Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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My last feedback was after a mock chat with a mentor
How did you react?
I think I reacted well and listened to what they had to say and accepted it
How did you feel?
I felt like the feedback was more on me rather than on my listening abilities.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I had been the one asking for it so I reacted well but I think I tend to see feedback too personally.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I would tell myself to calm down and that the feedback is not on me but on my listening and aceept it better emotionally
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
I’ve been taught by my parents to be acceptive to feedback without reacting at that moment and ponder over it later.So I was just listening to the feedback given.
How did you feel?
Though it was tough to listen, it was just harsh truth. The opposite person gave a different perspective, which I never looked at.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
Often we miss on some smaller things when looking at bigger picture, so sometimes we need someone to remind us of the small and important things too.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Follow up, cos this shows if there’s any improvement, which I haven’t followed earlier. I’d definitely love to implement this going forward.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? I thanked them and complimented them.
How did you feel? Happy and appreciated.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? It was specific, postive feedback.
What would you do differently after having watched the video? I could be more specific when thanking.
@Heather225
How did you react?
I reacted okay, not terribly, but not that great either
How did you feel?
Every time I get feedback, I try to stay positive and take it as a compliment because someone cared enough to help me fix it, but every time, including this one, I feel defeated in a way. It's not overly defeated, but a small part of me thinks "you could have done better, why didn't you?" even when I was proud of what I had accomplished.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I have a perfectionist type attitude, and so even the simplest critique like, "take your shoes off before you go into your room so you don't track dirt" makes me feel like "duh I should have known that" and I grow sad because I'm disappointed in myself.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I would probably work on being more receptive and listening, because when people critique me I sometimes shut off and stop listening because I have a tendency to want to be right all the time, and it doesn't help when someone tries to tell me I'm wrong.
@BeautifulMasterpiece
Do you think you could apply those listening skills to other things outside of 7 cups?
1:With the most recent feedback, I got I react to was a little off as I felt it wasn't really great. It did point out some important things I need to do but it was helpful as it used the sandwich method.
2: I felt that I need to do better on what I was doing with it.
3: As felt that I was being judged for the way that I been peer supporting people.
4: I think I would of accepted it more and said this is a way for me to improve as a listener.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
It stung a little at first but I was able to acknowledge that it was for my own good, to learn and grow from. It was hard to take it into consideration for the future, but having watched the video I understand the importance of an additional outside perspective
@Heather225
How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The most recent feedback I got was to stop pushing people away. I was calm about it even though I usually act very defensive or ignorant about it.
I didn't really react. I either react defensively or don't react at all whenever I recieve feedbacks.
I felt disappointed because I knew that it's a major problem with me, whenever I feel hurt I just push people away.
I reacted that way because I knew about it already and I subconsciously hate that I do it.
I would take the feedback into account and think more about it instead of burying it in the back of my mind.
@Heather225
I reacted quite well, because I've received quite a few and I know that feedbacks can be really helpful.
I understand better now, that feedback is not an attack and the other person doens;t want to offend me or make me feel bad, they just wanna help me.
Because I've learned that feedbacks don't equal to failures or something like that and they can help us grow and become better.
There is always room for improvement but your feelings matter too.
@Heather225
The last feedback I received was about professionalism. I reacted politely and didn't really show how I felt. The truth is that I felt annoyed because it was a pretty strict feedback from my coworker. The truth is that he could be more polite towards me. When I receive criticism I take it more badly than I should, so I try to keep calm and think of what I could have done better. If I see that the person's criticism doesn't really make sense I try to not pay importance and continue improving in other ways. Sometimes I have been about to give up because of a comment that disturbed me about my work, but now I realize that criticism and feedback are two different things and feedback's purpose is just to help someone improve. I still work on trying to realize when someone wants to shut me down or help me improve and gives feedback out of good intentions, so I keep in mind to not be biased, keep calm, listen carefully, ask questions and I still try to work on my feelings, not being afraid of feedback because that way I will know how to improve and to try to increase my confidence about myself and my work.
Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? I got feedback from partner that sounds like criticism when I first heard it.
How did you feel? I felt like I was a kid that was being told they did something wrong.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? I was always criticized and judged when I was younger so feedback and punishment were about the same thing
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
In stead of reacting I could take a deep breath, and agree in part with them and then explain what I was trying to do and finding a common ground we can both agree on.
