Nicknames and boundaries!
Hey whoever comes across this, I would just like to ask people to stick to calling me Luna, some of you have nicknames for me which im mainly comfy with, if you have a nickname that you would like to call me then please may you ask me first. Also may people not call me unusual terms in chat rooms for instance calling me "dear" whilst it can be a nice name to call someone I do find that it's creepy when people call it me and makes me really uncomfortable.
I do not mind if people call me "buddy" or "friend" as long as I know you and we have become close, but please refrain from calling me that if its our first time talking or if I barely know you and if your not sure then feel free to ask. I promise I dont bite 😛❤️
I will be adding nicknames to my bio and who calls me them so if you check and see your name and nickname then you are good to go ❤️
@SparklingLuna Somebody did say to me "OK deer" once but I was in a deer costume crossing a major highway. Not the safest of hobbies. I said hey! Watch your nomenclature you inconsiderate driver. He said hey! Don't call me driver, like I'm a club at a golf course!
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Thank you for this Luna! 💕💖
I love it when people are able to be so honest and clear about boundaries. That is often not easy. Nicely done.
I, too, observed a trend toward people calling me "dear" and I didn't care for it either - but then someone from India explained to me that this term is basically a translation for a something they say all of the time in their culture that has no good equivalent in English. Many translate it as "dear". It's said with positive intent - not with inappropriate closeness. This is how it was explained to me, though I'm sure someone else could explain it far better. In any case, if those using this term are from India, this may be some explanation.
Knowing possible reasons for it may help it feel less creepy, but it doesn't mean you should change your boundaries. You have a right to put them where you need or want them to be and I applaud you for doing so.
@SparklingLuna Perhaps it's more so the intention behind the words. A term of endearment used carelessly feels insulting, belittling, disgusting.