What if someone cared about you?
Has anyone ever thought, how nice would it be to have someone care about you? You know how people ignore the signs that your in pain you know the skipping meals you used to love, being moody and grumpy, barely talking anymore, isolating yourself when you're in public... All those signs that people ignore what if someone didn't. What if someone paid attention to those signs? What if someone help you beat the pain? Maybe then the world wouldn't be this trash where millions struggle alone and in pain until finally they have had enough. Anyway sorry I've just been thinking about this a lot today, and was wondering if anyone has ever thought the same
@Macylou82 I feel this so deeply, and I’ve had the same thoughts many times. It’s heartbreaking how often people miss the signs, even when they’re right in front of them. That longing for someone to just notice, to care enough to reach out. It’s such a basic need, but it can feel so far away when you’re struggling.
I think about how much it would mean if we all tried a little harder to see each other, to truly notice when someone’s hurting. You’re not alone in feeling this, and it’s okay to wish for that kind of connection. Sometimes just sharing these thoughts can be a step toward finding people who do notice and care. Thanks for putting this into words. It’s something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud.
@soulstrenght I'm sorry you feel like this too its not a fun feeling, im glad u found my lousy post and was able to relate tho. It helps to know im not alone.
@Macylou82 It’s definitely not a fun feeling, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too. But honestly, your post isn’t lousy at all. It’s real, and it’s something so many of us can relate to. It takes courage to put those feelings into words and share them. You’re not alone in this, and I’m really glad we could connect here. Sometimes just knowing someone gets it can make a difference. Let’s keep reminding each other of that.
@Macylou82
Hi there, it's been long since I saw you, just want to say I kinda felt the exact Pain when I was at your age. I know I don't completely understand you but I'm here for you. I know you probably don't want someone to give advice etc, and I try to not.
These days are one your most important and challenging steps of your life, and I'm sorry your experiencing these things. I remember me feeling awful when I was 13. Others noticed too but being depressed etc wasn't something to consult a doctor for in my culture.
I Lost so many opportunities because of my depression and the actions I make out of it.
I'm proud of you for reaching help, I give you my best wishes. I hope I'd make you feel better. Please tell me if I say something you wasn't comfortable with
@BlackBlueWhite It has been a while, I miss you fr. Thx for reading and sharing it means a lot. I'm sorry you felt this way, but im glad that you shared your words and it means a lot to know im not alone
Yes totally especially right now, im struggling with things going on. Im no first or priority to anyone not even my husband. Its heartbreaking. I feel your pain.
@honestWalker4528 I'm sorry you feel like this too. I hope things get better for you
@honestWalker4528 I got told this to myself literally the other day; I am so sorry. I am glad you commented. It felt crummy, but I understood. I realized then I'm going to focus on myself more and just see them from time to time when I can. We had a really good talk. It really hurts. I needed time, and for months, when things dwindled, I realized that I can only do so much. I kept blaming myself, because again, that was the script sold to me for years, from my parents, from others, instead of themselves looking in the mirror.
Since my parents do not really call or care about me - they tell me to call them. I won't. A phone works two ways. I reach out to others, and I'm glad that I try to do so. I used to isolate, because I feel like I'm bothering them. I still feel that way. Growing up a certain way makes you feel like you are a bother to others.
Just a question, and I'm wondering how you feel, is there any hobbies IRL you are doing, or anything for yourself? I have been trying to make new friends where I live.
@batgirl1234 I recently moved too so I don't have any friends or hobbys, just sitting around the house all day xd. I hope your parents relationship with you gets better, and I hope you find some friends soon
@Macylou82 Hey thanks! Is being sitting around the house something you want to be doing? I used to do it all the time, not knowing how to connect to others IRL because my parents wanted control over me instead growing up, so I didn't get the skills needed to do so. I don't think my relationship with them will get better, because I always change, but they blame me, and I'll be the better person than them. They will not improve. That chapter in my life is done - they are very judgemental people, and do not see their part in things, will not apologize or make amends. I cannot be constantly made worse and more sick by their actions anymore - I must take care of myself. They are not emotionally capable to be good parents and will not seek help to do so as they will rather blame.
I'll continue to go to therapy like I have for almost 10 years, and continue support groups. They can stay in their lack of growth. I have to advocate for myself now instead of continually disappointed in lack of emotional care.
With the friends thing, it's taking a long time, but it is getting easier. I'm very thankful for support groups IRL.
@batgirl1234 Noooo totally not
@Macylou82 Do you mean "Nooo totally not" in terms of sitting around the house?
@batgirl1234 Yea it was sarcasm
@Macylou82 Ah got it! Yeah, tough to read a bit online sometimes. :)
I'm not sure if you are going out and about. Is there things you have thought of doing? Or groups?
@batgirl1234 I can't do anything with my anxiety so its useless
@Macylou82 I've been there. Like I'd isolate really hard. Sometimes it takes time, too.
Thought the same.
until u have rly enough n it becomes pointless or ur wanna protect urself n remove from everything…
best is not to focus on it n seek ppl who will but I swear how hard it is to find them !!
definitely w u in this🥺❤️🤞🏻
I agree with each and every word that you said! And I hope everything that concerns you gets resolved soon!
What I do wish to say is, yes it's hard to believe but don't forget ever that we have about 8 billion people in the world! And no matter how many experiences we had had where people are turning insensitive to scenarios, your life's timeline gonna bring so many beautiful empathetic souls who you will vibe with!
Everything just happens at the right time!! And it will happen for you!!
And I am here for you as well!! 🌻❤️
@Macylou82 sadly none cares about me i m very lonely in life no message no callls fromanyone everyone just use me for their emotional support and leave😑
@Mindfullife Im so sorry that sounds horrible, I hope you find someone soon
@Mindfullife That's awful. I hope you find someone soon, too. It's like with friends like that... are they really friends, you know?
@batgirl1234 Yea I know
@Macylou82 I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Please know you're not alone, and there are people who care more than you might realize. I want to truly hear what you're going through and understand how you're feeling, without offering any advice or solutions. Sometimes, just being listened to can make a difference. You're welcome to come by to share what's on your mind anytime you see me online ok. Take care, and remember you matter.
Wishing you a joyful Christmas filled with love, laughter, and cherished moments with your loved ones. May the magic of the season bring warmth and happiness to your heart!
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Hey Hi 👋 🌊 new friend Macylou82. I feel like you discovered something important for me and yourself here while seeking inner child healing and letting go the worries that feel burdensome on the soul and collective humanity. Thanks for ur words sincerely they spoke to me, a 35 year old so California woman. I hope to be good friends. Keep going. Your doing us a great service to humanity.
@Macylou82 I was just saying the same thing to my son the other day. Yes, it would be wonderful if someone noticed me and offered to cook me a meal because I have lost my appetite and am not interested in food or eating. Maybe if someone brought me something already prepared I might perk up and try to eat it. 😊
@powerfulPerson8519 It hurts to feel neglected or not noticed in our pain. I wonder if I am not asserting my needs enough to be reached out to. I'm someone that reaches out to others, but sometimes hears crickets. That hurts a lot, too. I then try to get outside if the depression or the feelings of "not good enough" are not too loud. I try to do other things instead. I still feel hurt that no one notices sometimes though, too.
