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adventurousSquare6860 April 21st, 2022

What happened to you recently that has helped you?

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TheRusticMystic74 April 21st, 2022

I got some negative feedback took me to a really bad place in cups I mean I am a listeners and suddenly I become a leper noone wants to talk explain bam my id is blocked. I appealed came back and did ldp and QLP gave my confidence back did all the training packs including al4 badge awaiting don't know what happened to that but in all it makes me happy and proud to accomplish what I could. Pat on the back for recelience.

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RideaRainbow April 22nd, 2022

Take feedback positively don't let it pull you down. Rise like a soaring phoenix...

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Torean April 21st, 2022

@adventurousSquare6860

I got a raise! ^_^

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calmCake1350 April 21st, 2022

@Torean Hi! Yay, thatā€™s fabulous! Congratulations! Donā€™t forget to reward yourself for your efforts, that are gladly paying off ā™„ļøāœØ

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SerenityLane April 21st, 2022

@adventurousSquare6860

I found a really good, competent and CARING doctor who prescribed the right med for me, the ONLY med for me, that helps me on my bad anxiety days.

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calmCake1350 April 21st, 2022

@SerenityLane Hi, Lane!


Iā€™m so happy for you. Thatā€™s most wonderful news. I, too, have a similar condition (panic disorder) and understand how important it is when meds are right and your body reacts well to them. Itā€™s such a relief. I sincerely hope you get better soon ā™„ļøāœØ
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calmCake1350 April 21st, 2022

Hello!

Despite all, I think that Iā€™m moving, slowly but surely, away from some ominous feeling that things, in my life, can go wrong.

The first months of the year are, somehow, always harder to me. Iā€™ve been feeling so lost and full of uncertaintiesā€¦ but, all of a sudden, I sense that lately a warm sensation of optimism and strength has invaded me. I feel more empowered, confident and hopeful.

My dream is to overcome fear (money, stability, healthā€¦). Havenā€™t not just yet, but Iā€™m some baby steps away further from it, which is huge for me. I feel this time Iā€™m on the right way of managing my emotions better, of taking over, grabbing the wheel of my future, without fear pushing me down all the time.

My strategy has been defining priorities and not thinking so much on the long run. Iā€™m focusing more on the present and on the short run. That way, imagining myself on the wire, I try not to look down or around. I keep my eyes on the goal.

So, I think the introspection I have went through helped me very much: identifying my objectivesā€”> recognizing realistically what ā€œassetsā€ do I haveā€”> drawing strategies (regarding good and not so good outcomes, and what to do about them). And, lastly, never forgetting to cherish the present: to have fun and to live my life as it is, in the meantime, regardless of those future goals (even those on the short run), because the present is actually what we all have that is certain and real.

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Dallady April 22nd, 2022

@calmCake1350


This made a world of sense to me. I feel the same way. Hope the best for us.

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calmCake1350 April 22nd, 2022

@Dallady Hi, Dallady!


Iā€™m sorry to hear that you relate to my own struggles.

Good news is, you are not alone, nor am I. Iā€™m so happy for that and feel so honored that my words could speak to you.

We got this, dearest! Letā€™s have faith and hope, do our best and wish for more beautiful days to come.

Iā€™ll keep you and your kind words, that weā€™re truly appreciated and wonā€™t be forgotten, in my thoughts. ā™„ļøāœØ

Sending you a hug šŸ¤—
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DIDisaythat April 22nd, 2022

I met a wonderful listener here last night who truly makes me feel safe and actually cares about what I am going through. Honestly felt like a friend, I could trust.

RideaRainbow April 22nd, 2022

After 2 years of work from home am back to the classroom with a bang and great gusto.


ļ»æLast week organised the first offline event... Out Department festival which was super fun an a great hit with students and faculty.


ļ»æGood days are back again...

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Aunique April 22nd, 2022

Not sure if this is what the question was about but I lost everything and was alone on my own for the first time. It forced me to learn to be okay by myself and now I actually like being with myself and appreciate the time I have with others when before I took it for granted.

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calmCake1350 April 22nd, 2022

@Aunique Hi, my dear!

Iā€™m sorry to hear that, and I can relate with losing everything.

I can sense that, nevertheless, youā€™re such a strong, resilient person. And I have a feeling that, in time, all will be fine again.

Lifeā€™s, most unfortunately, not easy (on the contraryā€¦), and you didnā€™t deserve what youā€™ve been put through.

