trying to love someone with severe depression

@helpfulPond3973 I've been that guy so maybe I can relate to what he might be doing. I might not be able to understand of what he might be going but I'll be assuming here. Just want to know do you think he thinks you wont be able to understand of what he'll saying?

@LightYagami666

he knows that I try to understand him and what he's going through. He told me before that no one would be able to actually understand him because they've never been in his place or experienced his trauma.

@helpfulPond3973

With my self it is the opposite,i can see that my bf is now drained....i still push and push💔

@helpfulPond3973 I have depression and do my very best not to push my s/o away. I'm open about my feelings, but he gets drained after a while. Then I turn to other sources of support that I often forget I have. It's okay to not be the sole support for him. He needs to reach out to others if at all possible, it will help.

Hello @helpfulPond3973

It sounds like you have been trying to make this relationship work but are struggling. I'm sorry you are dealing with this, I can't imagine how it feels. I don't have any experience with something like this, but I'm sure there is someone out there who does have experience. If you need to talk to someone about this, feel free to connect with a listener <3

@helpfulPond3973 It is like you are telling me my own love story lol I am currently barely in a better spot. I want to offer you some hope. His depression will never be cured. You don't need to fix him. You can't be his therapist. You just sitting there whether or not he hugs you helps him trust me. THIS PART IS THE HARDEST PART. But, if he shuts you out, give him space. Check up on him ONCE a week even as a friend. Ask him hows his week been? It reminds him that you stick around because you know he's not gonna be sick forever. You being a friend helps him. You wanting to stick around for helps him. I think of it as: "if my child needs a wheelchair, would I leave them" the answer is NO. I think of a lot of scenarios too. Not just one. I suggest you write down how you feel about this person.

@independentLion2898 thank you for replying, unfortunately my situation has only gotten a lot more complicated. He called me extremely drunk and confessed he's in a serious relationship but still in love with me and I'm not on speaking terms with him in any way. I'm pretty sure he has more than just major depression and also PTSD or even BPD. Right now I'm just trying to find a way to move on because it's clear that my presence isn't needed. I wish he would at least let me try to support him but he makes that decision for me and I have no option but to not be in his life.

@helpfulPond3973

WOW I'm sorry this happened. I hope with a lot of self care and self love you will move on. Please take all the time you need if you need to grieve too. You deserve love too

@helpfulPond3973

So true...