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How do I keep doing this?
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I’m getting weary and feel stuck. I can’t seem to have any luck finding or staying in long term relationships (it’s hard to even find one to begin with). yet I feel the need to have someone close in my life. The only pattern I see here is that I’m the common denominator in all these but am having difficulty seeing what I’m doing wrong. I know and believe that I’m a good guy, solid, established, loyal, honest and all that. I really feel discouraged and depressed.
Is ADHD an excuse?
ADHD Support / by 1in8billion
Last post
 November 3rd
...See more I am in a relationship with a lady. We both have ADHD. She was diagnosed more recently than me. We are both in our early 50s. She says that I use ADHD as an excuse for not adopting and changing habits quickly. She says that I’m not open to change. I say that I am open but slow to change. I believe I’ve adapted ways and routines over my lifetime that give me the stability and structure that I need to keep me from being overwhelmed and anxious. She says I’m just using it as an excuse. This bothers me as this implies that the excuse as a negative connotation and I certainly believe that I’m not a negative person in general. Yes, I’ve had a discussion with her about it and she says she sees where I’m coming from but she still brings it up from time to time. Any thoughts? Am I off basis?
Just need to vent
Depression Support / by 1in8billion
Last post
 September 6th
...See more I feel like I’ve had to struggle hard to achieve anything in life and I still don’t t get the results I desire. I’m not looking for fame and fortune but want to live comfortable and relatively stress free. I’m getting old and tired and feel like I can’t stand this feeling anymore. I’ve lived an honest and humbling life yet I can never seem to get ahead. I’m approaching mid fifties so a lot of time has passed and don’t know how more time I have left. these past few weeks have been especilly hard for some reason. I randomly almost break out in tears.
How did it happen?
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 August 1st
...See more I’m trying to understand how I fell so fast and so hard for someone I met last year. I was married for 20 some years and have been separated for about 6 now. I’ve dated on/off during that time. Last year I met someone and I somehow got caught up in a deep attraction to her. Not just appearance but also for who she is. None of the other girls I dated before her have had such a strong effect on me like she does. I have never felt this way about someone before and I cannot get her out of my thoughts. I dream and long to be in a LTR with her but that isn’t what she wants and feels about me. I am trying to let her go emotionally but it’s very hard for me to do. I know it’s the right thing to do but my heart tells me to keep holding on. You would think that at my age I should know better and be an adult about all this. What is going on and how do I carry on with my life with this hovering above me?
It’s done
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 July 25th
...See more I finally accepted that fact that the girl I’ve been seeing for the last year doesn’t want a long term committed relationship. It has been an extremely difficult thing to do and I’m not sure how to move forward. For the first time in my life (I’m in my early 50’s, divorced after 20 some years) I thought I found someone that fit all the criteria that I wanted in a partner. I’ve never loved and wanted to be with someone so badly in my life so this realization is hitting very hard. I know it will take time but I don’t think I’m going to handle it well in the meantime. I really don’t have anyone else to go to with this so I came here just to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading.
It hurts
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 June 19th
...See more I’m sure the feelings I have for her is true love. I have never felt this way for anyone before. She just wants to be exclusive companions with benefits. I need to let her go because I want more. She doesn’t want expectations of a long term relationship. I know I can’t keep going on like this and it hurts me deeply to even think of letting her go. I don’t. Know what to do or how to handle this.
Separation and legal divorce
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 April 25th
...See more I’ve been separated for about 6-7 years now. We have both moved on in our lives doing our own thing and co-parented our two kids who are legal adults now. In my mind there no intentions of getting back with but we are still legally married on paper. We have both been too preoccupied with our lives that we just haven’t gone to that step yet. When it comes to moving on, how do (specifically women) see the legal part of not being fully/legally divorced? Some see it as still being married and that it’s wrong if you start seeing someone no matter how long you’ve been apart. We are some of your thoughts on this?
How can life/fate be so cruel?
Relationship Stress / by 1in8billion
Last post
 February 29th
...See more I just want to get this thought out there…. I met someone earlier this year. To me everything was meant to be. What drew us together was a list of unique coincidences and parallels that to me suggested we were meant to meet. We have both become very comfortable with each other and being with her gives me a sense of fulfillment unlike anyone else that I’ve been with (I was married for 20 plus years and dated a few ladies in between). Although I don’t really know the true definition of what love is or what it supposed to feel like, I believe that is what is happening to me with her. The twist is that she isn’t sure about a true relationship with me. She has no long term plans and not too sure about being more serious or committed as I am (although she has comitted to being exclusive with me). I am so confused and frustrated that we were brought together by fate only to have this roadblock to what could be a beautiful and wonderful relationship. I’m so down annd frustrated about this and struggle with why fate is taunting me by dangling this carrot in front of me.
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