a question
We all have reasons for being on/in Cups-Land. For us members those reasons are almost always bad to horrible--the more you read in the forums & the more you hang out in the chat rooms, the more you know this truth. I am no exception. I got to thinking about it, & came to the following:
Are you here because you decided to join 7Cups, or are you here because your problems brought you here?
That is, did you make a choice or was it your fate to wind up on the site? Is human agency real or is it an illusion held by bipedal organisms influenced by environment & heredity?
I lean toward the 2nd answer, even though it feels like we make our own decisions. What do you think? Please explain your answer as best you can.
@slowdecline48 I would say its a little bit of both of what brought me here. I've dealt with anxiety in the past, and I've been good the past few years but recently I've had twinges of it coming back here and there. And, instead of attempting to do everything myself, I decided to actually do something instead of allowing it to fester. I would say that I am person of action and if I want something done, I will work at it until its done. And this applies to this as well, not only am I looking for support but I am also willing to give my own support as well. I've spent a good part of my life alone and I decided it time to make some changes.
@slowdecline48
human agency, to a small but significant extent is real. You brought you here. Do not ever take that away from yourself. Asking or looking for help/support is a sign of strength. It takes sum fortitude to do this. There are those who will not end up here or any where. Taking initiative is a gift from yourself to yourself.
I’m here because of my situation. No matter how hard I try with my wife things do not get better, they just get worse. I’ve been stuck in a loop for over 13 years but thank goodness I found this app where strangers actually care to listen and help.
I don’t believe, personally, that marriage was intended to be this toxic or that people in general were MADE like this. I believe they were influenced by a wicked, toxic air; and being that there’s more “bad” personalities than “good” those of us who choose to be good suffer 10x more.