friendship rarely last for me
I don't know why is it so hard for me to maintain friendship. I always try to be good with my friends, I helped them, I always replied to their messages.. I joke with them, but what usually happened is that that friendship doesn't last for long. And that made me feel like a bad person, weird person 😕.. I feel too scared to trust new bond now, I'm afraid they'll just leave me again in the end when they already feel bored of me. Maybe it's just me who overthinks too much, but maybe it's true. Idk, my negative thoughts win a lot..
@hopefulencounter
The same thing is happening with me as well. Idk why friendships tend to end soon 😕
@frothyFriend147 what's for sure is that sucks 😔
@hopefulencounter
Right
I hope things will get better for us
I hope things will be better soon for both of us 🫂
Heyy!
I am someone who constantly face that, you put all the efforts, and in the end they are like yeah we are just friends, not that close or so. It's frustrating, you lose confidence and morale. But time is the biggest healer and trust me you WILL meet people who are never gonna take you granted and love your company. It seems like a hoax at first, but honestly, once you start diverting your overthinking and stop looping the bad scenarios or the past, gradually you'll overcome this sick feeling and as I say, you will meet your peeps, just some people meet them bit later. You'll do good! :)
aww thank you so much for telling me this. I'm the type of person who always replied to chats 😟. It irks me when they suddenly stopped replying ....it made me overthink a lot. I really want to leave this friendship group, but everytime I want to leave, they told me to stay.. but then ignored me again, I'm so confused. I do hope there's still chance for me to meet better people 🙏
@hopefulencounter I am overthinker too, a total maniac to be honest. The best that works for me is talk to someone who is completely unrelated from your social circle about completely random things, you won't even realize that you have already entered an engaging conversation and your mind was off that troubling topic. Although it may kick in back again once that breeze has left, but consistency of such breezes (in the form of ways you distract yourself, could be anything) everyday will do wonders and you'll be in much better place with much better people.
@hopefulencounter
It sounds like you are care about being a great friend already, you don't seem at all like a bad person. Relationships are complicated, and I think part of the reason many of us are feeling lonely is because our society is becoming more independent, but also less sociable. I don't think you're the only one feeling like this. I personally know wonderful people who just don't have much luck making friends. I hope you keep trying and find someone you can establish a good friendship with.
@amarillowhite thank you for your kind words 😭 I really appreciate your words! I agree with you, people are more independent now. I'll continue to believe I still have a chance to meet better people in the future 😔🙏. It's really tiring when I tried to build a friendship but then they left..
@hopefulencounter
I understand. I had this person I really wanted to be friends with, when we were together I thought we had good chemistry, but then they wouldn't reach out to me. I felt very sad, I thought there was something wrong with me. Looking back, I think they did like me, they just weren't open to making more friends.