Iā€™ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, so you can find solace and the happiness and peace you deserve ā™„ļøāœØ

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Helgafy April 22nd, 2022

@adventurousSquare6860

Hi.

I had this wonderful, deep sleep in the night - it helps me during my day.


byefeliciaaaa April 22nd, 2022

I have become aware that narcissistic people exist and I am a survivor of an extremely emotional abuse for the last 4 years of my life...

It was NOT my fault...

I could never understand why I felt the way I felt and why it seemed to be getting worse and myself esteem completely diminished. I thought I was going mentally insane. But that's just the aftermath and the way narcissistic people leave you feeling

Seeking professional help but found this app in the meantime šŸ˜ŠšŸ˜Š


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calmCake1350 April 22nd, 2022

@byefelicia666 Hi, Felicia!


Iā€™m so happy for you.

Acknowledging that you have been a victim of circumstances is huge. Yes, itā€™s was not your fault. And yes, youā€™re entitled to call yourself a survivor, given that those events take a serious toll and, even so, you are battling all the trauma. You deserve all that merit. You deserve to be look up to.

I understand trauma. I understand feeling guilty or ashamed of things that werenā€™t my fault for a long time. But, weā€™re both still here. Itā€™s way too easy is for people - who have never been put to such suffering - to judge, to make assumptionsā€¦ until it happens to them.

You know, many times, trauma isnā€™t provoked only or exclusively by that very person who had actively hurt you for a long time. Everyone, as a society, as a community, as a family or circle of friends has a bit of passive responsibility when someone is put through a complex situation, like yours, mine, and of many people. If family or friends turn their back on you when you need them the most, isnā€™t a great proportion of your suffering a bit their fault too? When no one cares, no one lends a hand to lift you up - isnā€™t it their fault as well? Sometimes we know that in advance - that no soul with help or understand. We fear those judgments or assumptions and avoid disclosing, shy away from asking for help. In the meantime, time passes. Often, years go by one after the other and we sit more profoundly in that damp, dark hole blaming ourselves for making one bad decision - trusting and loving a person who destroys us completely. We canā€™t control our feelings. More often than many think, we still love people that are abusersā€¦ itā€™s beyond our control what our heart feels or what it thinks it feels, because we are alone and in a state of an emotional dependencyā€¦ And, thanks to that, we feel shame and, consequently, isolationā€¦ I know that feeling, most unfortunately.

Iā€™m really sorry of what you have been put through. At the same time, I feel excited that you can finally start afresh a beautiful life, the life that you deserve.

Iā€™ll keep you in my thoughts, wishing sincerely you all the best ā™„ļøāœØ
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byefeliciaaaa April 22nd, 2022

@calmCake1350 I really needed to read this.

byefeliciaaaa April 23rd, 2022

@calmCake1350

Thank you so much. my brain has already begun rewiring and after reading this I am feeling so much I don't know how to process it. my stomach hurts now . OMG that's my gut. holy fuck I am SO lost ... my brain CANNOT slow down connect back together with my body and soul. which hasn't happened since the I suffered trauma of losing my father who raised me and guided me into this world. omg my mind wants to wander so bad right now.

I'm so fucking damaged I broke I cant even prolly type out a response in 20 mins... I have been typing and erasing for 2 hours now

I would normally erasing this but fuck it. I'm not doing what I normally do anymore . my journey has already begun

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Seri123 April 23rd, 2022

A relationship... And then a break up .... The moving on process..... A relationship isnt easy as it seems... I didn't know that before... The guy i dated wasn't a bad one but i learnt that "not all good guys are good for you". And its true ... Even though he has a good nature .. a really good guy .. but he isnt good for me ... We never got along ... Even when i tried my very best ... I knew he wasn't right for me but to really get it into your feels... It takes time... Ofc there were good points about our relationship and he helped me alot to get over my insecurities ... But even after that ... Its the little things he missed ... Gradually i realised that we are not meant to be ... I understood my self worth .. which i used to drop when being with him... I realised i deserve alot better.. the moving on process was a big stuggle ... Took me 3 years... One day i just got up and i felt light ... I wasn't moody ... I didnt feel any exhaustion or any pain or regret .... I was free atlast... And i must say ... Its the best feeling ever ... I dont hate him... He didnt do anything deliberately to hurt me... But i dont love him anymore and saying this is like a big achievement for me. I have started smiling more freely ... Openly... I have started spending more time eith my family and friends ... And i dont regret a day breaking up with him ... I wish him well.. i hope he gets the right one!šŸ’› While i wait or search for minešŸ˜ŠšŸ’›