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To my younger self

Boon4U September 22nd

Hey people, I am creating this space for myself and anyone who has ever wished that they had an older sibling or anyone who'd share their experience with them, and help them make better decisions and see the world differently. We can ask each other questions and help each other heal and grow.

So my first question, what does good friends means, and how do you recognise them?

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou September 22nd

Hiya @Boon4U welcome to the community and yay for posting this fantastic thread. I love the idea about creating a space to hear about each other's experiences, opinions, insights and tips.😃

For me, a good friend is someone trustworthy, empathetic, considerate, and honest. Someone who accepts me for how I am, who I am in the *now*, someone I can be absolutely authentically myself with, while bringing out the best in me and encouraging me to keep doing better. Ooh and someone I can share some laughs and good time with, sense of humor is something that makes me feel more connected with people.

I feel something that works for me in recognizing good friends is how they make me feel about myself, if they make me feel valued, cherished, seen, supported. And also how honest and authentic I can be around them. Typically, if I've to be on eggshells or have to conceal significant parts of me to be liked or wanted by someone, I don't think they are a good friend to me.

These are quite broadly stated hehe, there's of course multiple factors to consider at times.

How about you though? what is your current understanding of a good friend?🌞

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kabir22 September 23rd

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
That's a great way to put it and even brilliant insights. It's always amazing to read your words! https://media.tenor.com/TwFP9rOUsq0AAAAC/high-five.gif

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kabir22 September 23rd

@kabir22
and my gif didn't work so here I go again

Sunisshiningandsoareyou September 24th

@kabir22

I am glad you feel so too and thank you, Kabir!😃

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Boon4U OP September 24th

I totally agree with you, you've infact explained all the qualities a good friend should have, thankyou for sharing ❤️🙌

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Wpdillon September 23rd

For me, a good friend accepts me for exactly who I am. I don't have to compromise who I am just to be around. They are dependable and reliable. They are honest and tell me things, even if I don't want to hear it, because they care about me. Their actions back up their words. They make me laugh too....they get my sense of humor.


It takes time to find people who resonate like this in life. Like any relationship, they just happen, and they should be a benefit to your life, not a burden.



communicativeWillow914 September 23rd

@Boon4U good friends in my opinion is someone who wishes good for you they may not show that to you but you always know... And someone who is there for you when you said you are not feeling good,

I wish i had a good friend in my life 😊

KExpress September 23rd

I think good friend is some who is there for you, through good and bad

hopefuloutlook September 23rd

@Boon4U Good friends, I will go with the adage "a friend in need is a friend indeed". It's a two way relationship. Like any other relationship, it further involvees trust, mutual respect and understanding.

kabir22 September 23rd

@Boon4U
That's a great question and one of my friends described it well which was "good friends are those where we can be our true vulnerable self without fear of judgement". 💚

JoltDW September 25th

How to tell if you have a crush?

Ever since I was a kid I could never recognise if I ever had a crush, at this point I think I just can't crush on anyone

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Boon4U OP September 25th

@JoltDW Omg okay, I have this same issue and I don't have crushes....but, in primary school, there was a girl and she was my friend and I loved sitting next to her, playing games etc, but if she did the same with someone else I'd feel jealous and for like next 10 years I had no idea what was that, but one day I suddenly realised that I actually had a crush on her. So I guess the easiest to know if you have a crush on someone, is you wanna be near them and know about them more...I hope that helps.


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Serenity824 September 26th

Hi everyone! I wanted to share something that reflects the value of true friendship. It is a reminder of the support and love that good friends bring into our lives.

In honor of the friends who uplifts us everyday.

A good friend will laugh with you, cry with you and stay up late with you. They will look out for you and never leave you feeling dry and drained. A true friend nourishes you just as you nourish them. They will fight for you and with you, exercise along side you and even help with your work when you can't.

Much like a good person, a good friend always reminds you of how important you are to them. In times of need, they won't run away; in times of trouble, they will stick around. A good friend might sometimes withhold the truth to protect your feelings, understanding that you maybe upset when you find out later. They will sometimes act without your knowledge just to keep you safe.

A good friend covers you when you need comfort and shield you from chaos. They are unique, standing apart from everyone else. Cherish that good friend; love them with all your heart and soul.

They will always make you smile.

-Serenity.

I am new here, please show me around. Thank you all!

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Boon4U OP September 26th

Very nicely put answer to the query. Welcome to the community and thankyou for your support, you can reach out whenever you feel like it, have a great time ☺️

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Serenity824 September 26th

@Boon4UThank you. I appreciate you all!

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