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TheSunParadox33
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No emergency contact
General Support / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hey everyone, hoping you’re having a good day so far. I have signed up to a talk therapy program similar to this one and I’m at the point where I need to fill in someone as my emergency contact but I don’t have one. the reason I’m on it is because of my spouse and I have no real friends or family that would reach out if anything happens so who do I use? It is a bit sad for me to have to keep coming to terms with how lonely and miserable I am because of things like this. im not sure what to put and I do not want to keep “putting things off” due to slight inconveniences. any ideas?
How was your day?!
General Support / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 July 16th
...See more Asked my wife if anything interesting happens at work today and she started to tell me but then she stopped and said “no you first.” On our way to the grocery store with the kids in the car; I shared and as she’s getting out I say “ok when you get back you can tell me about your day.” She replies “I’ll think about it.” Im thinking “why would you say that in front of the girls?”( I have two daughters 13 & 6) Did take offense but I’m tryna push past it by posing the question to you all! Like why be difficult when you can just be a nice person 🙄🙄🙄🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠😑😑😑🥱🥱🥱🥱 i don’t care if you just watched tv and fed your cat! Just talk to me about your day if you would like! ☕️ ⏰
Narcissist support groups
General Support / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 July 20th
...See more Hey y’all, hoping every is have a bright and sunshiny day!! would like to ask if any knows or attends a narcissistic support group whats it like do they cost anything how long do the sessions last is it in person or online or both are there any apps or websites I could check out do they have ones for males and one for females or hybrid anything helps, thanks in advance Keep shining like the sun!!
What is your definition of a healthy relationship?
General Support / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 July 7th
...See more I grew up extremely religious so many if not all of my thoughts and viewpoints have been heavily shaped by religion and the Bible. I also grew up with parents who, at first, appeared to be on the up and up and have a tremendous knowledge and understanding of spiritual and non spiritual things but later proved opposite of what they were teaching me and my siblings. As I got older I started seeing large cracks in the connections between “good and bad.” This would be based off of my parents behaviors as well as people is school, later my coworkers and friends and family, etc. So questions came to my mind and that made me super honest and forthcoming. It made me question relationships between people, God and other things. Basically, if I think it, it will be formed into a question or a statement that I’m looking for answers to or more information. It has always been based off the knowledge and information I was given as a child about what constitutes right and wrong. So I would like to know what you all consider to be “healthy” in a healthy relationship? What does it look like, feel like? Is it simply defined as what someone says or is it a combination of speech and actions over the course of time? How much space should I give myself and others in order to consider being or having that healthy relationship?
Woodburning ideas
Hobby Zone / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 April 28th
...See more Hello all! Anyone into wood-burning as a hobby? If so, where do you get you motivations/ideas from? Have any ideas about burning for money? I’m looking for things to burn when my new burner from Amazon comes in.
In my head or…
General Support / by TheSunParadox33
Last post
 June 5th
...See more My wife and I have a family friend who has a younger son. He’s not a child but is several years younger than my wife and I. He left to pursue a goal that he was set on which is admirable. I should add that he’s single. There was a “go away” gathering that was held for him as a send off. My wife and two young daughters attended and over 100 people supported. There are both males and females, many of whom are all married and a lot older than us. We all worship at the same religious center, the same physical location and before he left I found out my wife and this younger man got close. So close that after a religious service(we call them meetings) the younger man and my wife along with a couple other people were chatting in our auditorium. I guess he made a joke of some type and my wife thought it was funny so she laughed but when she laughed she put her hand on his chest like most wives do with their husbands. In my opinion, no matter how funny the joke was, there’s no reason to physically touch another man in that manner. I questioned that gesture that same night in the car on the way home and she gave me the silent treatment. I waited a few days and raised the question again and my viewpoint and feelings were mocked and dismissed. I then made the point that I am not close with any other female in that level of closeness. All I got were a strong dismissal when I inquired about that touch as well as why she thought it was okay to keep that relationship a secret from me and again I got dismissed. I feel like a few more days passed to clear the air and she told me that the younger man and her connected during a meeting for pioneers(a term we use for someone who volunteers a certain amount of time in helping others for a month or so.) She told me I was bugged. I obviously took it a different way. My wife and I have been physically away from the meetings since February this year due to a medical procedure and recovery time and I had no reason to think about it since that time. Today was our first time back in person and who do I see? That young man must have come to visit his parents and others but it triggers a really bad memory for me. I’m not even sure if my wife and the young man will speak but it just feels like I’m going to have a bad night. Perhaps if my wife made more of an effort to talk with me and secure me and clear the air then I wouldn’t have this thought. I’ve tried to let it go and ignore it but I didn’t know he would be here tonight and I cannot shake this thought. I’m not sure what to do, just don’t want to have a bad night.
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