How to quit talking about sadness to partner?

@Kay9833

Hello and good morning! Look how kind and considerate you are! You are feeling down and hurt, but you are concerned about your partner. How about trying the 80/20 rule. Switch it up a bit. When your partner asks how your day was, tell him about the sad, exhausting, or bad moments. However let it make up only 80% or less of the conversation. End it on a positive note with about 20% positive. Strive to reduce the 80% negative over time as you also increase the 20% positive. You need to vent. But, by ending on the positive, even it if at first you can only say one positive thing, will make you feel better.

Hope it helps.

@Tricebaby Hi, thank you so much! I

@Kay9833

Oh no problem. Reading your post helped me to remember to do that myself. Sometimes life, and especially this Corona Virus pandemic, keeps us so busy and distracted by problems that we forget about the little positive things in our lives. The 80/20 rule is known in the Early Childhood Field. It is used when conferencing with parents. However it is a bit different. The 80 is positive while the 20 is negative. I find that using it the other way around helps me a lot. I really hope it helps you as well. I kind of forgot about it though. Thanks so much for helping me remember this.