How do you learn to trust people?
Does anyone ever feel like you can't trust people around you? There's only one person I trust (my boyfriend), but it'd be better if I had a larger support network. I do have some friends, but I've never had the kind of friendship in which we talk about how we feel. Sometimes I think I can deal with things by myself, but when things get really bad I find myself unable to cope and with no one to turn to for help. But I feel like I can't be more open with people.
Have you ever felt this way? How did you learn to be more open with people around you?
Interesting question. I don't think I trust anyone 100%. But I don't think I trust anyone 0% either. I think I trust everyone, but different percentages. Because of your openness in writing this I think I would trust you quite a lot. And that's a strange thing to say because you say feel you can't be open with people!
@carmela30
@RarelyCharlie I agree with you, I think I do trust people to a certain degree. But I wish I had more people irl to trust with a few personal things, maybe talk about feelings and problems.
It took me a while to start posting here, but maybe online anonymity and the fact that we're all here to give or get support and connect with others makes it easier to open up.
@carmela30
I've wondered that myself. I have a very hard time trusting people due to boyfriends lying and cheating on me; my brothers and sister lied and generally treated me badly when we were growing up; and my mother is a narcissist who loves to pretend to be my friend, but inevitably twists her words around to suit her own purposes and bend me to what she wants me to be.
Anyone know how to work on trust?
@CleopatraElizabethI Yea that sounds like my mother! She used to tell me when I was a child to never trust men b/c they are good for nothing except to procreate, yet she was conniving herself. From my 30 years of life, I learned that you can tell right away when you meet a person if they're a bunch of bullshit or they're a sincere individual. When it comes to family, it's a little harder. You already know your family and the way that they are, so it's basically your decision if you want to give them a chance or not. With the opposite sex, I believe in waiting a little bit before telling them too much about yourself. I don't trust men so easily. That is my problem.
You should trust people but at the same time realize that no one is perfect and our closest people will hurt us the most...forgive everyone a head of time and don't let human imperfection harden your heart and cause you to close off...keep loving and be the light you'd like to see in others. Share your most private thoughts with god and ask for guidance..he's the only one who will never betray and won't put anything in your life you can't handle.