grieving living ex-partners
2 years and I think I would describe my abandonment in a relationship as having grief. Can anyone relate? What type of symptoms do you have? How do you cope
@jamie2001uk grief is a good way to describe it.
The loss of a relationship is definitely a grief. You lost the relationship, the identity you built as that person's partner. You loose the dreams and the future you planned together, and sometimes if they were not who you thought in the end you even lose them, ie you lost who you thought and believed they were.
Be kind to yourself and practice self care as you process and heal from it all.
@jamie2001uk
You can grieve any live person, not only an ex-partner. And I just end up suppressing my emotions because of how uncomfortable I feel. I do not cope with it
Yes I completely relate… can be straight up painful
Depends on... but it is a sort of grieve and i still can't cope with it... it just comes on my mind ...
@jamie2001uk Yes, going through it right now post 3 years of marriage and 12 years of being together. Grief was how I described it as well. There are many conflicting emotions. Sadness, anger, anxiety, fear, helplessness, guilt, regret...
Letting myself feel everything as it comes and goes. Sometimes all you can do is to "Just keep swimming!"
@jamie2001uk
I also 100% felt like this. It was just how you describe it- grieving the loss of someone who is still alive and also grieving the loss of a genuine connection. Especially if you still have any lingering feelings (or even if you don't, just grieving a loss of a sense of self)
@jamie2001uk It's been 2 years for me too my friend and I definitely have related my loss 1000 times over to grief. I cope through keeping myself occupied and happy because of it, so that I can keep making new memories in my life with new people, friends, and family, in hopes that slowly...my past relationship will be a distant memory. :,)
I lost my cousin in 2019 and it took about a year or two to be able to speak about it without getting emotional. Knowing this, my relationship with my ex was 9 years long and so I figured it would take maybe 4-5 years to get over it completely. :,) Anyways, hope this helps in any way and stay strong my friend. :,)
