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eaterofwords85
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Number of ratings3 Number of reviews3 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Portuguese Listener sinceJan 3, 2025 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 6 People helped16 Chats216 Forum posts105 Forum upvotes170
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Anxiety, depression, burnout, binge eating? Got them all! I hope I can help, even if it's just by reading your story. I wish I had someone to listen to me—or even give me some advice—back when I needed it. I've got a decent amount of life experience, though most of it’s the negative kind. By some accident, I’m still here, so let's make it count!

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People can't know if you don't tell them...
Healthy Living / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more This must be the 2nd or 3rd post about this but... Everyday I listen to people (out of 7cups, not talking of anybody here lol) talking on how full of love, proud and caregiving they are over who they love and at the other hand how rejected, unwanted and unloved they feel. Thing is: do you comunicate your love? Do you comunicate those special, important people that you love them? Do you say to them that you care about them and that they matter? And if so, do you act acordingly?  Or... When you kid reachs you to show something you don't pay attention and push them into that gray zone of feeling rejected and unloved? Just one example of many.  People can't know what you think and how ypu feel if you don't comunicate. Think about it. *big brain meme*
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Wisdom of the wolf mask: feb 2025
General Support / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 February 2nd
...See more If pleople ask you to change in order to be accepted, they won't still accepting you after you changed - they will ask to give in more.
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Going for the things you want
Hobby Zone / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 February 3rd
...See more It may be a small step, bur a few years ago I started cultivating a flamboyant (delonix regia) tree to be a bonsai. It was towards help me to overcome my anxiety. It helped... The slow grow of the small tree taking form and being shaped was a nightmare at the begining... Thought I had lost it many times but it grew strong at the end.  And then... I moved to another state, couldn't take it with me... Gave it to another person that vanished with it.  But the will of having the same type of bonsai stayed. And now I decided to do it all again but avoiding my past mistakes on growing it... It has been two months. No matter how small it is the something you are willing to bring to your day... Do it. No matter if it will add just another task... Do it. Nobody besides me want it... Do it. There no excuse besides not be willing to do it... But you wanna do it... So... DO IT. Stop creating excuses for that think you once and a while think, rethink, overthink and keep thinking of doing. The feelings exist for comunicating something we want or don't want. We just have to act accordingly. Hope you find this post when in need of read it. Be well. 👋🏻
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Imagine the sun
Icebreakers and Games / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 February 5th
...See more Let's go for a new imaginative exercise: Imagine the sun. If it was a person, what person it would be?  Mind describing it below? ✍🏽
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Hard to face analisys
Motivation & Accountability / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 January 26th
...See more Got this thought of sharing this topic after a chat with my wife over psycholigy. Some analisys on ourselves are really hard to take, first time or not. Finding the point where we see, clearly, our mistake in something that hurt us is never something easy; and assuming it, and working on our share of the problem, also a hard, heavy task. Sometimes, having a really trasformative experience, talk or thought isn't pleasant, comfortable or anything close... At the other hand: it may hurt close or more than the acctual problem that made us want to change (and the change can't happen without it). Fleeing from it just will keep the same known problem around. What would feel better? Hurt once and solve it or keep this pain we are used to around? It is a matter only for the affected for it to decide what to do about it. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Hope this thought may find you when you need it.  Have a greay day. 👋🏻
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Steel riddle
Icebreakers and Games / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 January 20th
...See more Let's change gears to something either fun or thougtful, or both at same time 🤷🏻‍♂️: If Crom asked you what is the answer of the steel riddle, what would be your answer?
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Everyday effort
Relationship Stress / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 January 14th
...See more For whoever find this post, I felt a need of shating this thought... Most couples and people in relationships find themselfs drawn to it because first liked someone. Get along well. Had some attractiveness level at the partner(s). Well. The truth is that love is an everyday effort, on both sides. Both need to be willing and ready to put some effort into being together. There is no strenght match in a relationship than people stuborn about being together for whatever reason and putting effort into and willing to be together and there for each other - whatever are the inner values or reasons that are holding it from fall apart. Hope that you are doing well and having a nice time. 👋🏻
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The same asking all over: why don't people value me?
Friendship Support / by eaterofwords85
Last post
 January 13th
...See more Many people struggling with depression and anxiety often feel trapped by the need for acceptance and the other way around. I understand this deeply because I’ve been in that same place—constantly feeling like the leftover friend, judged, invalidated, criticized, rejected, and left behind while desperately trying to build meaningful connections and keep people in my life. That constant effort to be accepted only led to more disappointment, making me feel even more isolated and unworthy. "Why don't people value my efforts? I did so much for them." Well, people aren't willing to do much or even feel any debts on what you did if they asked, even more if they didn't asked for it. You will be called nice if much, and they will never look back at you. Are you helping and doing for them for free or expecting something in return? What I’ve learned is that when you focus all your energy on gaining validation from others, they tend to distance themselves, offering excuses or outright rejection. However, when you shift that energy inward—working on your own goals, interests, and personal growth without seeking approval—people seem to naturally gravitate toward you. It’s as if the need for acceptance pushes people away, but self-acceptance quietly draws them in. I still don’t fully understand why people behave this way, but this pattern was very real for me. What I do know is that turning inward and focusing on myself was what helped me break free from that cycle of rejection. I hope sharing this perspective can help others realize that their worth isn’t tied to external validation and that self-growth often leads to more genuine connections. "If you need to change yourself first to be loved, they still won't love you after you changed for them."
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