Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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@Heather225
The most recent feedback I received was slightly hard to accept but I was open minded about it and took it in a good stride. Initially, it did leave me slightly disturbed but then I did understand that they had good intentions in mind. It would have helped if they presented the feedback in a better way. I did discuss with them how I could improve, overall the feedback was taken in a positive manner.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I know I have a hard time accepting feedback. The one that I'm remembering right now is when here on 7 Cups, I was leading a Sharing Circle and then was given some feedback on how to improve. I requested it! Because I am trying to be better with feedback. But despite asking for it and knowing what to expect, I still felt bad. I feel sad that I made mistakes and fear that another person in the community may have had a negative experience due to something I did or didn't do. I think I react this way because of how much I care about the work I do. I don't know if the video has led me to want to do anything differently. I agree with the points in the video. It's just that, regardless of what I think, my emotions do their own thing.
How did you react?
I reacted calmly and quietly, even though I feel so uncomfortable. I don't know where to leave my arms, so I just squeeze my hands together. And try my best to listen.
How did you feel?
I feel so uncomfortable, but I know it's for my own good. So I had to stay there being embarrassed.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
Because I'm not good enough or let's say I ignored this part for a long time. Then someone came out and reminded me, in a not very comforting way, but it is useful. So I would like to suffer from all these emotions and see how can I do to improve, so that next time I won't receive feedbacks like this again.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I would ask for more feedbacks, more detailed feedback. Everyone should be more confident, you're getting this kind of feedback, not because you're bad, but because you have places to grow, and you deserve better. Don't be afraid, we'll keep going and keep growing. The person who gave me that advice thought that I'll just leave and never come back again to try, but I didn't. I gave it another try and now I'm improving day by day.
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received:
How did you react? It was hard for me to hear the feedback! I tried to remain calm, but I am very high-strung and it can be hard for me to not be defensive.
How did you feel? I felt defensive and offended.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? Sometimes, it's hard for me to understand how my actions affect other people. I have to understand that what I say and do can impact how another person is feeling.
What would you do differently after having watched the video? After watching the video, I want to try and think about my actions before I act. I want to also try and be calmer about all aspects in life!
@Heather225 Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
I thought the feedback was helpful, and gave me tips and strategies for dealing with this situation next time.
How did you feel? I felt empowered by having tools to help me re-route the conversation.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? My feedback wasn't percieved as a "negative" to me, but a learning experience, so I felt like I learned more, hence feeling more empowered.
What would you do differently after having watched the video? I don't think I would have done anything differently. :)
@CompassionateDreamer8522
That is an awesome way to react to feedback! I also love your statement about feeling empowered having the tools to help you.
@CompassionateDreamer8522
Great job! Feedback is always helpful, whether it is positive or constructive.
@CompassionateDreamer8522
Constructive feedback really goes a long way and I'm gald you are able to realize that! Very insightful!
Hi @CompassionateDreamer8522
You sounds like a great person. I can feel your positive vibe from your words ⭐︎
Reminds me of one of my fav quotes:
"When you focus on the good, the good increases"
Happy New Year and best of luck to you!
See you around ❤️
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
The most recent feedback I recieved was on a school assignment. It was on a presentation I did, and they said I was good at formatting my project, but it had a few typo and grammar mistakes. At first I was upset, becuase I thought I did really well with the project, so I was upset I missed some things. I think if I had thought of it in the way that my teacher was just trying to help, and not calling me stupid or anything I would have taken it better.
@cocoakrispies121
It is understandable to feel upset about the feedback, I would feel that was as well. I like how you talked about reframing your thoughts and thinking of it as your teacher trying to help. Great response!
@cocoakrispies121
Awesome job with your post :)
@cocoakrispies121
To add on to my last post, I think that after watching the video, I can respond in a way that will allow me to grow from the feedback, instead of just wallow in the fact that I got it. Feedback isn't used to call you stupid, it's used to help you!
That was a very infromative video and will certainly help me grow both here and in work/life
Think about the most recent feedback you received:
How did you react?
Usually I get very defensive.
How did you feel?
At first i feel like i am being pointed out my mistake and no one likes that feeling. Bu then i try to think rationally.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
Its probably my emotions that take a hold over my rational thinking.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I would take a deep breath and clam down and hear out and then process whats being said. I would try not to judge or take things out of context.
@Magicallykermit58
I love your response! I agree, no one likes feeling like their mistake is pointed out, and it is easy for emotions to take over rational thinking.
@Magicallykermit58
Great answer, could relate :)
@Magicallykermit58
I think trying not to judge or take things out of context is something I need to work on as well! Awesome job Kermit!
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I reacted by asking for clarification, and asking them what I could do to improve and grow, and then thanked them for reaching out. I did feel a bit anxious and worried, because although feedback can be very helpful, it can set of a stream of thoughts in your mind, and for me it sometimes does cause a bit of self-deprecation. I think I reacted that way because my emotions were talking to me, but in my heart I knew that feedback wasn't there to hurt me, it was there to help me. I think I reacted pretty okay, it was just the way I felt about myself. One thing I would change is I would set a follow up, I never thought of that before watching the video.
@hopedreamlove
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@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Most Recent Feedback- About reporting people - I felt that the feedback was not great but I accept it and that reporting is still good to do .
How did I feel- I was surprised to be honest that some behavior is acceptable by some and not others..
Why Do I think I reacted and felt the way i did - Because I am one who believes in putting all my efforts to do something well but surprised when received uncommending feedbacks.
What would I do differently after watching Video
I will be more open minded and be objective to receiving feedback and appreciate person who gives it
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?
I reacted with grace, and accepted the feedback and worked to improve myself.
How did you feel?
I was initially a bit upset and hurt, but before I spoke I realized that the person giving feedback was right.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I was a bit hurt because of the way the feedback was worded - it was blunt and to the point.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I would have asked the person giving feedback for advice on how to improve.
