Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip
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Our next objective in this course is to master effective communication skills for healthy interpersonal and professional relationships.
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1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
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@Heather225
Gossiping does not benefit anyone. It makes other people see you in a negative light. The person who you are gossiping about feels bad, and is more likely to gossip about you. Those around you, see you in the negative light, and wonder what you will gossip about them.
“I don’t know enough about the situation to comment on it.” Feel like it really shows respect, and understanding.
It is a respect thing, I agree. And we're showing others how we'll treat them when they're not around :o
@SparklingSeashells
Thank you for being here on cups, I'm glad that we're having you here, you've got this and I'm proud of you.
~ "little reminder: Your loved"
- Lena
Gossiping is bad because it's like spreading rumors that aren't true. It is okay to share information but if it is a little personal about a family or friend and they tell you not to tell someone and you do and it's not to help them and that's gossiping and it's not good.
@blissfulTouch29
You're right. Gossiping never helps anyone
@blissfulForest7074 thank you
1. Why is gossiping bad?
It creates tension, distrust, and rumor
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies?
"I don't know enough." Love that <3
@WarmLightXO
thank you so much for being here on 7cups, and I hope your walkinging an amazing journey
~ "Little reminder: Your loved"
- Lena
@WarmLightXO
"I don't know enough " a simple yet a powerful reason not to participate in gossiping
@WarmLightXO
I like that you mentioned that we don't know enough.
@WarmLightXO
Great example!
@Heather225
Q: Why is gossip bad:
A: This question hits home, gossip is bad for multiple reasons, even if people find it funny what they say to others, but do they see what it does to that person? They think that what they are doing is good and funny but it isn’t, their words are hurtful and can bring a person to do horrible things to themselves.
Q: List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
A: I’m choosing the following statement: “I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence”
@kenzolena
You've answered this post really well. I like your take on second question.
@kenzolena
Exactly
@kenzolena
You're right, Lena.
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is bad as in puts the person whom they're talking about, in a bad light and the ones who're talking about in the worse light
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
° Change the topic to a positive subject
° Defend the person who's not there by describing their good trait
@blissfulForest7074 bravo 👏👏
@blissfulForest707
Your points are on point! I do agree with you
@Heather225
Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping is terrible because it enables for a harmful and judgemental atmosphere
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Talking about the positive characteristics about the individual who is being gossiped about.
@StarrrGirl20
very true
@StarrrGirl20
Exactly! Gossiping creates a judgmental atmosphere
@StarrrGirl20
The impact of gossiping on the environment is very important, good job highlighting that! I agree mentioning positive qualities are great statements. It shows the character of a good role model in the community to combat this kind of behavior
@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Because it is toxic and prevents real human interaction, also creates tension and spreads rumors
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Gossiping is a very ugly, unfair thing to do and is not something likable people take part in.
@Helpingheart23
I agree on what you said, gossiping is really toxic and brings more bad than good
@Heather225
1. Because it is toxic and prevents real human interaction, also creates tension .
2. changing the topic to a positive point or saying " I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss about it" .
@niceworldmnd
I like how you mentioned the tension it causes, definitely counterproductive to a thriving community or team. The statement you chose was my favorite as well, good job!
@niceworldmnd
Right about the toxicity. Great answer!
@Heather2251.
1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping makes the person mentioning the negative things about the other person less likable.
I don't know much about the situation to comment on it.
@Here4good74
Great job answering the discussion question, the statement you chose for the second question was my favorite as well. It's extremely fair!
@Here4good74
Great answer, amigo.
@Here4good74
its true that gossip on the long run really does make the two ends of the conversation bad because the person not present feels hurt and you eventually get hurt yourself from the other people in the conversation deep down not really trusting you.
@Here4good74 I agree with what you said Jane!
@Heather225
Questions:
1. Why is gossiping bad?
- Gossiping is bad because it is unfair to the party who is not present, as well as make you look untrustworthy to the audience you're gossiping with because it puts your integrity and character in question.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
- A statement I learned from this video was to mention the fact that you don't know the perspective of the person being spoken of, so you'd prefer not to speak for them. I like this very much, as it's very accurate and full of integrity!
@SirenOfSerenity
Always ahead of me, fella. You're doing great! Keep up!
@SirenOfSerenity
i agree that it’s unfair because it puts the person of topic at a disadvantage and in reality against what a listener is trained to do or even as a member as well to cooperate and come to an understanding. I know about persons in my life that once they knew they gossiped they didn’t see them the same way.
@SirenOfSerenity
i have to agree that it’s not right for the person who was on there.
