Unloved
I feel so unloved, like the pain of being alone in this world is too too heavy on me
How do I keep going?
I'm just so overwhelmed, I've been crying daily for like 3 days now
I lost it, I'm not doing anything good, I'm lashing out on others.
Whenever I try to make a friend I end up being selfish, and I hurt them
I can't make friends, but I still need them.
I've been alone almost all of my life, nobody cares about me, how do someone like me function without any of the important feelings that everyone gets? love, kindness, joy, enthusiasm, passion, ambition, humanly connection with others, nostalgia (As I never had good childhood memories, never went to any parks, zoos, oceans, traveling for fun, cinemas, or any of those places that are memorable memories for people in their childhood), and hope.
I just wanted a hug for too too long, ever since I was a child, but nobody gave it to me, and now I'm a broken guy reaching adult age, and I will be blamed for my trauma as if I chose this.
Unloved by parents, siblings, and everyone else who starts to know me hates me, in one way or another.
2 failed relationships, 1 blocked me, and one cheated on me
I tried making a friend here, and I ended up hurting them, and now they dislike me.
I wonder when they'll either block me, or use me for being too weak, I just don't think that they'll treat me any well after being this vulnerable to them, especially when they have issues themselves that could lead them to using me, or hurting me, and I understand that.
I'm already a failure of becoming a man, and even a human being.
Just a narcissistic who pretends to care.
And I don't know what to do.
Don't even have money for therapy, and I'm too broken to even go into this journey of college and jobs, I can barely survive while I'm with myself.
I literally wrote this an hour before a final exam that I barely studied for, I didn't even know what was the subject till I checked it last night.
People say that men can show their emotions, but that is a pathetic lie that gets told, just to pretend that we're equal, but nobody actually cares when a guy shows their emotions, unless they have a good amount in their bank account, or I guess a fancy wolf cut, or a six pack.
@sensitivePal85266 Hi~ I'm a listener here. Seems like you're going through a lot and it is a really good thing that you are trying to understand the issues. Understanding the problem is the first step to finding a solution. Feel free to talk to me if you need support. I'll gladly lend an ear)
Thanks for your offer, but you are on an adult account, and I'm still a teen.
It's not possible
@sensitivePal85266 Oh, I see. I hope you get better. Maybe you can find another teen listener)
It's me exactly pal. We're in the same boat!! :- )
Aw. Sending hugs to you!
@sensitivePal85266 thank you for sharing. It's helpful to a certain degree to read someone else's point of view on their struggle or situation in life. I am going to feed off of what you shared and use it to not feel like I am the only one suffering or struggling in life. Will use this as a steppingstone as I reach for a better version of myself. I know that you have it in you to use someone else's story or perspective in life to your advantage. In many ways we are getting closer every day, closer to what? Well, that is what I am about to find out.
I know it seems daunting. You sound young and have lots of opportunities ahead of you. At your age these setbacks while difficult to undertake are part of evolving as a human being. I envy you to be honest because I’m in my early 50s and am feeling the exact same way your are describing. Biggest difference between you and me is that you still have time on your side while I’m running out of it. There’s a whole world out there to explore and experience. Your turn will eventually come at the most unexpected time. Best thing to do is experiment with things to do until you find something that keeps your interest. When you find it, run with it to keep your mind occupied.
You have been through, a very hard life m8 . But you have come through it. Feelings are sometimes hard, to describe and when we are starved of love.
it carries into adult hood. It is something that cannot be undone. Hear at 7 cups we are very friendly and supportive, so come talk here in the safety of our app.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way right now. Loneliness and feeling unloved can be incredibly painful, and it’s hard to carry that weight. But I want to remind you that your feelings are valid, and you don’t have to go through this alone.
Even when it feels like there’s no one there, it’s important to remember that your worth isn’t determined by others’ actions or attention. Sometimes, the smallest things can help, like reaching out to someone, even just a friend, or finding ways to care for yourself in little moments.
Remember, these feelings can shift over time. It’s okay to take things one day at a time and lean into what brings you some peace, even if it’s just a tiny bit. You don’t have to have everything figured out right now—just keep moving forward, even if it’s in small steps. When you’re ready, talking to someone about how you’re feeling might help lighten the load. Letting go of people who drain you and focusing on those who lift you up can also make a big difference.
