Course 3: PL 102 - The Problem is the Path (Discussion 1)

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

My Circle of Concern -
1 the global economy
2. What people think about my decisions and actions. 3. Family Members and colleagues

Circle of Influence - 1.Focus on building sustainable relationship and trust with the people in my circle of influence.
2. Constant self development to be able to enlarge my circle of influence through competence and interdependence.
3. Improving my Time management and people skills.

Remind Myself - That I can control some things but others I can not.. Stop expanding my circle of concern.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was proactive and focused on his circle of influence without clashing with the president authority. He made the president weakness Irrelevant .. recommendations .. his circle expanded and his strength seen as success which is great leadership skill.

Bonus: Check out chapter 8 of the book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul (more in the next discussion) for a deeper dive into learning more about accepting what we cannot control.

LOVE THE BOOK !!! - Chapter 8 talks about worrying and stressing and how it affects us and how to work on how we deal with things using Mindfulness is one of the methods. Taking care of ourself is so important and letting go of things that we cannot control and not stressing over things. Controlling things is not going happen only very few things. We are stressed out mentally and physically because of focusing on what we cannot control.
I really enjoyed the book, it's an eye opener. Kudos 😍

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

*The 3 things that are in my circle of concern - Family health, current world issues and friends.

3 things that are in my influence 1) Daily meditation. 2) Gratitude journal 3) Indulging in self-care.

1 thing I can remind myself to focus on my circle of influence- My positive energy will have a ripple effect, focus on what I can change and not on what I cannot.

*Highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Something that stands out about this executive is that he reads the room and can anticipate the needs of the president. Instead of focussing on the problem, he is focussing on the solution. His proactivity- He anticipates the weakness and prepares the solutions/reports in advance. By working on the strengths together, everyone is focussed towards the same outcome.

@GlenM

1.Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of concern - health and well being of loved ones, education, my mental health

Circle of influence- taking care and spending more time with loved ones, knowing my limitations, creating a disciplined study plan and being regular, taking time for self care and time off for myself

Reminder- positive self affirmations, that I'm in control of how my day is and not allowing the situations /circumstances control me.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Woow!! I absolutely loved this video and it surely was enlightening. I loved the way the executive focused on complementing the strengths of the boss and compensating his drawbacks and hence creating a wonderful balance. The way he focused on growing his circle of influence instead of worrying about the concerns is proactive

identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Three things in the circle of my concern are :

1. I had trust issues, I still feel scared of getting hurt or betrayed or cheated on. But that isn't in my control.

2. I can't control the way people reacts or judges me.

3. I can't control and make decisions for others.

Three things in my circle of influence are :

1. I can focus on my giving my best in anything and trying to be better in any relationship.

2. I can fix my health and academics.

3. I can make better decisions for myself and lead by an example.

One thing that I can do to remind myself to stay in the circle of influence is to ask myself to leave things in the hands of God, give my best in everything without connecting to the results and remembering that if it isn't in my control. It doesn't deserve to bother me either.

watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was understanding and weighted everything before making any decision. He tried to focus on his influence and complete his work so that his boss would not feel worried or bad.

@GlenM

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in your circle of concern - My family - their wellbeing, My education and career and My friends , our environment.

3 things in your circle of influence - My physical and mental health, protecting the environment around me and take care of my family/spending more time with them.

1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence - Focus on things I can change and take care of rather then things outside my circle of concern.

Highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He was very active in his work, he understood the strengths and weaknesses of the team and president and focused on solutions rather the problems. He focused and expanded his circle of influence rather than worrying about things that were not in his control.

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things in my circle of concern is my family, my future, and the injustice happening across the country, and the world.

3 things in my circle of influence is supporting and being there for family, studying and working hard on school, and educating myself and speaking up when I see injustice.

In order to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence, I can remember this quote "When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That's where your power is."

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

What stood out to me was that instead of trying to change the president's behavior, he worked to change his own behavior instead. He worked so his strength could compliment the president's strength, and so it could compensate for the president's weakness. Instead of getting upset or complaining over the president's behavior, he was empathetic and figured out how to work with him and the rest of his co-workers and to help keep the work environment positive and strong.

@GlenM

[Note: I have earlier posted my response for this discussion. The reason I am again posting my response is that in my earlier post, I didn't answer the question '1.c']

1. a) Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern,

Three things in my circle of concern are: 1) Getting a good salary job; 2) low score in conscientiousness in the big 5 personality test, and 3) coronavirus and the health of my family and mine.

1. b) 3 things in your circle of influence

3 things in my circle of influence are: 1) upskilling myself; 2) Observing the precautions related to coronavirus, Eating healthy foods, Exercising daily, drinking the appropriate amount of water and taking good night sleep; and 3) focusing on making myself disciplined and responsible toward my actions, promises and dreams.

1. c) and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

I would tell myself that focussing on the circle of influence enlarges the area of influence while focussing on a circle of concern yields nothing positive but negatively impact the emotional well-being.

2. a) Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive?

The executive focussed on his inner circle of influence. He was proactive and patient. He was anticipating the need and concerns of his president. Instead of criticising, he focussed on empathising and complementing the strength of the president through his strength.

2. b) What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

The executive was proactive because he used to anticipate the needs and concern of the president. While presenting information to the president, he used to provide his own analysis and recommendation based on that analysis.

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

My Circle of Concern are: My health, racial/religious bias faced, relationships with people

My circle of infulence: Taking care of my health, being good to people irrespective of how they are to me, keeping my belief and faith alive.

I remind my self i can take my step towards health, be active in the society, they to make things work with people and leave behind the negativity

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Unlike others he did not feel negative or think negatively about the situation. He took control of things what was within his scope. So i guess he was proactive with work and his boss and did not let his emotions get the best of him

@GlenM

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern.

The health of my loved-ones, humanitarian crisis (the starvation and extreme poverty in some places…), & concerns about not being able to work in the area that I feel would fulfill me, but instead being forced to take any job to provide for my family

Identify 3 things in your circle of influence

I think it is extremely important that we should not think of our circle of influence simply as a category, instead I think that we are more or less able to approach every situation and there is always at least something we can do (for example I cannot change the fact that there will always be poverty in the world but I can go and spend some time volunteering to make at least little different). Therefore 3 things in my circle of influence would be 1. My attitude to any given set of circumstances, 2. The decision to dwell on a problem or be proactive instead, 3. The amount of effort I put into achieving my goals

Identify one thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

I can put some inspirational quotes to my room so it would remind to me that when we focus on the problem, then the problem increases, but when we focus on a small first step we could do to make the situation better, then the number of new possibilities increases.

Highlight what stands out to you about this executive.

What makes him stand out is that he focused on his circle of influence to bring in change. It was very inspirational to see his determinedness.

What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive? *

He did not only take things as they were but he focused on what he CAN do to and did not just accept the situation as others. He was not discouraged by the amount of work and time it took until he reached his goal. He had built upon weaknesses and created a system that encouraged their strengths instead – he focused on a solution instead of looking at the problem alone.

@GlenM

1. My three areas of concern are; finances, health, and relationships. My three areas of influence are work ethic, knowledge, and time management. One thing I can do to remind myself to focus on my circle of influence is to focus on the things I can control.

2. What the executive did to be considered as proactive was focus on his circle of influence, he focused on the things he can control when it came to contributing to the company. The executive complimented his strengths and compensated for his weaknesses.