What is one thing you admire in a family member?
Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. We have discussed many times how our needs were not met or what should have changed etc and while all those discussions have their importance and its comforting to know we are not alone in our traumatic experiences but sometimes we tend to see the world with a negative filter and forget any good that exists.
So when it comes to family relationships, you may have no relationship left with some family members and troubling ones with few but today lets focus on something you admire in any family member, it can be a sibling, parent, aunt/uncle or even a cousin. We are just trying to nudge our brain into thinking more about the grey areas of life.
@Hope
My siblings. Everything about them I admire, and I know that's a little cheesy to say but we've been through so much together. We all started off hating each other and physically or emotionally hurting one another with such malice and hatred. After a while of that we realized we were all just traumatized and hurt and that we had a lot more in common than we thought. That's when we started getting closer and actually understanding each other's pain. Now, I can honestly say I would take a bullet for any one of my siblings. I love each and every one of them. I can be myself around them and they can be themselves around me, we're free to drop the masks that are constantly being shoved on our faces. And I think that's what makes our relationship special, we can be free. Our whole lives we were told to act a certain way. One sibling was told to be perfect and always smile. The other was told to be loud and bold. I was told to keep still and be quiet. Another sibling would be told to stay home. We each had our own handcrafted mask given to us by our parents and our community, and we had no other option but to put them on. But when we're together we can be comfortable, laugh, cry, and show our true selves as we wish. So yeah, it's safe to say those annoying brats make me happy and one of the reasons I haven't given up.
@JollyRacher
Hi Jolly, this a great Read. I am so happy for you and your siblings that you´ve managed to come to terms with who you guys are through honest discours. It is amazing to me what kind of roads we take to get where we need to get. Every story is different, yet they´re all interesting.
I can imagine what kind of a special bond you share with you´re siblings, now that you have talked "everything" (Respectively) out, or at least spoken stuff out to an extend that all of you know the others as far that it is normal to be the normal self. Authentic and honest, uninfluenced and disinhibited! To be able to speak your hearts out, to behave like you dream it and to life like you mean it - That is great stuff. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you and your siblings all the best for the future.
