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Grief & Loss Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Welcome to the Grief & Loss Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 September (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Char1984 @CordialBeing @GentleCalmness @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @tommy
Defining Grief: Understanding Loss and Sorrow
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself.  This post is part of 2 Week's Group Support Event on Grief Awareness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/GroupSupportCommunityEvents_2295/Joinusfor2WeeksofGriefAwarenessEvent_334437/].   Grief is a complex and personal experience that affects everyone differently. So, the forum thread will be the space to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences about grief. Let's explore what grief means to you, and how we can better understand and support one another during loss. What is grief?  Grief is a natural response to loss. It can be experienced in many different ways and at varying intensities.  I am sharing a few questions for this week's forum discussion on grief. Please feel free to share your thoughts on any or a few questions as per your comfort. Please include the question that you responding to so we can have a focused discussion.  Questions for discussion:  * Can you describe a time when you experienced grief? What did it feel like? * How does grief differ from sadness? * Are there different types of grief? If so, can you explain them? * How does culture or religion influence our understanding of grief? * What misconceptions about grief have you encountered? * How can we create a more open and supportive environment for those experiencing grief? Tagging a few friends for the discussion:  @marinsen, @summerkay2024, @Catunion, @jonghyunnie, @daydreammemories, @richvision, @mytwistedsoul, @communicativepond1728,  @reallyoverallofit, @tinywhisper11, @jaeteuk, @thoughtlight
Grief Support Session Resumes!
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 5th
...See more Hello all,  I want to inform everyone that we'll have a Grief Support Session starting this Saturday, 19th of October, at 8.00 pm ET time zone in the Support Session group chat. All are invited to join and participate to explore & discuss the experiences and emotions related to grief. @CaringEzra will lead the sessions. Listeners who are experiencing grief are also welcome to join and participate from their member accounts. We look forward to seeing you there! Note: If anyone like to host some support sessions, please do send me a pm at @ASilentObserver Any and all help will be much appreciated. tagging some of the friends: @Jaeteuk, @Happy2Help18, @reallyoverallofit @jonghyunnie, @BlueDarkAurora, @mytwistedsoul 
Grief of a Pet
by Beemr
Last post
 6 hours ago
...See more A month ago yesterday I lost my best friend, my 10 year old dog. It was a day after his birthday and a day before my 30th birthday, so I had him my entire twenties. As someone who has struggled with mental health for the past 5 years this little dog has been there for me and has pulled me out of places I never knew I was in and to have him just gone so unexpectedly it feels like my entire world has been shattered. To have something always there and then not I feel like I don’t even know what to do with myself. The people around me are very supportive but I feel like they still don’t get it. I have another dog who is 5 and even he is heartbroken and will not leave my side. Please tell me this eventually gets easier because there’s moments where I feel as though my whole purpose is gone other than my other dog and I feel like my world has ended. Thank you for reading
Grief & Loss Automated Taglist!
by tommy
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Welcome to the Grief & Loss Taglist This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated by forum leaders and can be found below. Having issues? Reply below and someone will help you! Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on sub-community check-ins, discussions or events ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button below and write the exact words Please remove me. ------------------------- Current taglist as of 9 September (updated by @tommy) @azuladragon34 @Char1984 @CordialBeing @GentleCalmness @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou @tommy
Defining Grief: Understanding Loss and Sorrow
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself.  This post is part of 2 Week's Group Support Event on Grief Awareness [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/GroupSupportCommunityEvents_2295/Joinusfor2WeeksofGriefAwarenessEvent_334437/].   Grief is a complex and personal experience that affects everyone differently. So, the forum thread will be the space to share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences about grief. Let's explore what grief means to you, and how we can better understand and support one another during loss. What is grief?  Grief is a natural response to loss. It can be experienced in many different ways and at varying intensities.  I am sharing a few questions for this week's forum discussion on grief. Please feel free to share your thoughts on any or a few questions as per your comfort. Please include the question that you responding to so we can have a focused discussion.  Questions for discussion:  * Can you describe a time when you experienced grief? What did it feel like? * How does grief differ from sadness? * Are there different types of grief? If so, can you explain them? * How does culture or religion influence our understanding of grief? * What misconceptions about grief have you encountered? * How can we create a more open and supportive environment for those experiencing grief? Tagging a few friends for the discussion:  @marinsen, @summerkay2024, @Catunion, @jonghyunnie, @daydreammemories, @richvision, @mytwistedsoul, @communicativepond1728,  @reallyoverallofit, @tinywhisper11, @jaeteuk, @thoughtlight
He left me.
