Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

@RebekahRoyal

You pointed out a good fact that we don't know all of the different perspectives of the situation, so there we cannot discuss it and judge whether it is good or bad.Love your response!

@RebekahRoyal

I totally agree with your reasoning about why gossiping is bad. It can indeed be very hurtful. In the end, it will ultimately hurt you. Hence, why you shouldn't gossip.

Gossiping leads to others losing faith and trust in you. More so, gossiping simply leads to negative energy which can be really hard to overcome once someone is dwelled within it - since bad habits are hard to overcome. One of the most important lesson this video conveys, is that we really don't know another person as well as we think we do. We have no right to make assumptions about another person's life and spread gossip - because honestly, it can be all wrong.

@Helpingsoul98 I like how you pointed out the difficulty in getting over bad habits. Gossiping is best avoided altogether!

@Helpingsoul98

Great point about the bad habits! I 100% agree

@Helpingsoul98

I agree with Jaimie and Pizza - your point that gossip is a hard habit to break is important and astute. Thanks

@Helpingsoul98

Great answer!

@Helpingsoul98

Wise and deeply ethical analysis

Good points, I agree with you!

@Helpingsoul98

Agreed !

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

1. Gossiping is bad because it is negative and hurtful, also they would also subconsciously view you as negative. The person is not present while gossiping and it's being said behind their back with them not being able to clarify.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

2. A statement that would be useful- ' I dont know the other person's perspective, so i prefer not to discuss" This is true because I dont know the entire story.

@crystalclearnow Great answer

@crystalclearnow

Good work! I agree with your ideas, gossiping is an extremely bad, hurtful thing to indulge in.

@crystalclearnow

Good answer!!

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it depreciates the esteem of another person. It could be hurtful and make the person that gossips to loose his or her reputation.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Change the topic to positive topic and let the other person know that you are not interested in gossip.

@Beaconx

Changing the conversation is a great way to let people know that you don't gossip!

@Beaconx

Yeah, what we say about other people has an impact on them, whether we realize it or not! That's always a great way to look at it!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

It's negative. It brings no good but harm and only harm. Talking behind someone's back is only acceptable if you are praising them.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

" I don't know about the situation or the person who is being talked about"

@VerseArt yeah I agree with you.

@VerseArt

Wonderful answer! I agree that gossiping brings no good but harm and only harm. There is no benefit.

Why is gossiping bad? Because it's negative. It hurts the person about whom we are talking about.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies! " I don't know their perspective well to comment on this"

@Petrichor2000 I like the statement of thinking about the other person's perspective. We are not mind readers!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping adds fuel to the fire. It fosters negativity and can be very hurtful.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I like the idea of responding with a positive note and defending the person, such as, "I have found them very easy to talk to!"

3. Please reply to 3 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

Okay!

@JaimieF

Right, defending people is a great way to go about ending gossiping!

@JaimieF

Great answer! I agree chnaging the tone of the conversation and bringing up positive things about the person is better.

@JaimieF - great answers!

I also think it is a great way of stopping the negativity of gossiping by defending the person who is being gossiped in a positive way. Although that is not the primary purpose, it will not only make that person look better but also you!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is basically assuming and spread information about other people, that invades other people's privacy and make your group not stable enough because everyone involved in this gossip will be untrustable and unreliable.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

You can say you are unaware of anything about this and don't mess up with people who like to gossip.

@Irena0225

Yes definitely! I agree, gossiping is basically assuming, and by doing it you are invading someone else's privacy. Great response!

@hopedreamlove Thank you

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad? Gossiping does nothing to further the community. It's toxic to everyone.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies! Gossiping not only effects you, but those you gossip to! It plants negative thoughts in their heads about that member.

@CompassionateDreamer8522

Yes toxic is the perfect word for it!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping hurts not only the person you're gossiping about, but also the people around you.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Say something positive about the person being gossiped about instead.

@freshMint9376

I like how you mentioned that gossiping not only hurts the person who is being gossiped about, but also the people around you. Good answer!

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because because it can be extremely hurtful, and it is not fair to the person you are discussing behind their backs. Instead of strengthening your community, you might just cause conflict and rumors and lose trust, which is just so harmful. It has no benefits.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I really like the idea of saying something positive about the person instead of adding to the negativity, and that way you might be able to change the conversation totally.

@hopedreamlove

Hey! I really like your answer and agree with the statement, it's important to spread positivity rather than contribute to the negative.

@hopedreamlove

Hi Hope! I completely agree that it is really unfair for someone to talk about someone else behind their backs, and it could definitely hurt a lot as well. No trust with no benefits are great reasons for not participating in gossip and spreading rumours. Oh my, and I love how you mentioned for your statement that we should start saying something positive about the person and really turn the conversation the whole way around :)

@hopedreamlove

Loved your answer!

@Heather225

Gossiping is bad because it is sharing negative thoughts or feelings about another person who is not around. It is speaking badly about a person behind their back. A statement I took from the video was that people you gossip to subconsciously place you with that trait.

@CognitiveACE

I totally agree with you! Nobody would like it if someone talked badly about them behind their back - it is very important to treat others as you wish to be treated. Nice answer!