@imaginativePlane7983
1. We are always changing - all of us. Growing, learning, thinking, developing. And sometimes the person you met and loved 30 years ago will change one way, and you'll change another way. And if the person you loved changes and starts doing things you don't like or approve of, it's very easy to hate them for it. Maybe as an example, it's like your spouse becoming an alcoholic. You love the person you married, but you hate the person who's an alcoholic.
2. Personally, we have to choose to stop the pain. We have to choose to stop hating so much. In everything we do in our lives from the smallest to the biggest things, we have choices that we must make. Some may not be significant. Do I buy Crest or Colgate for toothpaste?
But most things are significant. Even if it doesn't seem that way.
What will I eat for lunch today? A salad, some iced tea, a piece of fruit. Or a drive-thru burger meal with a pop. That choice definitely can have some major health and/or financial repercussions.
That driver just cut me off. Do I become furious, floor it and swerve in front of him, cutting him off? Do I just take a deep breath and continue driving, wondering if that person might be having an emergency that they're rushing to.
That person at the store just knocked a ton of product off the shelves. Do I turn away and go down a different aisle, ignoring them? Do I walk right up and start helping to clean things up?
For me, I believe every choice I make matters. And I choose to not add to the pain of the world. So I will help clean up a mess that I didn't make. I will smile and say thank you to everyone who helps me. I'll take my grocery cart back to the store after I'm finished with it because that's one less thing the cart person has to do and maybe, just maybe it's a little bit of a lighter load for that person that day.
The way to stop pain is to choose to stop contributing to it. At least, that's how I feel about it.