My mental health has gone worse in the recent days and my GP consultant is delayed till friday. How can I dealt with my problem in the meantimes witho
I'm an INFJ-T and I've done the test at least 5 times and one time with the revise from my friends also. In recent days, I feel absolutely worse due to my trust and expectation for my friends who live in the same house with me have been all fall down. We live in a small unit apartment with only one bedroom but there are 2 roommates other than me. At first, I thought one of them could share some intimacy though with me because she has expressed her weakness and also her mental issue and I can feel tolerate to her somehow because the other guy just didn't care about mental health stuff. I think I can find someone to share my own thought and I want to put my efforts to have a closer relationship with her not as a lover or some sort but a close friend. That's just what I thought because I try really really hard just to communicate with her, try asking for some small things just to get attention and expecting some answer more than what I ask or I'm just expecting her to ask for some small things I do during the day. Such as cooking, studying or reading anything is ok just asking me and I can feel brighten for the rest of the day. But rather she decided to share with another roommate , and whenever I try to approach to her she responded just like a robot and cold and bland. I think she didn't intend to do that by any mean, but its really really hurt me because I thought I think I somehow can find someone to share some intimacy though for 25 years. Last night, I slept for only 2 hours and get constant headache since then. Just decided to wake up at 5 and the rest of the days feeling exhausted. At the moment, my only solution is to avoid by stuck in the bedroom on my own because on my mind going out there with 2 of them is just really pressure for me. I'm looking for your advice to recover from this because my GP consultant is expected to be today and has been delayed to Friday. (I've try meditated, exercise, gaming, reading all just give me more anxious and it gives me no interest in doing so). My current condition is what I've experienced months ago which I think that the borderline between life and death is loose and I think self-harm may not doing any harm on me and at some moment I'm really thinking of doing it physically.
@honestCup618
Hi there.. First I'm going to move your post to our MENTAL HEALTH & WELLNESS section here in the Healthy Living Forum where you can possibly get better response.
I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing this with your roommate or that they didn't respond to you the way you desired. It can be challenging to put yourself out there and hope for return of feelings or close verbal response and to not get it in return. Or to feel like you are possibly being ignored.
The thing is, is that we can't make others feel what we feel, or respond the way we want them to unfortunately. However, one things perhaps is that maybe you could talk to them on a personal level and let them know how you are feeling or that you would like to share and talk. Perhaps they would be more open once they realize this and get to know you better or on a better level.
I don't know how long you've been roomates with them. So that could be a factor as well? Maybe they just aren't comfortable with you yet, or know you as well as they'd like. So maybe get to know them better, share more, do some small things together that could put you both in a position to share more with each other. Relationships are based on trusting one another and feeling that "bond".
In the meantime if you are feeling like you cannot be around the other roommates or that its affecting your mental well-being even more for now, maybe you could stay somewhere else for the timebeing. At least until your appointment? Like maybe with another friend or a family member perhaps? Just a thought or suggestion.
Also, Please know that we do have a Self Harm Community as well as a Relationship Support Community where you could also visit for further ongoing support as well! We wish you all the best moving forward. We have a great community here that will love to continue to support you in anyway that we can.
@PoliteOcean Hi Polite Ocean, thank you for your response and your advice as well. We have been living together in this house for like 8 months already, the guy knows me for like 3 or 4 years but all years around we haven't share any deep though because we are just game-mate i could say so. The girl i've know for 1 year and a half and haven't talk much rather than just a few conversations on the internet until recently we move into the house. The girl is the one I can share some emotional, personal thoughts with and that's why I expected a lot from her. And I'm looking for a closer relationship with her maybe not a lover or something but a close friend because I can see that we have many things in common. But just like me she also has her own personal problems and has to manage through consultant recently, and that's why I can feel related to the girl more than the guy I supposed. We actually have shared a lot of things and bonds in the past not long ago maybe a few weeks ago. But I still don't understand her action with me like why did she just not sharing her stories for me recently like whenever I ask her she said nothing but then decided to share with the other roommate of mine. After thinking for a few days, I think my solution will be staying distant till tomorrow because tomorrow I've booked with my psychiatrist and I think I'll work out with my problem first because, in the end, this is still MY problem and not theirs nonetheless some factor caused by them. But in the end, the core of the problem still comes from me. And I think after the consultant, I'll go to the living room with them and admit that a few days passing by I'm just nuts and I'm sorry for that and then move on act like nothing happen. Because I think in the meantime, both of them have their final assignment due in the next 2 weeks so better not toss them with my own problem for thinking about it.
@honestCup618
Well its good to hear that you have thought about it some more, and gave it more time. And that you have come to a good conclusion and solution for yourself in the meantime. Its even better that you will be following up with your provider on Friday and will hopefully be able to talk more in detail with them about how you are feeling, and that they can help you to be able to draw more solutions for yourself. And to get a better handle on your feelings and perhaps what to do or work on more moving forward with yourself and with your roommates.
Best of luck to you. ... If you are feeling up to it, perhaps stop back by here and let us know how things are going and progressing with this situation.