by Lilskittlez
Last post
 22 hours ago
...See more My boyfriend has schizophrenia the multi personality kind there's 5 in total including him. However he has 1 other main who takes over when he's not in a good place. None if the others are good and a lot of them are self sabotaging. However I'ma name him Dean he is a emotionless manipulator he likes to play games with people's feelings and his way of doing that is by having these fake relationships with them string them up and up and leave them. Awful right? Well He was suppressed for a long time during our ealier friendship then eventually we became a couple and recently he made his presence known that he is back... However he promised he's done with all of that he manipulated me of course. Now the person I'm actually dating I'ma name him Walter he's a good person I know he loves me unconditionally. Well last sat I caught Dean playing his games which hurt me. So Walter decided to break things off because he was to scared to hurt me. So me having BPD all my triggers where triggered and I started to spiral. I was so back and fourth from loving him to hating him it was like I was playing tug of war within myself. It got so bad that Dean said some awful things to get my to go away and he started deleting me off of everything which made things more worse.. Today I woke up at the final stage of grief and I woke up and fully accepted everything I don't hate him or feel anything negative towards him ultimately I just miss my best friend and the biggest trigger is people leaving.. I'll always love him but I can't be at peace with it if we didn't atleast try to fix our friendship. He's been battling schizophrenia with out any meds or medical help for so long that he's suffering because he has no control what so ever. I now see that I wasn't helping because I was so blinded over love and our relationship that I didn't get a clear picture of what was really going on. I know he's scared to hurt me he knows we'll still keep falling for each other but however I just want him to live a peaceful life for once and if I need to support him as a friend my ego my pride is put to the side. Him leaving for good during this state will devastate me and I'll never be able to make peace and move on. We both had a hand at hurting each other. Nobody has that sort of power over me other in myself is all I keep repeating today. I'm trying so hard to stay focused on that path but I'm really scared if he really ends our friendship... I just want my bestfriend back... I want to know if he's okay and safe. I want to be there and support him through these hard times..
I been year seen my dad died
by countrygirl9988
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Been hardest year of my life I miss my dad everyday I love him with all my heart still flashback of the day he died and moment of his funeral I never thought my dad would died I thought My dad was strong person in my life my dad was funny person in my life I had best life with my dad I had 40 years with him one day meet my dad again he not in pain anymore he will always be in my heart 4ever i hope pops in heaven with your family and friends i hope up there fishing and gardening have funny time your family to good we meet you again I hope being in Heaven one day we all miss very much 
Grief and Loss Support Check-in *11 November ~ 18 November 2024*
by CaringEzra
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Grief and Loss Support Check-in  11 November ~ 18 November 2024 Hello, lovely grief and loss support community! Welcome to our weekly check-in.  How are we all doing? I hope that the week is being gentle to you and you find time to take care of yourselves. I know it’s been super busy lately for me. I hope that you find a moment this week to just pause despite of how your week has been. I think we should celebrate and be proud of the times that we slowed down rather than the times that we keep running on empty. I wish you all an amazing week ahead. I am always here for you and you are not alone.<3 •───────•°•❀•°•───────• I would love to welcome you to participate in some reflection questions!  Our weekly check-ins are an opportunity to get to know each other a little bit better and offer continual support. Feel free to answer as many or as few as you would like. Also, feel free to share anything on your mind or just say hi! Whatever you post; we eagerly await your response! •───────•°•❀•°•───────• Here are some reflections for the week ❀ How are you doing? Emotionally? Physically? Spiritually? ❀ ❀ What's one thing you wish the people in your life understood about your grief or grief in general? ❀ ❀ What’s your dream vacation spot? ❀ We hope you all have a wonderful week. I look forward to hearing everyone’s responses, and please don't hesitate to reach out for support.
