Feeling awful and alone
So my first born just graduated. It has me in all kinds of moods right now. I am feeling so depressed and alone in this. I know it’s a happy time, but all I can do is cry. Time went by way to fast. My child just did everything all at once: graduated, got a job, and is in a new relationship.
So a little background about my child: My child loves doing stuff with me, and always has. Or at least did, until the new person in my child’s life pretty much stopped it.
A little more to that story- my child’s new beau has been putting stuff in my child’s head and saying stuff like you need to do this, or you need to do that. And don’t go do that, go do this. I’ve heard it without my child knowing I did (I wasn’t spying, I overheard it). And of course being the person my child is, my child will go along with them. It might be because of being afraid to “lose” this new beau.
I had a feeling about this person before they started dating. It was all bad energy. I am able to read people really, really well. There have been multiple situations where I have done the same and I ended up being right about them.
I know this is not the right relationship for my child. And I know I can’t say you can’t date them. This is especially not the right relationship if someone is going to manipulate my child into doing or not doing stuff. I’m honestly afraid of the new beau turning my child against me. And I can not “mind my own business” in this sort of situation. I’m not going to let my child be hurt or worse.
Anyone else have this happen? What did you do if you have?
Oh, and I have already talked with my child about this and how I feel, except for coming out and literally saying I don’t think they are right for you. I don’t want to push my child away either. This is killing me.