Need Advice...
Hi everyone I need advice on something I did to a friend on accident...
I hurt one of my friends on accident pretty bad by doing something stupid to try and help them but I ended up hurting them. They are upset and hurt and angry and I've lost a friend over something like this before bc I have little to no filter and idk all how go fix that around other ppl and I rlly don't want to lose another one of my best friends because of this thing about me. I also don't know how to make them...less hurt.... and ik it's probably going to take awhile and they might need space but what...all do I do to fix it at least a bit?
Any advice and thoughts would be appreciated and are welcomed!
@Sophia7721
hey I’m sorry that’s a sucky feeling to have I had that before ik 🫂🫂
you could talk to them/write them a letter or note or send a message saying you honestly didn’t mean to and whatever else you would like to say❤️ and ask if they want space maybe, I’m not too sure but there’s no harm in trying this 🤷
time definitely helps too even if it is long n dreary
hugsss ily hope it goes well🫂❤️
@Sophia7721 Hi I’ve just gone through this and have managed to mend my friendship so I can help you! But there are also some other things you need to consider:
How am I feeling without this friendship?
Did the friendship make me feel good? (was it toxic?)
People leave for a reason. Change leads to growth. Maybe if you look on the bright side, the absence of this person is better for you. But in case the friendship was positive for you,
ask yourself what did you do wrong and what you should do to fix it. An apology is a good way to start. If you are worried about being straightforward don’t be, I think it’s a good trait to have (but let’s keep in mind that some things aren’t meant to be shared). All the best :)
xoxo
Lily (14, currently stuck in drama)
@Sophia7721 Like you said in your post, I would recommend that you give your friend some space. Some people just need some time to collect their thoughts and work through the hurt. When you feel like it is a good time, reach out to your friend and simply see how they are doing. It doesn't have to be anything big, just see how their day was. After this, it doesn't hurt to apologize for what you did. If you could meet with your friend face to face, that would be for the best, but if it needs to be over text or phone call that's okay too. I understand that navigating without a filter can be difficult, but you have to navigate that thin line. You don't want to hurt people's feelings, however, you also want to be true to yourself and how you feel about things. I think that it comes down to getting into the habit of thinking through what you're going to say before you speak. If you think that what you're about to say might hurt someone, then take a moment to modify what you're going to say. I want you to know that you are not alone in this situation! Things will get better! I hope this helps!