Grandma is gone..
by Jaeteuk
Last post
 Monday
...See more So.. My parents arrived in the afternoon in HK, Tuesday afternoon (HK time), and grandma passed the same night. I was at work today, when my mum messaged me at 5pm, which is their Wednesday morning in HK.. and told me grandma passed last night. My mind was overloaded with emotions and was shutting down. I don't have many childhood memories, but my time spent with Grandma is still very vivid. Both memories of when I was young and still lived in HK, and times when she came to Canada to visit us. I'm so glad I told my mum to return to HK earlier, as my parents have a cruise trip in mid-September, I told her to return now, so there are no regrets or in case grandma leaves when she's on the cruise trip.. that would've been even worse. The past weekend, we were informed Grandma returned to the hospital with low saturation levels, was given medication and seemed to be doing better. We all thought that Grandma will be okay, my Aunt in the States supposed to have a cruise trip in the beginning of August (and she had refused to to return to HK while Grandma is still healthy and told my mum, if she wants to go back then to go by herself, Aunt will not go along with her. Although Grandma had been in-and-out of the hospital since her heart attack, she was still healthy, she only had times where she was experiencing shortness-of-breath).. I wonder if my Aunt ended up needing to cancel her trip after receiving the news of Grandma's passing, and make an immediate flight back for the funeral.. I'm so glad my mum made it back in time to spend the last moments with her mother. Unlike when my Grandfather passed (Dad's dad).. My dad was a day late upon arrival in HK.. Grandfather had left the day before he arrived..  ~~~~~~~~~~~ At the beginning of my work shift today, I went to speak with my Manager. To give her a heads up that I'll need to take time off from work if Grandma really passes. I told her, on the last weekend of June, we were informed Grandma had a heart attack, and I went to work the following week, but it was really hard.. as I was on the verge of a breakdown as I worked.. so, I told my Manager, if Grandma passes, I'm going to need to take time off.. The beginning of my shift was around 1pm when I told her.. I messaged my Manager at 7pm, telling her I'll need to rest of the week off, I also told her I left work earlier (she asked me to touch base with her later on in the week to see how I'm doing).. I just kind of did the minimal work that is needed to be done, and kinda left everything else behind.. My mind had wondered off the moment I saw the message from my mum about Grandma's passing, and I was forgetting things (walking towards a way to grab an item, but forgot what it was I needed halfway through the walk).. I went to have my dinner earlier, and left at 7pm (so left work an hour earlier).. The nurses also leaves at 7pm, I saw them in the change room.. I guess I looked kind of out of it and for once, I was rushing to leave.. so, they asked me if everything was okay (because I don't usually ask if I could leave earlier).. so, I told them briefly that my Grandma passed away last night..  I'm saddened that I cannot take a flight back to HK to attend the funeral (I financially can't afford the plane tickets and the required accommodation expenses).. but, I'm thinking about taking the time to ask my mum if there is something we can do to help.. even if it's to transfer her some funds.. or whatnot.. That is, if my mum has the time to chat with me.. I hope I see Grandma in my dreams, so I have a chance to say my goodbyes to her. 😭 I'll miss you, Grandma~
She was the love of my life
by MyS33DisMyRock
Last post
 Monday
...See more Almost two years ago I lost the mother of my son, my best friend, the love of my life, my soulmate. It only hit me recently, I couldn't understand why I suddenly lost interest in all the things I had distracted myself with over the years. Then the memories, the pictures, the songs and finally the emotions. We went through so much together and unfortunately due to the trauma and destruction of addiction we grew apart. We always had each other's hearts even when we were no longer together. We were once so deeply in love I cant remember how we got to this point. We both wanted to pick up the pieces and reclaim the love we once had. Unfortunately the addiction eventually claimed her life. The grief from her loss has been excruciatingly painful. At the time of her death I didn't feel anything I was numb. It finally dawned on me recently that the love of my life is gone. So many things I wanted to say, I'll never get the chance. Shouting at the sky waiting for an answer. I love and miss you so much. I'll never forget you, your memory endures with me. I'll carry you with me everywhere that I go. I love you forever! 😭💔
What is point
by theboymoana
Last post
 Monday
...See more Am never going be ok every one try force me feel positive and hopeful but can’t  feel angry and sad and don’t understand point 😭😭 why have so much happen hurting whole life don’t understand what is point being horrible stupid burden 😭😭😭😭😭 am so tired no one get it am just so so tired
Grief and Loss Support Check-in *4 November ~ 11 November 2024*
by CaringEzra
Last post
 Saturday
