I feel lonely
Tomorrow is my birthday but I’m really sad and I feel like I have never belong anywhere, I’m about to turn 17 but I’m so scared I wish I never existed, why do I have to be so complicated, never had a good friend and never had any sort of relationship or anything thin romantic, I feel like I have been losing my life Im supposed to have fun but I’m here being pathetic and depressed, I have a good life but never has any deep connection where I can be honest and not feel judge, I just want to be happy I’m so done with everything.
You can talk to me if you want
Heyy
Happy belated birthday!
I don’t know if what I say next will be helpful to you in your situation, so here I go:
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is go forwards and continue in spite of what is going on. Doing so while you make room for kindness and warmth for yourself.
I’m a sucker for existentialism as a philosophical view that helps me make sense of the world when so many things suck; a short explanation is that things can be, for whatever reason, ridiculous and awful but the only thing that we can do is continue living and make meaning through action. The more positive the better in my opinion.
So take care of yourself and be gentle and kind.
@moonoquq I felt the same at 16 (started antidepressants). Even tho I too had a pretty “good” life with friends and academic success. I hoped for my life to be like a time lapse until I became “happy”… 23 now. Pushed away all my friends and my motivation for goals I had as a child seem even harder now. Feels like I dreamt my way through past 7 years at university and work (banking). Starting to realize the journey is what makes life worth living, not the ultimate goal. Try to reevaluate your situation and find the things that make u happy instead of hoping for a singular event or goal to change things for the better.
@moonoquq Happy birthday!! and trust the process what is meant for you will always find you
Don't worry
@moonoquq
Hey there, first off, happy birthday. I know it might not feel like a celebration right now, but 17 is a new chapter, and you deserve to step into it with hope, even if it feels tough.
It’s okay to feel complicated; life isn’t a straight line, and sometimes the best people are those who feel things deeply. It means you’re human, and that’s not a bad thing, I promise. Not having found your people or those connections yet doesn’t mean you never will – sometimes, the universe is just waiting for the right moment to introduce you to those who’ll truly understand and cherish you for who you are.
You’re not pathetic; you’re someone who’s wants something real, and that’s one of the most beautiful things about you. It’s easy to feel like you’re losing time or missing out, but everyone’s journey is different, and there’s no one way to live or be happy and even though it's different many of us are here to tag along with you. The fact that you’re here, sharing this, speaks volumes about your strength and courage. You're not alone – and trust me, your story is still unfolding, with all its ups and downs and in all the ups soak up the view and in all the downs you'll find the support here and the hands to uplift you again on top.
On this birthday, I hope you give yourself the gift of patience. The world hasn’t seen all the incredible things you have to offer yet, and I’m genuinely excited for the day you’ll look back and realize how far you’ve come. You matter, more than you know. So, let’s take a deep breath together, okay? You’ve got this, and brighter days are waiting for you 💛. We got this! 💚
@moonoquq You will be happy. 17 is a very hard year. Life has so much to offer and you will begin a new chapter. Life changes, you change, do do not worry the best years are to come. :) hold tight and continue to learn what you want. Give what you want. Find like minded people to share with.
@moonoquq cheer up❤️ Advance Happy Birthday!!
Hi Valeria,
Happy Birthday dear friend.
When I was 17, I had very similar feelings to you.
I was always sick and in pain and suffered from very bad depression. I can tell you my experience that things won’t always be the same in life. Things will get better for you. 🫂 I know it’s hard to see how right now but have faith and keep on going. I am proud of you for living dear. 🫂🌹
There are so many people here on 7cups who are sending you good thoughts, support and encouragement because they see a lovely person in you. Please please please, work on accepting yourself and treating yourself with respect, kindness and love. You deserve that. Especially from yourself. See the beautiful qualities you possess dear.
For me, life is about experience. Experience can be good or bad but in both instances, experience ensures you grow and Iearn about your humanity. I know bad experiences don’t seem like they have any good things about them when you’re going through them but my bad experiences have taught me so much and I am a better person because of going through them. It’s only later on after you’ve gone through them when you can see and understand why you went through them and how they have shaped you. Im most cases, for the better.
I hope that you become less fearful of life by replacing fear with faith and hope for a fulfilling and wonderful life. You don’t need to be afraid dear. You are capable of facing anything life throws at you.
How we think governs how we feel my dear friend. This means you have the power and control to change the way you think to thoughts that can help you overcome challenges in life. Isn’t that great? 😊
I hope your life is filled with many good experiences dear. May you have a fulfilling life filled with lots of love and joy and happiness.
Please contact me if you feel you need a friend or someone just to listen to you or even just to chat with.
Wishing you happiness and fulfilling and exciting future dear Valeria. 🫂🌹