurtful to think, let alone to write about it or to speak of it.
You know, I come here sometimes. I suffer from panic disorder (much caused by PTSD) and I feel this need, this urge to try to give someone a word of solace. At the same time, Iām constructing meaning, educating my own broken heart as I give them to others - I write for you, I write for me, for my own brain to process my own experiences I see reflected on another personāsā¦ and itās triggering of my numb emotions. I relateā¦ way too much.
The best way, in my experience, to deal with psychological pain is to let it starve. In other words, not to talk about it. Oh, but itās so, so difficultā¦ But not impossible. Just like the best āvengeanceā is to ignore bad people, when we carve to do something to hurt them as they had hurt us. Ignoring is so hard. Requires a lot of patience. A lot. But, in the end, nothing is more satisfying than the notion that those people would love that you waste your time with them, but you simply donāt. Why? Because you are busy living your life and being happy. That breaks them apart. Iāve mastered patienceā¦ I feel I can wait forever.
Back to the point:
On the other hand, there are people who feel better after venting or sharing. Thatās not my case. Iām the accumulator one. The reserved. The good friend (not here, in physical every life) that will hear everyoneās problems and wonāt ever share mine, in true sincerity, not even with my doctor. Thatās the truth. Sharing hurts, sometimes. It awakes feelings and makes new hurtful memories - the memory of these very words, and with it can be very hard to bare.
I really, really understand what you may be feeling.
Focus on the good days ahead of you. Let the past starve to **** as you wonāt be nourishing it anymore with your thoughts or words. Ignore it, give it the cold shoulder, if you can. On day at the time.
The past doesnāt define you. You define yourself and, to me, youāre a wonderful person. Give yourself love, pamper yourself, reward yourself.
Iāll take this advice for myself as well.
There will be ups and downs along the journey. Weāre strong. We got this!
Youāre not alone.
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A relationship... And then a break up .... The moving on process..... A relationship isnt easy as it seems... I didn't know that before... The guy i dated wasn't a bad one but i learnt that "not all good guys are good for you". And its true ... Even though he has a good nature .. a really good guy .. but he isnt good for me ... We never got along ... Even when i tried my very best ... I knew he wasn't right for me but to really get it into your feels... It takes time... Ofc there were good points about our relationship and he helped me alot to get over my insecurities ... But even after that ... Its the little things he missed ... Gradually i realised that we are not meant to be ... I understood my self worth .. which i used to drop when being with him... I realised i deserve alot better.. the moving on process was a big stuggle ... Took me 3 years... One day i just got up and i felt light ... I wasn't moody ... I didnt feel any exhaustion or any pain or regret .... I was free atlast... And i must say ... Its the best feeling ever ... I dont hate him... He didnt do anything deliberately to hurt me... But i dont love him anymore and saying this is like a big achievement for me. I have started smiling more freely ... Openly... I have started spending more time eith my family and friends ... And i dont regret a day breaking up with him ... I wish him well.. i hope he gets the right one!š While i wait or search for minešš
