When do you feel loved?
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about love. The more I think about it, the harder it gets to understand what it really is. Throughout my relationships so far, I feel like I’m not good at loving… also i haven’t feel anything lately both good and bad.
So, I just want to ask, ”when was the last time you felt loved?”
I want to know how people feel loved and in what situations.
@kindApple9711 I'm not gonna be much help here, sorry😕 I've never dated never been in love, I don't have any family, so never had that kind of love either. But here at 7 cups on my 22 birthday, I had several threads made for me, lots of kind words from everyone, someone Photoshop my face on a billboard😁 I felt like a star that day ❤ two people wrote me a birthday poem, another 2 people planned out a birthday party at the farm😁 and showed me pictures of the farm😁😁 I'll never forget that day, the first day I ever felt loved ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11 Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so happy to hear that you had a wonderful birthday celebration at here 7 cups and happy birthday 🥳 ( probably it’s too late tho…) This story made me realize that love is about caring others. And I would reflect myself about it!
Thank you again and hope you have a great time in 7 cups and also in real life 🤗
@kindApple9711 ❤❤❤
wow that's cool.
Hope that happens to me
@kindApple9711 With the way the world is right now, we all get lost in the "well that's nice but what next" kinda loop and nothing feels good enough to called love.
I guess for me it's in the small gestures where I find love. Someone waiting to see me smile for an effort they made, someone asking the right questions or just understanding the silence. Sometimes I see someone reading my definition of love as their own and that makes me feel loved the most.
@BlueDarkAurora Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I really understand that loop, and because of it, I sometimes take people for granted… I’m trying not to stuck in the loop.
Someone who understands silence and shares the same definition of love means a lot to me too. I feel very connected when that happens.
But somehow I almost forgot it until now. Thank you again for reminding me of that beauty part of love :)
Hope you have a day filled with lots of love!
@kindApple9711 You're so kind in the way you talk<3 Thank you so much. I hope you find all that you're looking for in life and so many more amazing things.
@BlueDarkAurora omg I read your response, and that is so amazingly and beautifully phrased. all the small but thoughtful gestures you listed were just so true and real T^T
@happinesstojoy haha aww thank you<3 I really appreciate you saying that :')
@kindApple9711
I think that people nowadays, especially in some parts of the world, too much associate love with money, and things you can buy for it, or words.
In my world the language of love is touching: you want to touch only someone you love, or at least like, and you usually don't want to be touched by someone whom you couldn't trust.
If someone says "I love you", but doesn't need to touch your hand or hug you, they are a liar. Words and appearances can be a beautiful lie. One touch and one look can be worth much more than that. Maybe it's about the body language?...
@jacek73 body language can be a really good sign of how much people like you, but there are 5 love languages and body language is only one of them haha, words of affirmation is another way people express their love, giving gifts, spending quality time... etc etc... so people can be genuine through their words, but I know sometimes people lie so it is a good thing to be wary about people who aren't being genuine, I'm just saying not everyone that expresses love through words is being fake or doing the bare minimum, that's just how some people express their emotions/love!! :D
@happinesstojoy
Oh, yes, I believe you are certainly right about the value of the time spent together 😊 No matter if that is a "quality time" or "just time", because many people appreciate the most just some quiet time together, with "no fireworks or waterfalls" 😉
@kindApple9711 for me being loved by my mom and sisters is being able to laugh freely with them, feeling comfortable around them and just being able to have fun in everything or most things we do together. sometimes I have fights with them every once in a while which is okay and healthy, but it's because we overcome those, that I can confidently know they will always stick by me no matter how hard I mess up or how boring/weird/cringe I am lol. I get you, relationships are really complicated and texts aren't the best way to convey your feelings inside relationships. if you feel like you're not loving someone enough (which is valid) you could look/research the 5 love languages they're really nice to know and you finding out how you express your love towards other people is such a good way to understand your emotions and actions!! <3
Well, to me I think love in general is reciprocal.
Like when you give attention, care, and appreciate someone for the things they do for you and they are given/shown back in similar love languages.
But the thing here is we aren't perfect, and you can't predict or control a person's actions so yeah.
But also being Kind to order despite all the flows that are shown can also be considered as “love”. UNCONDITIONAL in fact.
So iJust as My father once told me, “Don't treat them as they are, treat them as you are”. And I think this is the greatest from of love in the entire universe. For even our heavenly father sacrificed his only begotten son for the sake of humanity. Also despite how sinful, misleading and evil mankind was and is still is. Despite all this Jesus Christ didn't resist the command of his Father but came down, left his glory, and became a man just for our sake.
So yes, yes. Love is sacrifice, and sacrifice is love itself.
Not just self love but Selfless in thy nature indeed.
Yeah, I hope with this, I might have provided you with a little bit of insight into how I visualize love. Thank you💕🤎🤍
@kindApple9711. When someone makes me feel heard or appreciated.
@kindApple9711
I feel loved when someone remembers me not just to do something for them. I feel loved when someone actively seeks my company, because they want to be around me. I feel loved when someone is interested in any artistic material I produce and shows interest in things I like and genuinely wants to discover them, get to know them. I feel loved when I am seen, there is an interest in understanding me and accepting me completely. I feel loved with connection and with the genuine concept of friendship. And I believe that this is also expressing love.
Love is not something you " Acquire " from an external source. You cultivate yourself and your tools to gain awareness of the boundless love and oneness within you. You radiate and " see what flocks to this one " . Therefore, love is not desperate. It is not thinking. It is not attached. It is the ultimate ❤️ 😊
As for a relationship, where two individuals come together, they share this gift in mutuality. They are bound in this experience to enrich life and grow, learn together. This mutual respect and adoration is only possible for those who feel blissfull by themselves in the first place. When you search for a significant other in order to fulfill a desire, then you have made yourself and your true love less significant. The problem is not desire itself but it becomes an issue when you identify with it and build foundations on that fragile dimension of life.
When I do what I love
