I think it's unfair how people who hurted me happy while I'm not
everyday I need to remind myself it's okay, I will heal, but then it ends up being my doubt and fear. I still can feel the trauma, and I usually avoid that feeling. iT's unfair.. I want to let go. Are letting go and avoiding the same? They kinda feel the same to me 😕🙏 I don't want to be reminded of that traumatic betrayal ..Can you guys share some tips for me to make peace with myself? thanks in advance.
@hopefulencounter Letting go and avoiding are definitely not the same. Unfortunately, what I've found to work the best is if this is eating at you, you SHOULD let yourself dive into it (as long as you are not a threat to yourself or others). Journal, meditate on it, vent to a friend or the wall or on here, vent through something creative if you can, just explore it and feel the feelings. It might feel like torture, but you can't maintain one emotional state forever and it WILL pass. Then, you can start actually trying to move on. Find distractions that build you back up- who are you? what do you love about yourself? what do you like to do? Think about the future (positively) and reach out to other people. If the trauma keeps following you around, give it the finger and get your feelings out by exercising or doing the opposite of what your fears are holding you back from. Try not to isolate. You deserve the sunshine of this world.
@determinedSea4370 thank you so much for replying to my thread, I really appreciate your kind motivational words 🫶. I've tried listening to affirmations lately, it's really annoying when I got triggered again though 😔. The event already happened months ago but I'm still hurting. I really hope this year I can finally move on from this sadness, maybe it's better if I ignore this person who's bad but seem successful if compared to me..
@hopefulencounter I wouldn't aim to move on from the sadness, but rather, to be able to grow around it and make it less and less painful to yourself to bear. I'm glad you are listening to affirmations! If this person is weighing you down and affecting you negatively and you CAN avoid them, then I say do it. Avoiding them could help you not compare yourself to them too.
@determinedSea4370 thanks again, I will try my best. I know this feeling won't last forever , I need to learn forgiving myself and accepting the situation 😄. I will surely avoid this person, thank you. Maybe one day I'll be able to forgive then forget them completely..