circle of friends!
hi there! its me again ^^(loik incase you forgot (: ) oo double smiley😙
alrighty! i've went on and decided that this is a small space for me, and the system and anyone who wants to join in the convo because life is too much sometimes, its good to have a laugh and cut yourself some slack! there will be multiple topics in this area in the future. debates if you may! alters from the system will engage in these debates and anyone who wishes to is permited to join :)
i decided to call it "circle of friends" cause i hope its like one of those round table things in the movies where people get to bring up different topics to talk about ( if ya catch the ref)
First topic! (flight or fight!!)
-you read it right(: in a stressful/uncomfortable situation, is it better to avoid/run/ hide/ ignore or face it/ fight/ bring it on!
remeber to be nice while debating everyone!^^
@SyriusSystem
yo! dylan here and imma go for the later! to face our problems 0^0 cause just bcs u ignore smthn, doesnt mean its gonna go away, soooo its better to just get on with it, give it all u got and aim for victoryy
@SyriusSystem hi dylan ❤ hi everyone ❤ I agree it's best to face our fears and problems 🙂 but I'm a bit of a coward and I would rather flight than fight, but I would not recommend that😂😂
great topic! Can't wait to debate with you all ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤
Hello 👋! Spencer here 🥰 I'd also go for flight whisper, I'm not very good at facing things right on 😅 I'm a rather lay low till it's over type of person
Also, it's not always rational to go straight into a fight without thinking ahead, I think observation would be also a good option😊
Glad to have you around whisper! Giant hugs 🫂 🤗
@SyriusSystem hi spencer ❤ I'm glad I'm not the only one to pick flight😂😂 ❤
It depends on a few factors: what you are facing (obstacle? enemy? logical conundrum?), what you have going in your favor, & reasons to stand & fight or flee. Location is a factor too; for example if you're facing an unknown person with violent possibilities & you are both inside your home, you have much more leeway to deal with him/her as you see fit than if it's happening on a public street--& far more than if the confrontation is happening inside a private business of some kind. If you are a woman facing a hostile man, legally you are in a much better position than if the genders are reversed--this is true in every Western country, to varying degrees. On the other hand, if there's just one of you & four of them, you have no weaponry & there is no one nearby you need to protect, running just might be the best option. Fighting on against overwhelming odds may be heroic if you're an infantryman in a squad on a battlefield somewhere. If you're a lone civilian in the ghetto then that's not heroism...it's just stupidity. And will probably get you killed. (The foregoing statements are mostly made with the presumption of US law. The law regarding self-defense may by different in your own country)
Sometimes standing & fighting is the right thing to do. Sometimes it may be the only option you have. At other times discretion is the better part of valor. As a Youtoober I used to watch once said: "Violence may not be the answer, but life is multiple-choice."
Even if fleeing were an option, I'd chose to fight in any circumstances. Standing up for myself, creating an environment to my favor, using everything I got to win. Even if I fail I'd chose the same thing over and over again. To me it isn't heroism. To me it's abiding to my values and sticking to my heart. Ofcourse, you're still right, if I was in a disadvantage and only had the option to run away, I should. As stupid and unrealistic as it may sound, I'd still fight. I don't care about how the outcome will be. I'd still fight. One of these days, I'll prove that there's a reason to my madness :)
-Scarlett
Hai hai!! It's rin 😚, I agree with the person who said it depends on tha situation. But I also wanna point out that there's different forms of running and different forms of fighting 🙃 💪
Callin for help from others or asking for it can be considered fighting back indirectly. Fighting doesn't always have to involve violence ☺️ and running away doesn't mean someone's weak either, taking a step back once in a while is good. Sometimes it's ok to just let what happen happen, welp not in every situation either 😅
Sooooo I chose taking a step back, since loik said "in a stressful situation " I'd take a step back, assess the situation and make a decision depending on the assessment, either confront the person orrrr let what happens happen 😋
Hi! It's me, loik :) thank you all for participating in the opening topic 😊 ! All answers were well received and calculative, I appreciate everyone who took it in their times to answer.
My answer? I'd say, flight ✈️ I'm not a very good fighter😅
Alrighty! For the next topic[ friends or lovers]: this is where the spice enters
This question has been asked plenty of times in the society; can a man and a woman remain friends for a long-term relationship without developing feelings for each other 🤔?
I'm curious as well and for this topic, let's say not just a man and woman, let's say, best friends 😉
Looking forward to your answers! 🙃
@SyriusSystem
I'd have to say no andyes becuse one might have a cursh on the other but they might get over it and still be goos friends
Agreed cause when u know someone for a long time, u get to see a lot of their good sides and might end up falling for them, mostly really close bestfriends soo my answer is nope
It's not possible to not develop feelings for a person uve known for a long long time🙃
_rin 😚
yes! be it bestfriends/ man and woman, whatever you want to call them, they can definitly remain friends without developping feelings for one another. how? well, the factors depend, how they got to know each other, did one already have feelings for another when their friendship started and are either of them interested in each other romantically? looking at all those factors from a point of view of a simple person who just wants a friend, none of it matters when you finally meet someone who you can talk to and understand each other. ofcourse, you may developpe feelings without noticing but that doesnt mean that those feelings are going to have to ruin the relationship you built for ages.
-scarlette