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What does romaticizing your life actually mean?

This is a question that i have asked myself many times, over and over again. Until i ran into this one lovely post describing that the best way to "romaticize" your life is to be in the moment and feel, use your senses.

Let me elaborate on that, for example when you are drinking a hot beverage, how does that feel to you? Pay close attention to the warmth and its taste.

When you are outside, take in a second to close your eyes and feel the breeze of the wind brushing up against your skin. When you are doing your skin care routine try to enjoy and focus on how it feels. When you are putting on your favorite perfume, pay close attention to its smell. When making yourself a dinner, before even trying to take in how it tastes, try to arrange the food in a way that is pleasing to your eyes! Try eating without distractions and focusing purely on the food, its taste, texture, temperature,...

And the list goes on. What i tried to convey with this, is that romaticizing your life does not need to be expensive, it does not need to mean buying cute or aesthetic things, spending a lot of money,... (by all means do what makes you happy though! not saying you can not buy the cute stationary,.... that definitely does help with the process) but the key point is trying to be as present as possible and noticing sensations and focusing on your senses!

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PoliteOcean May 17th

@gloomySunshine4673


All quality & healthy suggestions. Thank you for sharing :) 

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gloomySunshine4673 OP May 17th

Ofc, Thank you for the feedback!!<3

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Michelh1996 May 17th

@gloomySunshine4673 My first thoughts when reading your examples: taking a moment to stand still and reflect/realize the situation -> Living more in the moment!

Which is something a lot of people, definitely including myself, should do a lot more!

Life is so fast nowadays with so many triggers, stuff going on, but sometimes we need to slow down and enjoy the moment that we're in without thinking about everything all at once.

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gloomySunshine4673 OP May 17th

Absolutely !!! Wonderful point. Truly agree. Its about trying to highten the experience of the moment to the max no matter how mundane or busy it might be. Taking time to slow down and take it all in.

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Michelh1996 May 17th

@gloomySunshine4673 I love the positive energy!

Yet, I have to face that it is so difficult right? I mean, I find myself also planning all the time, rushing to get the next thing into my schedule for example. Things go by so quickly and we need to remind ourselves of that frequently, and then take a moment to enjoy it or reflect on it.

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Oh, I love this question! I romanticize my life while being alone. ♥

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I used to LOVE going on walks alone and enjoying the nature around me with either an iced coffee or hot coffee in my hand. Occasionally, I would go to restaurants alone and eat some comfort foods (ex. Tacos al pastor, yum!) 
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I explore different parts of town, and LOVE taking pictures and/or videos of my discoveries.
I am merely a nomad of this world, and forever traveller in my heart and in my mind. 
I have travelled quite a bit in the past, and I'm not done exploring cities & towns!
My mind is curious, and I love to learn, observe, and experience the world around me (all alone).
Idk, it's just...romantic to me?
I don't mind walking in the heat, snow, rain, etc. I love the crazy weather...
I used to live in a snowy climate, and I'd walk to a nearby coffee store every time and get hot coffee, then I'd window shop at places, get some clothes at a thrift store, check out different parks, and see what events are happening downtown.
I live in a hot climate now, so instead of hot coffee, I get iced coffee and did similar things...

I no longer can go outside though...as I have extreme agoraphobia due to trauma and a couple of stalkers HOWEVER, I should be moving next month
(hopefully) and things will be different! I can explore a new city where I feel safe and start a new life. I'll have that passion and drive again...I also miss having a car, I used to park hop with my little one late in the evening, when both of us can't sleep, and we'd go out for ice cream... I miss those days...I miss being able to also experience nature with him, but I have too much fear to go outside...and my health has been declining...I have chronic pain and other medical issues...

I miss the life I used to romanticize...Things will
(hopefully) be different soon though! I'll move, get a new doctor, new home, and start anew...maybe I'll heal? Maybe I'll be able to get a new car? I want my son to have a good life and make good memories. I didn't have that chance when I was young, since I dealt with physical and verbal abuse. I try to erase those memories or subdue them in the back of my mind.

Idk...I love this question though! I miss just walking in the rain with no care. I miss enjoying the snow...I miss enjoying the sun or seeing the trees leaves change colour per season. I miss see the wild animals wander about. I miss going to the park at the crack of dawn or in the late evening...alone while reminiscing or daydreaming...I miss so much. I loved it so much...it was a great time. Thank you for reminding me that I can have that life again
(which, again lol, hopefully by next month!!). I'm going to work SUPER hard to be able to move and provide that kind of life to my child and myself. It will be worth it! ♥♥♥

I see that i was TikTokers that coined the phrase "romanticizing your life" which makes sense since it is a total misuse of the word. The word Romantic would be better.

Romanticize: "deal with or describe in an idealized or unrealistic fashion; make (something) seem better or more appealing than it really is."

Romantic: "characterized by the expression of love."

Maybe call it "self romance" what the heck, who knows.