Having an issues
My sister is 12. When things don't go her way, she gets petty and upset. Today, she took one of my figurines and did something with it. I can't find it and it's one that doesn't fall (and if it does it's usually on my bed). I know the youngest didn't take it because he tells us that he did it once we notice. She on the other hand will lie until it's about forgotten and will slip up on it.
I did confront her and told her that I do not like that. That it's not nice not right for her to do that just because she's mad and didn't get her way. Bringing up the phrase "Treat people how you want to be treated". I'm genuinely very upset and disappointed because I trusted them to not touch my stuff or do me dirty like that since I don't do that to them either. They know I don't mind it as long as they ask or tell me and put it back. I make sure to do the same.
At the moment, I'm letting my anger settle and I'll retalk with her another time. What more can I do, especially to not escalate the situation?
@SweetSugarBoost
I would just talk to her nicely. Try to get your parents involved if you can. Best of luck! :)
@SweetSugarBoost
you have a younger sister and you find her disturbing you by using your items, it seems that a common situation between sisters, setting healthy boundaries could help, and try to regulate your emotions when something wrong happens
with time you will appreciate that you have a sister who could be the best friend ever
@SweetSugarBoost
I would talked to her nicely and calmly and see where she is coming from. If things escalate or if you think the best option is to get your parents involved that is an option as well! good luck!
@SweetSugarBoost
Oh yeah, sounds they’re going through their preteen experience of testing limits and rules in a rowdy way. Thank you for taking consideration of your emotions, and the possible impact it can have on creating a healthy bond. I’m glad to see threads like this! Has communication-focused activity been considered? Can be in the form of a game or a small activity with rewards!
Playing free (or paid) games that requires teamwork, discussing strategy, and keeping note on strengths can be a decent way to gain interest without making it feel unnatural.
If able to leave house, feel free to play scavenger hunt and set out hints and clues to find a prize or special object. Goal is engagement and communication skill building! ❤️
1. I would protect my things by getting them out of reach even by locking them up if i have to.
2. I would put one thing out i do not value a lot knowing it might get stolen to tempt them to ask for permission.
3. Permission were not sought and the item was again stolen i would put keep them all away for a week and then try w one thing again.
4. I would reward the one who asks by lavishing w praise and occasionally buying them a treat like an ice cream or a small bauble.
5. I would eventually put out one of my valued items once all have demonstrated the of asking for permission and returning the item undamaged for a month or so.
@SweetSugarBoost maybe looking for attention, my son has hiis days
@SweetSugarBoostgreat
Maybe she's not lying, and the youngest did?
