No positivity

@Gettingbettertoday
I can relate and understand completely. I'm sorry that you're also going through this. For me, I'm really living through the motions. No goals, no nothing. Just living, day to day. Feeling without purpose, no family of my own, feeling like a shell living a life that it doesn't enjoy and value as much as I should, or as much as others think I should.

It's not all positivity, rainbows and bliss. it's life. There'll always be days where you're downtrodden, tired and just not positive at all. Some days, you're just living. I don't think it's a cause for alarm. You're human, going through very human things. Don't feel any aversion to "I'm not okay! I have to do something!". It's okay to not be okay for a time. I allow myself the disservice of "I'm not okay, I'm not happy, I'm just going through motions." and I allow it to feel and happen in my mind and heart. Like all things, it requires energy. Let the bad things wear themselves out, you blow off steam, the negativity, or apathy, (yes, even apathy needs energy to operate as all emotional and mental aspects do) tires themselves out, now you have room for better things.

Not so savory thoughts and emotions creates what I think of as steam. Without letting out steam and depressurizing, eventually it has to come out and getting to that point is never good. I hope you have healthy ways to decompress and relax.

You may not feel okay right now, but that's at the moment. Just make it through the day to see another. The next always has the potential for improvement. It's something I tell myself often, "I'm not okay, I'm not happy, I'm depressed...it's...it's...right now. it's....for now. It won't be forever. And it's not who i am or want to be, it's for now. I'm human, I have my weaknesses and days where my best isn't good enough. It's not the end of the world. There are days where my best is more than enough just as there are days where it's not. No different than anyone else. It's...just right now and it's not who I am."

Hi there!

I use "aspirations" instead of affirmations.

"May I feel well" instead of "I feel well"

"May I feel grateful" instead of "I feel grateful"

And I include other people.

Including you: "May you feel well and grateful"

You can include all the people you appreciate. It feels wonderful. 

Aspirations are never false, they don't sound phony, but in my experience, they are powerful.

You might try them. I hope they work for you.

All the best!

@Gettingbettertoday

@Gettingbettertoday

hi there. Sorry to hear that the day has not been that easy and the positive thinga seem like a lie. 

I also struggle with positivity a lot. I even bought a gratitude journal but more often than not trying to come up with all the new things I am grateful for seems fake. What I decided, though, is that hope and gratitude are skills I would benefit from learning. So what if I am a little clumsy on my feet at the moment? Don't give up. Perhaps, your affirmations can for the time being slightly adjusted, maybe not "love the life I live", but "I am ok with the life I live", baby steps. It helped me a lot not to demand from myself to be a ray of sunshine. "I will do the best I can do today, and that is ok, however small" has been my affirmation for a while. Sending you hugs. Be gentle with yourself. 

@Gettingbettertoday feel the same way

@Gettingbettertoday

Not everyday is going to be a day filled with happiness and joy even though we want it to be. However, you can always try your best at MAKING it a day of laughter and love. We all have our ups and downs and in order to reach out ups, we have to first prove ourselfs worthy by riding the downs. It's like a rollercoaster, how else are you going to feel the adredaline rush of reaching the top if you never knew what it was like to be at the bottom. How could you feel happiness if you've never felt sadness. Hopeful is not something that you can turn on in your brain, slowly working towards it will help. I hope that you know everyone is here for you and here's a loving hug from a stranger who believes in you.

@Gettingbettertoday

I found one today that helped me.

"I am me".

I was in a well of negativity, thinking that I'd never get out. This one reminded me that it is OK to be me. It is OK to struggle with positivity.

And then I thought of you. I hope you are in a place now where you don't need my suggestion. But if it might help, you are welcome to have it.

I think of affirmations as reprogramming my brain. I don't always believe the words i am repeating. But affirmations, over time, change how I look at things, feelings, circumstances...

I challenge you to pick one or two and say them often, throughout the day, and write them often., ... and see what happens to your thought patterns.

I committed to saying "Everything is Always working out FOR me" first thing when i wake up, throughout the day, and as my last spoken words when i go to bed. It didn't change me overnight, but i gradually began to see things working out. Now i see it everyday.

Remove the word not. You can do this. You have support and love.

@Gettingbettertoday I think it is okay to not be hopeful today or living the life you want to today but keep moving forward one step at a time. Every day is a new day and a new opportunity to feel hopeful or move even one step towards the life you want to live. Try not to beat yourself up about not feeling hopeful today. Be compassionate with yourself and give yourself grace. And try again tomorrow!