You are worthy of love, and you deserve to feel connected to others and to yourself. Keep going, even if it’s hard, and be kind to yourself in the process. There are people out there who care more than you realize. You’re always welcome to reach out to me if you’d like to talk. Best wishes!
Consider This:
I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m advising you, but your post really caught my attention, and I couldn’t ignore some of the words you’re using toward yourself. If you were speaking to a friend, would you say those things to them? Sometimes, the way we talk to ourselves can be influenced by old patterns or past hurt, but you deserve kindness and understanding—especially from yourself. It's okay to be gentle with yourself, even if it feels difficult. Healing can take time, but you are worthy of care and compassion, both from others and from yourself. How are you feeling right now after reading all of the support here?
@Serenity824
I apologize for the late reply, your comment seems to be not visible through the app, and it showed up on the browser.
First of all, there seems to be lack of listeners, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone.
I had a chat with 2 listeners by far.
The first one disappeared for quite a time, and the second one is there, but they haven't checked on me for more than a week, and that just makes me not want to talk with them.
Because I just feel that my issues are small compared to others on here, despite of the negative emotions that hinders me.
I did find a friend though outside of the app, but they seem to be busy a lot with studying, and I also feel hesitant to be vulnerable with them, because I tend to talk bad about myself without being aware of it.
I become hopeless more and more by time, the last relationship event created a deep issue for me in how I perceive relationships.
I know I should love myself first and do self care stuff, but I just feel like I have no energy for anything, I burn out quickly, lack sleep, and I keep falling into my addiction no matter how hard I acknowledge it, and attempt to stop it.
Well about your last question, if I feel better from the comments I saw here, the short answer is no.
Posting here was just an attempt to feel a connection with others, but in reality it felt to me that I'm seeking attention, and I just wanna hear nice words from random people instead of actually fixing my own issues.
Perhaps it's playing the victim thing.
I don't know, but all I know is that the pain lingers inside of me, in my heart, and the heavy weight that's always on my chest.
The only thing I'm aware of that could help me, is a hug.
But I have no possible way to get that from anyone, so that's out of order.
But when it comes to the internet, I don't know what can help me.
I don't know if healing comforting words a lot makes me feel better, nor getting advices on how to fix my life.
Words just don't hit, and advices seems off because I don't feel like I really wanna help myself.
The negative feelings are just too heavy on me, it prevents me from trying anything for myself.
People telling me to love myself is like telling me to run with a huge heavy bag on my back, which makes me already suffer trying to walk, nontheless run.
I don't know what I really want, and I'm not sure if talking to someone about my problems helps, or if it even makes it worse.
I would appreciate giving it a try to talk with you.
And thank you for your message.
Like you, I want nothing more than a warm, safe, caring hug. I understand what feelings you may be experiencing, although I do not take it upon myself to assess the depth of your experiences. I also don't want to tell you about hope and stuff, knowing that it's unlikely to help. I just want to wish you that someone would appear in your life, someone who could help you.
@blueFan5032
Thank you for your comment.
Although, the whole thing with the topic of "Wait for someone to save you* doesn't seem right I guess.
They say, love yourself first, then the right person will come to you.
But they dont understand, that I'm unable to love myself just for the sake of myself.
In my 2 relationships, I tried everything for them, being the unconditional lover nice guy, who gets nothing in return.(Which I found out later that it's very unattractive to be this forgiving, and nice)
They used me for that and then left me. (The second ex cheated and reacted very cruel with it after, so I left her myself)
I always had the will and the energy to do something good when I had someone I love waiting for me out there you know?
Most people who got in a good point in life did it for someone, like their family, parents, partner, children, maybe their friends.
But I just don't have that "someone"
I tried becoming friends with like 8 plus people ever since the breakup incident(2 from here actually, but they just avoided me), right now only 1 stayed, and obviously having only 1 person is not possible to rely on, it creates a bad attachment on my side, and it's unfair for them.
Getting back to the first point, I originally wished for that too, for someone to come and actually give a bare minimum amount of care, makes me feel loved, to keep going, and a male friend who's not the kind to pull me down with his negative energy, and doesn't talk about useless stuff all the time.
But in reality, I'm not sure if it's possible.
Maybe it is, but that will certainly take years to find.
A good partner, and a good friend.
@sensitivePal85266
Capitalism is isolating. I’m sorry you feel that way. It’s by design.