...See more Grief and Loss Support Check-in  4 November ~ 11 November 2024 Hello, lovely grief and loss support community! Welcome to our weekly check-in.  How are we all doing? I hope that the week is being gentle to you and you find time to take care of yourselves. I can’t believe it's already November! Crazy right. Busy time of year especially with the holidays coming up. Can bring much anxiety and lots of emotions. But we will find a way through. I wish you all an amazing week ahead. I am always here for you and you are not alone.<3 •───────•°•❀•°•───────• I would love to welcome you to participate in some reflection questions!  Our weekly check-ins are an opportunity to get to know each other a little bit better and offer continual support. Feel free to answer as many or as few as you would like. Also, feel free to share anything on your mind or just say hi! Whatever you post; we eagerly await your response! •───────•°•❀•°•───────• Here are some reflections for the week ❀ How are you doing? Highs? Lows? ❀ ❀ What are you grateful for today? ❀ ❀ What song have you been listening on repeat to lately? ❀ We hope you all have a wonderful week. I look forward to hearing everyone’s responses, and please don't hesitate to reach out for support. Tagging the community: @azuladragon34 @Char1984 @CordialBeing @GentleCalmness @HealingTalk @Jaeteuk @LeonardoMarino @mish3l @mytwistedsoul @Sunisshiningandsoareyou
The lesser talked about grief: grief over someone who is still alive
by VioletteB82
Last post
 Saturday
...See more We all have been there. A relationship has ended with a person and that relationship is now dead. They are no longer visible in your life. No more memories to be made with them, no more conversations to be had, and no more laughter to be shared. We ache at their absence. Regardless if this death was by choice, yours or theirs, we grieve. It may have been for the best for both parties to part ways...maybe it was for the best for only one them. It may have been a consequence of your own making. Nonetheless, we grieve. I hope everyone here who is grieving a living person to give yourself a little kindness, and some space and acceptance to be sad. And, perhaps permission to be "ok" with the ending of this relationship and complete peace about it.  ***HUGS***
Sharing My Group Support Sessions for Grief
by Jaeteuk
Last post
 Friday
...See more So, I started a group support for grief Sept. 17th. It's a 13-week program, held in a church. My friend recommended me to join, and told me it's not religion-related, and that I don't need to be a Christian to join. But, as the first one to arrive, I chatted with the couple who has been hosting these Group Sessions since 2008, says that it is Christian-based. But since I've paid for it already, I'll stay to the end. They did say anyone can join, so maybe, during these 13 weeks, I would have the urge to return to church again. Who knows, the hosts were very welcoming. I chatted with them at the end of the session, was asked what my experiences with church were and they told me their church have a wide diversity of cultures, with people of all ages. She said, if ever I'm interested, to let her know.. and she could help introduce me to the groups. So, I'll see how things go in the spiritual-sense. At one point in the past, I did have the heart and open-mindedness to try attending church with my parents (they're already baptized).. But, I lost hope after meeting people who did not care about me during the peak times of my depression.  The first session, like all group supports, it's more of an introduction. Including the hosts, there were 13 of us, with 7 that didn't show up. By the looks of the first session, I seem to be the youngest, and may be the only person that is not a Christian. So, the payment was for the workbook, we get a workbook where we need to use it after watching videos. We were suppose to start the first video yesterday, but the introductions and overall sharing of our experiences took up all the time.  I looked at the workbook today, and read through the first chapter (13 chapters, 13-week program).  I stayed behind and chatted with the hosts. It was also nice to get hugs. Coming from a Chinese family, my parents and I never really expressed our love through hugs.. so to get hugs from others, during this time of grieving is really comforting.  Some of you may already know, I lost my grandma at the end of July this year. I've started some counselling sessions (paid, very expensive, $170/55 mins).. I just received a call back from another counsellor that my GP sent a referral in for, which are free 6-8 sessions. With my first session next Wednesday. So, I'll see how that one goes. I have the paid session this Friday, but, I might stop seeing her after this 3rd session.. and go with the free one, and the group support.  Here, I'll share my group session experiences and workbook contents. Hope it can help others who are seeking help, and we can support and share our experiences too. 

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This is a caring and safe place to share your feelings arising from the loss of someone very important in your life. Might be a very recent loss, in the distant past, or any time in between.

You are invited to tell your story, write about your emotions, and also support others. Sort by "Recent" and answer their posts from your perspective and with your comforting words.

This is also a place to ask questions about the nature of grieving, how to cope with the pain, and also how to manage the disruption this loss might have caused in your life.

And then, get tentative answers from people who have been in the same situation.

Here we encourage and welcome remembering and honoring the memory of important people in your life who are no longer with you. You are invited to write about them, tell us what made them special, and tell us your feelings towards them.

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