What has loneliness made to you
We all know that loneliness has made things really bad and life much more difficult for all of us. I want to know what has it done to you.
I will start.
because of loneliness I have anxiety, suffer from panic attacks, cannot get a boyfriend or form friendships, cannot identify myself with other people, feel judged all the time, I don't know how to express myself or defend against others, I'm depressed constantly.
@PixelStar
I guess we are in the same boat. I'm in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD & anxiety. I'm already37. How sad to waste all those years not being able to gain much out of life.
I understand your struggles. I'm feel the same way too. I just feel like a complete lost and a loser. It's so degrading when other younger people talk about their love life or social life of whatever and i would be the odd cow in the room.
Then they will ask "what about u? tell me about your boyfriend? or why are you still not married?" Oh!! The pain of loosing my dignity that way i can't seem to describe it.
It's made me self aware.
for me, it gave me an oppurtunity to look deeper within myself and start the journey of self development. it wasnt until i was truely alone is when i realized what kind of person i was and what i needed to do to improve.
It has made me depressed and socially anxious which in turn has stopped me from getting anywhere in life.
@ThomasHs
Me too!. It's not like we never tried. But what is the point if society just wouldn't except us the way we are? Instead we get pushed aside.
Eventhough i have found 3 of the main reasons why i have been lonely my whole life, it still doesn't give me much hope to change it, because i guess it's just fate. If i had the ability to do so, i would not have wasted decades of my life and choose to suffer now would i?
@Kate30 yeah. I believe my main reason is that i have autism. I'm currently waiting on getting diagnosed, but if I have it, it's not something that can be cured..
@ThomasHs
Good to know you are being diagnosed as well. I guess it's the least we can do. So if you do have it do you need medication or therapy? For me I would need both. And yeah, it's something we have to live with...
@Kate30 I'd need some kind of social training I guess. I've tried multiple medications and different therapies, but none of it has helped. It's the loneliness and feeling of not being able to relate to others that is causing my depression.
@ThomasHs
I guess that goes the same for me. Having any kind of disorder effects a person's self-esteem and self-worth tremendoesly. What more when there is lack or no emotional or moral support. Dealing with it alone with out family or friends is too big of a burden.
As for me my immediate family has never been close with one another. No love exist even with other family members like aunts or cousins. So this lack of socializing and communicating and love has been going on forever.
That it self has been hard on me and my social skills till now cause whatever your family situation is, you have to deal with it the rest of your life. It will not change.
Being introverted also is pain. I didn't know that ADHD also effects a person's social life but now i do.
An INTJ-A and they feed off each other.
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It made me this. Go on and tell about yourself in detail.
@PixelStar
It makes me suicidal, self-harm, depressed, and keep hating myself..
@Athilahbliss34
I feel the same way.
@Athilahbliss34
I don't hate myself. I guess when you are older you have less energy to be hateful? I just don't know how to love myself.
My therapist said that emotional abuse is the worst kind of abuse. 1 of the main reason of my loneliness is being brought up by parents who don't love me. Showed no words and loving effection. I was just there alone and unloved.
Not everybody who has this kind of upbringing would end up like me. Some are able to build a better life and family of their own like my other siblings. But other don't. So i belong to the latter.
I don't know why but i always end up with having all the lower hand liabities while others seems to have more upper hands then they need.
Depression
inability to talk
It made me thinking that...
there's something wrong with me.
I don't need anyone else because everyone is fake
I can be by myself just ok
it made me not trust anyone
it made me very observant of things
it made me uninterested in other people
made me think a lot about everything
it made me able to not rely on anyone else but solve problems by myself
and also cry a lot
@eisan
I experienced the same all this month. My friends are showing their true colours
@eisan Same here! Keep up bro!
